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ok so this is turning into a 'how many posts can PAP do in one day'day!!! LOL!
But I have to share my great news - from Monday N will no longer be at that FDCer..... had a good meeting, i was so honest (read: blunt) with her that she just realised she had to move him... so for the next 6 weeks he will be at my faveback up lady (who is about 100mtrs frommy house) as she has a kid overseas atm (and may extend) and then they will either have somewhere else or he will go to the 'cubby house' for the interim while they find me something suitable (the cubby house is their creche, with 10 perm kids only and up to 5 back up - mixed ages etc). after 3 weeks or so i will then be on mat leave so can be more flexible wrt days (iecan take less than 4) and prob location to some extent... plus by then i am sure they will have some options.. its going to be disruptive but man i feel so much better about it!!! now... i just need to tell her i am terminatingcare - from tomorrow.... help!!!!
yes i am secretly hoping the kid wont come back from oseas and N can stay at my fave lady forever.... there is a chance that trip will be extended (pretty please)!!
so thats my news!!!
MM how did the shopping go!! prob better to lay off the co sleeping til you are UTD i reckon... or am i just majorly uncreative!!!
MD LOL at those grannies!!! btw i also think org vegies taste SO MUCH Better (esp root veg like carrots).
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Oh PP!!! that's an awesome result about the meeting. We'll quietly cross our fingers and hope for an extended OS stay ;)
MD, we have great soil for spuds, but we've only grown them once, for the amount of spuds we use in a week we'd need a whole paddock of them ROFL.
We don't go 100% organic as we will spray for common pests that are also in the paddocks etc but nothing bad. I still think they have a better taste than shop-brought ones. I think the trouble is that most stuff these days is gown hydroponically so there is no earth to give it the flavour you love kwim? I'm tempted to buy some heritage seeds too and grow some old-style varieties but we might do that when we are looking at a second crop.
H, I hope M gets into a better sleeping pattern again for you soon.
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girls i need your advice what i say to her tomorrow...
fdc director said just to say i have spoken with her and i will be moving him from next week...she said be vague about it as they will be addressing issues with her.i would lie and say something like he is staying home with me but she will likely se him at play group (if she bothersto go) so i cant do that. fdc is planning to address a lot of issues with her so they want me to leave it to them.. help!!! i will buy her a lovely partting gift - ideas????
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Just tell her that the other ones suits you better as she is closer and in your advanced state of pg ;) it is easier for you to just take him 100mt up the street instead of driving etc.
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i thought about that sherie but she is also in our suburb...though i could say we are getting rid of our 2nd car and i can walk to this one(though it is only for a few weeks...). i thiought i would say i woudl request her for next baby when s/he is a baby - kid of to save face but also she was great for a small bub. i kind of want her to not feel too bad about it all, she has a realbond with him in her mind and i know she loves him.
the thing is she isnt so bright so i doubt she will analyse anything i say...
i think we will pick him up early and just stop in for a coffee and tell her - i would prefer that than her have him all day when she is angry/upset at me.
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Very tricky one PP. When I terminated care the one and only time I had to, I made it about wanting other kids of the same age as H...sounded pretty thin but I just kept repeating it when she asked what the problem was and then the FDC office dealt with her once we weren't there any more.
Some excuses you could use (if they apply are) she doesn't have an outdoor play area and you want him to have more fresh air/exercise, whatever. OR Just say you think she was a fantastic lovely carer when N was a baby but now you think he needs a "slightly different environment". Or you could just say you've felt uncomfortable for a while and say you need to trust your instincts, cos that gets you off the hook for explaining anything. It's like a "just because" sort of answer...Aw, there's no easy way to do it but you know in your heart you are doing the best thing and she's just going to have to deal with it, kwim? :hug: and I will be thinking of you tmrw (with the tiny little part of brain function that I'll have left over LOL).
TRILL - oh just grow the taters already! We had a huge yield, we planted them pretty close but we got millions, were eating them for months & prolly should've dug them up sooner. In fact the new ppl at our house will prolly be eating them now if they've got any sense!! LOL
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Hi everyone
I've just spent the past hour reading your posts - and i have to say, I don't think there is anything on tv that could have matched the joy I got from reading. (a few down moments too and lots of giggles)
Trill- I loved the poem! I remember when I had to have my mammogram - my boobenheimers aren't incredibly large (ok - i'm as flat as an ironing board :rolleyes:) and i was worried that they wouldn't be able to stay on the metal slab thingy lol
pap - I'm so happy that your FDC issues have been dealt with. That is fabulous news. I bet you fall asleep with a smile on your face tonight.
Clare - I feel so sorry for you :( I hope the pain goes away immediately!!! Glad that your cat is on the mend. WTG on the potty poos. That's fantastic, as many people find it difficult to get their little ones to poo anywhere but their nappy!
Noni- so sorry you're having a hard time at the moment. Try some yoga breathing - breathe in through your nose - really deeply - and imagine the breath travelling through your body - with all of the bad energy being pushed out of your toes - as your breathe out through your nose again. (BTW - that's really good if you're constipated too lol)
Andie - glad you're finding the Sue Dengate book interesting. I have the little card with all of the nasty additives on my fridge. I used to keep it in my purse too for when i went shopping. There is a lot of information to read though isn't there.
Rainy - I had a laugh when you said that L says 'cat' even if he's not looking at a cat. I hope you had a good day with Ange. Hopefully your appointment tomorrow will be beneficial.
Arte - William is a very clever little boy. You're doing a fantastic job with helping him develop his language skills. re your dh - I have the same issues with my dh with regards to cleaning. He is great with spending time with the girls though. Perhaps you need to let him know how you're feeling - throw in a few tears - I find it helps me put my case across. lol. Have you thought of the name Charlotte for a girl. I think it goes beautifully with William. For a boy I love Samuel.
Md - sounds like you are a very busy woman with all of your gardening. Good job :) i hope you get fantastic results .
Hi to everyone I've missed.
My little chicken is giving me curry at the moment. She's climbing out of her cot at sleep time, and pretty much giving me a hard time. I love her to bits, but gee she exhausts me at the moment! We went to the park this morning - and we walked so I could tire her out - I didn't want any issues for rest time. Luckily it worked but she woke after an hour and climbed out of her cot. Just taking each day at a time ;)
btw - thankyou all so much for your kind words re my grandma. I'm actually a bit scared about going back to visit her.
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PMSL Jazmum, I could say the same about your post, especially the boobies being so small they wouldnt stay - trust me I'd have the exact same worry LOL! Oooh does that mean time for a big girls bed, even then she will be escaping even easier, little terrors they are! ;)
PAP - As MD said either way its going to be hard, maybe just tell her simply its time for N to move on to be with children his age & to a carer that has an outdoor area, just be honest, but keep it simple & to the point. Remember you dont have to explain yourself you are his mum! Good luck!!
MD - Good luck for tomorrows appt. Also I bought some seedlings today for my vege garden, & I am going to do some more research on the whole organic thing. I got a couple of bargain tops for myself at the op shop, one is brand new & from forever new. Woo hoo!
Leemar - Hope the swimming lessons went well.
Well I spoke too soon as AF arrived tonight lol. Whats the chances seeing as I have been wondering & waiting for weeks & when I finally speak it out loud, there it is. Time to get busy hahahaha just kidding
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MM I learnt pretty much everything I know about organic gardening from watching Gardening Australia on ABC (Friday nights, repeated on Sun Arvo). Peter Cundall is the main veggie man, he is a passionate organic gardener. They have a magazine, and they also have an organic gardening magazine too which could be good for a read. What sort of seedlings did you get?
Jazah - Ah the cot climbing must be exhausting for you! I remember finding this age really exhausting with DD1 - DD2 seems to be a little more compliant or maybe she's just better entertained/distracted by her older sister?? Anyway hang in there, and remember to do something nice for yourself every day. A little filler-upper. :)
PP - thinking of you today, let us know how the news-breaking goes.
AFM - this afternoon I am really looking forward to seeing my new naturopath for the first time! I can just tell she is going to be really helpful and positive. Then tonight I'm heading out for a coffee date sans enfants which will be nice too. I intend to eat cake today. :p (See there's that pairing of healthfood and cake again :lol:).
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Morning everyone :)
Something weird is happening - i read that MD has posted here but i can't see it!
Yoo Hoo where are youuuu?
There you are you cheeky thing!!! hehe (can you tell I didn't get much sleep last night lol)
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hi everyone
thanks for the advice! i think i am going to say i was speaking with fdc about changing days for N when I go on mat leave in a few weeks (she doesnt know when) and I also mentioned that i would like to move him somewhere closer that i can walk to and she mentioned that this has come up... you know what i dont care what message she gets from me, FDC will follow up issues with her and i will have him out by 5pm today! woooo hooooo. my biggest issue is that they go to a play group (fdc run one)on wednesdays (when my current carer actually goes at all) so she will see him there and also the other carer - so i wantr it smooth for that.we thought we would say what a great job she has done with himand how important she has been to himand that we would put our new baby with her when s/he is small (which maybe i would she was excellent with little baby)... i will go around early and takea gift (any ideas)... DH told her this morning i will be coming early for a 'chat' so she knows something is happening...
N had the worst night last night, i dont know what is wrong. i think it is teeth (still?) but the incisors have cut and are slowly descending... so maybe not. he was writhing aro9und and couldnt sleep all night. even in our bed and even after panadol. bit of a worry. he was v emotionally tender last night too, mum was over and she said no to him ina joking way as she often does (ie dont knock over the tower of blocks i just built) and he lost the plot. so unlike him. i was wondering if maybe someone yelled at fdc yesterday (even not at him) as he was not himself.
md enjoy your cake tonight and also the naturopath - i always enjoy natural therapy sessions and feel good after wards(even if not physically more feeling like i am taking some control iykwim?). thinking of you i am sure this is a hard week.
Jaz - so good to hear from you -sounds like miss H is a handful... but you handle her so well.
MM what veg are you planting?
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Pap - I hope it all goes smoothly for you this afternoon. Hannah had a bad night as well. She woke at 1:30 and stayed awake in her cot (managed to keep her in) until 3:30. I have to tell you I was getting quite agitated and may have thrown around a few norty words:rolleyes: I'm hoping it's teeth too.
md - i have posted a song on my FB profile - you may have heard it. I'm not sure whether it is appropriate at this stage - but it inspires me:) ( I run for you )
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Hey everyone,
Sorry havnt been posting much again am just soooo exhausted lately!! Dp is still home and sick dr thinks its some kind of bacterial infection in his stomach yuuuk he better not pass that one on I tell ya!!!
Jaz- wow @ hanna climbing out of her cot!! I have been thinking about putting asha in a bed lately coz its getting hard lifting her in and out but im putting it off coz im worried about her being able to get in and out whenever she pleases ughh how do u deal with that?
Pp- glad ur feeling good about ur fdc decisions.. How's the hips and pelvis going? I have another physio appt tmw joy!!
Md- hope the natropath goes well! Enjoy ur cake hehe mmmmm cake!!
Anyway im off hope everyone else is well :)
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Jaz:
I find to keep Alex in bed during those odd hours is to use his fave DVD's & eventually he will take himself off to sleep.
Charlotte is a beautiful name & I agree that it goes nicely with William.
I've almost finished the Fed UP with ADHD book & am thinking bout getting the plain 'Fed Up' one. I've been on their website & am even thinking about finding a dietician who can help us other than just using the "additvies to avoid" ... which I have started & it does make a difference. Alex isn't running as much at FDC now.
PP:
Awesome to hear your FDC news. Personally, I wouldn't be telling her that you will put the new baby in with her as that is further down the track & when it comes time, you may not go with that option. I think you should keep it as bried & current as possible. Good luck.
Rainy:
I love Lily!, though I would use it as a short version for Lilian.
Arty:
W's tanty!, LOL, totally understand. Jack does them on a regular basis. When it gets too much for me I pick him up & put him in the cot. Though he is at the stage where he does throw things during them.
MD:
I do have a counsellor down here that I saw breifly last year. The inital cost isn't the best but with a medicare rebate it does become rather cheap. I still have some sessions with him the Dr mentioned & we are keeping that avenue opened.
Clare:
Glad to hear both you & your cat are on the mend.
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Jack must be loving daycare as the last two days when I have pulled up he starts to get all excited. Alex isn't but then he hasn't left my side since Sunday night (when I threw up cause I was so nausious from these tablets). Maybe I should reassure him that "mummy's okay".
I'm in a few minds at the moment. & its a bit hard cause I haven't said anything to anyone, but I am thinking of moving back to Brisbane. 1. my job is there 2. alex misses his father 3. now these tablets are kicking in i feel i'm ready 4. i have just found a good nutrician clinic there ... 1. i'm getting life here 2. the boys have a life here & have friends in FDC (& preschool if Alex goes there) 3. the health system is better here for help 4. i just went back on meds
I don't mind talking bout it in here, more of an unbiased atmosphere I guess you could say .. its harder talking to my friends about it cause most of them want me back in Bris anyway ... god, i'm rambling
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Andie, I think that if that is where your life is leading you ATM, then I think you should go back. I know he's not been much help in the past, but maybe there is an option for the Boys' Dad to take them for a day or a few hours to give you some me time to recharge yourself - I know it's been bloody hard work for you to do it on your own and I think you deserve to look after yourself as well. Plus with all your friends there you will be back in your village kwim? They may not be where you are at with kids etc, but just knowing they are able to come and visit and do stuff together will really help your mental well-being too. And the winner in my book is that you will be able to get proper help for Alex without having to travel all the time. But that said, you should definately take a bit of time to think about it more and *know* that you are ready to make the move again :hug:
Noni, that's not good at all! I really hope you girls don't get it and that he is over it soon too.
ROFL Jaz at you maybe having used a few norti words ;) But at that hour of the night being nice doesn't really help much does it? I hope it passes soon for you.
PP, Alister had a bit of trouble getting his eye teeth too and it seemed like they took forever to come down enough to break through, so it could be that. Cause I really hope he wasn't upset about someone yelling at FDC. I hope your Mum didn't feel bad about him getting upset though.
MD, make sure you let us know how you get on with your Naturopath OK?
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Hey Girls,
Noni- yeah hope your DH doesnt pass on his bug to you. Fingers crossed.
Jaz- I am so dreading it when Liv can climb out of her cot.
Pap- Hope all goes well this arvo
Andie- big hugs for you.
MD- enjoy your cake
MM- Swimming went really well. The boys are amazing and Livi loves it too.
Oh but this was a good week most times I end up with someone crying they dont want to do it.
Well all is good the kids are at daycare. Livi loves it in the toddler room and the boys are going up to the preprep room... Leanne sighs.... her babies are growing up. I am going to enroll them in Big Boy school next week for 2011. OMG its so hard to choose a school.. I mean I just want to make the right choice. I have booked them into C & K creche and kindy for next year hoping I will get the 3 day a week spot and when I picked that I chose the one that wasnt on a main road or on a busy corner... I am such a twit I know but I think that If I know they are somewhat safe I will survive the day not worry. Ok to tell the truth I will worry even if I know they are safe.... WTF now I am raving on... Sorry...
Have a wonderful afternoon to all and hello to all that I have missed.
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hi girls
gotta be quick but wanted to tell you i have done it.... fdc lady told!!! it was soooo hard, she started crying.... but i was strong and it was over in 20 mins.
ok will be back later but thought I would tell you it's DONE!
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JaZaH - wowowow - thank you so much hun, I am totally blown away by the power and life in that song! Will definitely download a copy into my ipod so I can sing along whenever I want!! :hug:
PP - WELL DONE. I bet you sleep well tonight hun.
Just a quick one, just wanted to let you all know it went well today and I'm feeling totally on top of it all. Will be having surgery next Mon the 27th and am just glad it's moving forwards. They are chopping out a large chunk but lucky for me there's plenty of boobalubba there so it prolly won't look too bad when they're finished. Lovely surgeon, lovely breast care nurse, the naturopath was SENSATIONAL and what's more I'm having a free brazzie posted out to me. :)
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so glad it went well MD.... enjoy your cake tonight. xxx
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MD- Glad it all went well
Pap- Happy its all over now and you can relax.
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Md - I'm so glad you liked it :) I'd love to be in a crowd where she sings it live. So pleased that everything went well today. You deserve the best healthcare professionals around you - it's great they made you feel at ease. Free Bra - I hope it's pink ;)
pp - glad it's over for you. Sad that she cried - but at least you know she loved your little man while she had him. (hard not to - he's such a little cutiepatootie!)
leanne - hi there!!
I used to like sleep time. Now I dread it. DH is getting her to sleep tonight - thank goodness.
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Jaz- Hi. Hope H goes to sleep quickly tonight.
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hello ladies
md- glad it went well today, do they still make pink tim-tams? if so i may have to indulge, in your honour of course ;)
pap- i can't believe she cried, she must've been really attached to him...awww.
i'm on the highest calorie light n easy so i'm not starving....oh and the fact that i cheat ALL THE TIME..:lol:
andie-why did you move from qld? i'm sure your friends would love to have you back.
sounds like a lot of us are going through teething drama atm. have to say that we have put amber teething necklace on L and it's working wonders.
osteo with J went well today. he was so relaxed and loved it, fell asleep in the osteo's hands. been v relaxed this arvo.
dad bought the boys $200 of clothes from myer. got them matching blue bonds sloppy joe tracksuits- so cute!
had a great time at ange's yesterday, although i have to say the drive was v confronting. i had tears streaming down my face as i saw some of the devastation. it took about an hour and ten mins door to door so i'll def do it again sometime soon, the boys slept the whole way there and back.
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