Trill, I keep going over care arrangements in my head for the birth but nothing works. If I don't get GD then I think we can get my cousin up to look after W for the business end couple of hours, I will just have to put up with her overly chatty 4 year old.
If I have GD and have to go to the hospital 2 hours away then we are stuffed. W can't come, he freaked out when the midwife took my blood pressure yelling 'get it off' over and over lol. He wouldn't be any good seeing me in pain and DH would spend all the time trying to entertain him anyway. Mum can't look after W because DH won't agree to it, he doesn't think she will treat him well enough. He won't go to sleep for anyone and I think would get unconsolably upset after a few hours without DH or myself. And even if DH would agree for mum to look after W for a few hours, she works nights so there is a fair chance she wouldn't even be at home when we needed to go. At this point it all comes down to whether or not I get GD and if I can birth at the local centre or have to go to hospital as to DH being there. Sorry for the big rant, it is circling in my head and is sooo frustrating. Plus if I have GD I will probably have to go down to mums from 38 weeks to have monitoring at the hospital every second day, with no one to watch W and DH over 2 hours away. Yay. I hate living so far away from family that W doesn't have a good enough relationship with any of them that he can be left with them.
Isn't it amazing the stuff they can come out with! Last night W saw the pajamas coming and declared "not going sleep!" lol He has started sitting by himself 'reading' his books, looking at the pictures and trying to recite the story.
MD, forgot to mention the sympathy on the dinner time tanties. Happening here too. I don't think it is any coincidence that they started up again right when DH started coming to bed with us. Now the second we sit down to dinner he is off his chair crying and tugging at me saying 'mum come, mum pick William up, cuddle mum....' it is obvious he wants my exclusive attention. I cracked it last night and strapped him in to his booster seat, he can bloody well sit there and squawk instead of hanging off me.
TBH I am getting tired of having such a clingy kid. Do you think it is the gentle parenting things like co-sleeping etc that have made him this way, or that I am a SAHM and he is always in my care so is super dependent on me? It is driving me mental.
Sorry for all the complaining. Probably getting to me more because W is waking hourly again because of his cold and I am down to one pair of pants that I can do up.
wow trill - the girls will be gorgeous flower girls i am sure.. are the boys page boys? how cute! do they stock the dresses here so they can try them on? i bet they are excited!
Arte - hugs to you, you sound so stressed. When will you find out about the GD, it sounds to me that when that uncertainty is removed you can plan a little more. It does sound like W is very clingy, i dont know how you put up with it, N gts like that sometimes but it is rare... he def favours me and calls out to me but not in such a full on way all the time. i do think you have time to get him more accepting of dh but equally it is prob his personality etc. i dont think it is a gentle parenting thing - we also do a lot of co sleeping etc - maybe it is bc you spend so much time 1:1 with him with less others around? or just a stage/his personality etc?. ummm - i dont know LOL!!! i must say i am impressed even 1 pair of pants still does up - i could not have fitted any of mine at 26 wks! there is no way N could watch me birth either - he also freaks out if he sees a dr touch me... and iw ould be too worried about him getting upset seeing me in pain, unable to cuddle him etc. N also does that with the books - in fact he has memorised a few and can 'read' them himself - i can leave words out and he will say them... amazing!
Thanks PAP. My first GD test came back o.k, but I have to have another at 32 and 34 weeks. I have been monitoring at home though and they are creeping up so I suspect that it will happen eventually. It is cute with the books isn't it - W also fills in the gaps - he doesn't even need the book around to recite them lol. He learns them so quickly too, he got a couple of new books and by the next day he was filling in gaps!
Arte. Nothing you have done has 'made' him this way, some kids are just more clingy than others and it is very draining on you to deal with 24/7. I think it might be time though to start to introduce him to other people in a gentle way so that there is someone you know you can get to look after him if you need to - even if there was an emergency of some sort you may need someone other than yourself and your DH to care for him for a little while kwim? maybe just an hour here or there with your Mum so she can get to know him better so she can look after him better. It would also help him to understand that Mum doesn't have to be the only person who does things for him, that someone else can read a book or get him something to eat just as good as you do. It doesn't mean you have to force him out of his comfort zone but it will help to teach him a bit of independence too because it wont be much longer and you will have a newborn that is going to take up a fair percentage of your time and he might struggle with that if he isn't a little acustomed to having other people around him and helping him. It can end up with you in tears not knowing how to divide your time effectively and feeling helpless because you need to feed/settle/bath the baby etc at the same time as W wants something done, so it's best that you get a head start on that now. Even if it is just DH taking more of a role to do things with him in preparation, like "Let Dad help you/read to you/get you something to eat because Mum needs to do xyz" it will be a start.
PP, they are really excited. It's only the big 3 though - I daren't think of what Alister would do LOL. he's too young anyway IMO. I gave up on the dress search and think I will just stick to looking in the shops as I think it will be far too big a headache LOL.
LOL trill with your little monkey i can imagine he woudl entertain them all!!! i saw a 9 month old in a wedding party recently - an older boy pushed him down the aisle in a radio flyer - he LOVED it!!
Arte - i agree with trill, she put it so much better than me - of course you didnt 'make' him this way - he just LOVES you!
Thanks Trill. Unfortunately mum is over two hours away so the chance for her to actually look after him only comes up every 6 weeks or so when we go down, and DH has firmly said that he doesn't want her to look after W anyway (she does really care about him but isn't really a small child kind of person iykwim, can be a bit cold and DH thinks that W won't compete with her 8 dogs for her attention). There is no one local that we know/trust well enough. He is happy enough for DH to look after him apart from bed time and apparently this new dinner time problem.
Anyhow, I should stop feeling sorry for myself, there are plenty of people with far greater problems.
trill- do they have flower girl dresses at myer? how exciting for the girls. are you going to put pretty little flowers in their hair? ooohhhhh i need a girl!
pap- i loooove country road stuff, you lucky duck!
arte- no honey it is nothing you've done. i've done the whole gentle parenting thing too remember- co-slept, bfed to sleep, sahm too and lewis is not clingy at all,so i think it's just the way w is iykwim?
trill is right in that w needs to learn that other people care about him too. i can't tell you enough how stressful the 'torn' feeling is. i'm only just getting more comfortable and competent at the juggling act...it's taken me 3 months and i have to say that lewis has been amazing about jimmy, i couldn't have asked for a better reaction.
just wanted to add- preggo girls- if you're worried at all about 'sharing the love' b/w the 2...or somehow not feeling the same way about your second child, let me reassure how absolutely besotted i have become with jimmy. i'm soooo in love with him. ihave to admit, i was a little worried when i was pg that i couldn't possibly love him as much as i love lewis...but i need not have worried. your heart just opens up more and you just adore them
Arte: wow, sounds like a pretty stressful time for you babe. i second PP and dont believe that it is the gentle parenting or the co-sleeping. W is a really unique, clued in little man and i just believe that because he is really advanced in comprehension and communication he has a much stronger sense of relationships. to him, you are his world, you are what makes it turn and i guess it must be tough for him to see that you are also making the world turn in aspects that are separate to his life. i just think that he is a little bit ahead of our bubs and is beginning to understand that you are a separate person and it probably freaks him out a bit. maybe...
as for the care thing, that is tough babe. we are lucky to have Leila's godmother living across the road from the birth centre (luckily as we dont have any other family around!). but honestly, it is something that i think your DH really needs to get cracking on. we cant have you stressing about W while in labour!! sending big hugs
Sherie: wow! that's not much notice LOL! oooh they are going to be soo gorgeous!
PP: nest nest nest!!! it's so funny how it just takes hold huh?! i remember falling into a bucket of tears when i was around that stage, cause DH went to have a cup of tea BEFORE putting the wardrobe in the right position!! LOL!
hhmm forgotten everything now...
AFM: all good. made a duruka curry last night. yum yum. other than that nothing much to report.
Arte - not sure what to say that hasn't already been said. Fingers crosssed you don't get GD as that sounds like it will be a bit easier.
Well I coslept with K for the first time the other night. Had been up and down for 1.5 hours trying to get her back to sleep (she would do 20 minutes then wake again) and ended up just taking her into the spare room. She tried to take off her sleeping bag so I helped her with that, then just curled up under the covers. She didn't even need to be touching me, just popped her head up a couple of times to make sure I was still there. Luckily she did a big sleep in to make up for the extra wake time!!
And Arte, she is super clingy a lot of the time and as above we've only coslept once and I'm not a SAHM. In the evenings she has to sit on the bench while we do dinner, refuses to be on the floor. We are having all sorts of battles with tea time at the moment, refuses to get into her chair at all, or gets in and won't even look at her dinner. We've given up on the tray and pushed the chair closer to the table which helps, we've also started eating without her a couple of times and let her come to us which also seems to help.
PAP - woohoo on finishing up next week!!
Trill - exciting news on the family wedding!
Noni - hope everything is going better at home. Glad that the evening routine is helping Asha.
We are in Canberra for the weekend - mum has arranged professional photos on Friday of her 5 girls. I think DH is looking forward to the break! I'm looking forward to hitting DJ's and Myer with the sales!!
oohhh cally- what are you going to buy from the sales?
clare- are you still on the house hunting mission or giving it a break for a while?
katie- i've been meaning to ask you, what do you think of the close carrier so far. i suppose it's hard to judge without a newborn to pop in it yet!
have you bought sarah blasko's new album?
i just popped a couple of new pics of hairy jimmy on fb
G, they do have dresses at Myer, and I will check out what they have when I'm over there next Tuesday. I think if I do end up getting the from the US, they will have a better resale value kwim? The whole 'imported designer dress' type thing LOL. And definitely flowers in the hair too, but not done all curly, cause they would look a bit silly I think as their hair is so straight usually.
I know Clare! I"m like, 'whoa, that's not nearly enough time for me to lose enough weight' ROFL and MIL said the same thing to me the other night hehe. It's such a shame that it is so hard for you to crack the housing market. I guess the low interest rates have made people take the plunge.
Cally, I'm so excited about the sales too LOL. Myer is having 40% off Anolon cookware and I'm chomping at the bit to buy some - and with DH's blessing too no less! We really need a frying pan for the stove that properly fits the large hotplate plus we need a new electric frying pan.
Arte, that's fair enough about your Mum. I hate taking the kids to my Dad's place because of their dogs so I undertstand that. I hope it all works out for you in the end.
Oh the other thing I forgot is I finally booked a photo sitting for Alister! It's not till the start of next month though. I will have some done of them all together too. And then we will make the most of the wedding and have a full family photo then.
Hectic week around here....... down at my parents place for the week, helping a friend out with her Granny's funeral) We are heading to Wye river for the long weekend. Can't wait!
Spent waaaaay too much at DJ's pre-sale last night. But got lots of great stuff. Mainly kitchen and manchester. A few clothes but not much really.
I totally forgot about that facebook group. How gorgeous are all the kids? Love the pic you added Trill, so squished! HE is a very cute little man.
Speaking of cute, went to visit Sassy's future husband yesterday. (aka Jimmy )
LOL Ange, was it love at first site? Were there many at the pre-sale? I had an invite to the Myer one LOL and wondered how many people actually go to them.
And I got my babyhawk meitei today too and it's awesome!!! I thought it would be really hard to put on, but it's really easy. He loves it - especially in the back carry, but doesn't like that he can't get out ROFL.
yeah i seem to have lucked out and gotten into the pre sale at djs just bc i happened to be there - it was great - at 5pm everything was marked down already but no one was there - and i had choice of everything!!
cally what are you going to get???
well it looks like dh and i may get to go away for a night on sat night, mum is going to come down and stay with N and we can have anight away... it must be 2 yrs since we did that... we have founda great guesthouse that doesnt take kids - been wanting to go for ages...
hopefullyit will be cold and we can sleep in and have an open fire etc. BLISS
Sales - need work pants and shoes, my existing ones are just about dead. I have heaps of pants in the wardrobe that fit me pre-Katie, I think I need to be like you Rainy and accept the curves!!
PAP - weekend away sounds awesome!!
Rainy - Jimmy has so much hair!! I can't believe it. Love the chubby little newborn chin too!!
Sorry I have been MIA from BB lately.
I havent even had time to read about all whats been happening with you all yet.
My Cousin Pass away last week he was 49 massive heart attact they said so have had all the family up. I got sick on Sat night and went to the dr on monday and he said that I had tonsilitis but I dont have tonsils but the AB's have kicked in finally and starting to feel normal again so I am really happy about that and just to top my week off I discovered nits in Jordys hair and Xavier had no eggs but 2 live nits and Thank god Livi didnt have any so I have now got rid of the nits yipppeee. Oh what more can happen this week. Last week I also organised the boys birthday party and This years party is at movieworld after doing some research and found out that I can get a entry to movieworld, themed party and lunch and batman is bring the cake out for $45 a kid oh and vip seating for the parade with there names up on the big screen. they are also only charging me $25 for kids under 3 and for the first 10 adults will be $34.95 then $46after that. I looked up normal entry and they charge 45.95 for kids 3 and up and for adults its 69.95 so I thought this was a bargin and the best thing is they clean it all up. Havent organised anything for Livi yet. Kids are well apart from the nits and Xavier goes in to hospital again next week for his new 3year grommets.
PAP- Your weekend away sounds so wonderful have a great time.
Hello to everyone
Arte. Nothing you have done has 'made' him this way, some kids are just more clingy than others and it is very draining on you to deal with 24/7. I think it might be time though to start to introduce him to other people in a gentle way so that there is someone you know you can get to look after him if you need to - even if there was an emergency of some sort you may need someone other than yourself and your DH to care for him for a little while kwim? maybe just an hour here or there with your Mum so she can get to know him better so she can look after him better. It would also help him to understand that Mum doesn't have to be the only person who does things for him, that someone else can read a book or get him something to eat just as good as you do. It doesn't mean you have to force him out of his comfort zone but it will help to teach him a bit of independence too because it wont be much longer and you will have a newborn that is going to take up a fair percentage of your time and he might struggle with that if he isn't a little acustomed to having other people around him and helping him. It can end up with you in tears not knowing how to divide your time effectively and feeling helpless because you need to feed/settle/bath the baby etc at the same time as W wants something done, so it's best that you get a head start on that now. Even if it is just DH taking more of a role to do things with him in preparation, like "Let Dad help you/read to you/get you something to eat because Mum needs to do xyz" it will be a start.
Mainly kitchen and manchester. A few clothes but not much really. 
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