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Oz, do you think that using the bed as time out has created a negative association with it? So he doesn't want to go there at nap time because it is where he goes when he is naughty? I would try having a time out chair or mat away from the bed for a while and see if that makes a difference.
Rainy, my latest food hit has been 2 minute noodles (baked, not fried). If we are having a meal that W doesn't really like then I cook half a packet and throw in some mixed veges. He loves it.
Ange, I will share my disipline tips but it is probably the blind leading the blind lol. Mostly we avoid using the word NO, everything is phrased like 'we don't pull on that' etc, apparently if you say No all the time they just ignore it. He gets told once, then told again in a sterner voice, then I will go and remove him and sit him in the centre of the floor. From there he is free to go, but will usually sook for a second or two first. Actually, I just realised that is a longer version of the old dog training - Ask, Tell, Make.
Do you have a specific problem?
Too quiet in the lounge, better go and investigate
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hey everyone,
today is playgroup day but we cant go coz its raining.. i kinda didnt wanna go anyway coz im so tired but i know Ash is gonna be a pita now stuck inside all day.. maybe if it clears up we can go for a walk or something later... dosnt look like letting up anytime soon tho...
Asha slept through the night again last night so thats 3 nights in a row now.. she did wake up a little earlier than usual but 7am really isnt that bad considering some of the mornings we have had in the past.. i think being preg it just seems earlier than it really is lol...
as for dicipline we have started doing time outs now because smacking really wasnt working.. also im concentrating on making sure Asha is looking at me when im asking her not to do something her hearing is fine but when shes more engaged she seems to respond better rather than just ignoring me and going on with whatever it was she was doing.. like Arte we try and avoid using NO too much although its really hard.. i try and use something like "mummy dosnt like it when u" or "we dont do that" etc but NO slips out all the time its like a reflex!
with meals i must say i am pretty uninspired here too.. alot of the time A just has whatever we are having, if were eating too late she does have things that have been mentioned like pasta or noodles with vegies and cheese and sometimes a tomato based sauce, she likes the kids ravioli thats been mentioned.. eggs, scrambled or omlete she hasnt had boiled yet, baked beans just the easy stuff really coz im pretty lazy haha shes a pretty good eater tho so we are lucky we arent really dealing with fussiness..
hope everyones doing well! congrats again to gypsy with the darker +ve!!!
any ideas for entertaining a toddler without being able to go outside gosh asha goes crazy when shes trapped inside all day!!
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hi all
Noni - does asha like crafty type things - N has started to really get into stickers etc so on a rainy day it is quite fun to do that kinda stuff - get paper, crayons, magazine pics, glue, stickers etc and let him do 'art'. i have found it great esp now in later preg when i dont feel like being so active... also 'cooking' when he basically unpacks my whole kitchen on the floor and bangs, stirs, pours etc to his delight - loves this. ia lso find if i blow up a heap of balloons, like 5, he will chase them all over the house for a while.. also he is computer obsessed so i sometimes sit with him on my lap and we google pictures (click on images) of different things that he chooses - he LOVES this! lots of music on for dancing/singing and of course the back up DVDs! hope the day clears up a bit so you can get out.
Oz - glad BIL is doing ok. that's great news. hmm i dont have many bed tips, so far N is ok with it. but ia gree with arte maybe he associates it with being naughty. then again no rush really - they will all sleep in a bed eventually (and N will eventually sleep through!!!)
Arte - great tips you have there. i think maybe we have been saying NO too much, i will try the 'we dont do...' line here as well.
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Arte - PMSL at your dog training, at the PPP Parenting thing we went to last year, they taught us Ask, Show, Tell...I think someone over there has been reading doggy training books too!
Clare I'm another one for wanting the specifics of your fish curry...I looooove garam marsala but wouldn't know how much to put in to do it properly.
ETA - with the "We don't XYZ" line try to also add what we DO do instead. Eg "We don't jump on the lounge" - you could add "lets go and jump on the trampoline" or "we can jump on the cushions on the ground here"...etc so you're refocussing the energy onto an ok activity. Granted, it doesn't work if they're headed into a fullblown tanty, but worth at try at other calmer moments! LOL
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Hi Girls,
Gyp- Congrat I am so happy for you.
sorry for being mia but every time I try and get on my computer wont let me. Well Xavier has to get long term grommets now and he is going in on the 9th june. The Dr will take them out in 3 years. Jordy still has temps so looks like he has the same virus that Xavier had last week. Just hope Liv doesnt get it too. I have had hardly any sleep the last 2 nights and starting to feel the effects of that now. will have to catch up later with everyone. Its pouring rain here.
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hey girls!!
ha ha too funny about the fish curry! seriously it is the EASIEST thing in the world...in fact i think 'recipe' gives it too much cred LOL!
but what i use are:
3-4 white fish fillets (mmm whiting! LOL!)
one medium onion (white is best, but brown is good ....not spanish)
garlic (however many you like...if you wanna avoid garlic breath take out the core)
salt (how much you like)
sprinkling of garam masala (enough to cover the fillets, more if you prefer)
tumeric (a tiny amount, like half a teaspoon)...if you dont have it that's AOK.
if you're feelin' fancy some jeera (cummin seeds)
tin of coconut cream
some lubricant for frying (ghee/butter/olive oil)
the cooking:
dice the onion and garlic, chuck it in a frypan (or heavy based frypan is better....like the la chassuer stuff).
chuck in the jeera (if ya wanna!) and some salt
fry these together to brown off, but watch that the jeera doesnt burn (easily done on high heat)
sprinkle the fish in the garam masala and the tumeric (try to coat it a bit).
the fish can be kept in fillets or cubed, whatever floats your boat really.
chuck it in with the frying onion etc and seal it off (should really only take a minute, if that).
then i pour in the coconut cream and bring to a simmer, boil kinda thing, then i turn the heat RIGHT down and chuck on a lid. leave it for 10 minutes, lift the lid, have a lick of the spoon and see if it has enough flavour (and if not throw in more garam...OR if you have it a tiny amount of tamarind sauce/paste...mmmmm), if there is too much flavour from the curry, add a bit more coconut cream. this is also where i lay the spinach leaves or bok choy on top. put the lid back on and leave until the leaves have gently steamed and are cooked to your liking.
usually by this stage, the cream has reduced enough into the curry and is YUMMO SCRUMMO! serve up on rice....love it!!! LOL! :D
as you can see i kinda cook as i go!! LOL! please forgive me!!! but i swear that it is really easy and really tasty. and generally kid friendly. leila hoovers it. makes great leftovers too.
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Arte I dont think L associates his bed with time out as we rarely have to use the timeout but you could be right. We seen a timeout mat the other day maybe I will buy that (I love spending money lol).
We also try to do what MD says and refocus his energy towards something that is safe and ok to do. Its so hard to know what to do with discipline which is why we use all different tactics. I find it depends on the tantrum (and what has caused it) and where we are as to what we do.
Noni on rainy days like today when we cant go outside we usually put music on and dance or do some colouring in. We also do baking, L has a little apron and his own bowl and spoon to mix, he really loves to help in the kitchen.
better run, L isn't happy about something lol.
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Oh yes, definitely direct them to something else when telling them not to do something! That is what I get for posting pre-7am!
Noni, I know it is messy but if you put a mat (or $2 shower curtain) under a little table then playdough can provide a lot of entertainment on rainy days. Bring out some pans, plates, knifes and forks etc.
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sounds like i really need to get some playdough..
my amby hammock sold on ebay last night for $207.50 woo hoo!!! so i'm going shopping!!!!
pap- answer me girl, are you still thinking of getting the mountain buggy? there's something i need to discuss with you.
arte- how's names going?
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Clare - Thanks for posting the recipe, I will give it a go sometime this week.
Noni - Bummner about playgroup today. Love the playdough idea.
As for discipline, we say no far to much, I try & try to say 'we dont do this' 'mummy doesnt like' (I had it pounded into me when I studied childcare) but its so easy to just come out & say no. Ahhh! The past couple of days I have been a major grumpy mummy, poor M, I've felt so guilty. However today feeling much better, & not so tired.
Hi to all, got to run, going out to lunch today with my sisters.
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Gypsy, do you keep the news quiet for a while or do you bust as soon as you see anyone?
Rainy, still thinking Amelia, I don't feel really strongly about it but it is nice and DH likes it (which is a major thing!)
Also building blocks are a good inside thing here, building towers and crashing them over.
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Arte I know the most adorable little girl named Amelia, I think it is such a pretty name.
Rainy woo hooo on selling the hammock. What are you going to buy with your money?
Gypsy I found the first 12 weeks of this pregnancy much harder then with L. I forgot how tired you get. I was so short with L at times and I felt terrible but just tried to make it up to him.
I have spent sooooo much money today, I got a new sling though which I just cant wait to try.
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Rainy - yep the MB is still on my shortlist - but i am waiting to see how much i thnk i will use a double before we leap in and buy one... given N will be in care a bit and i will have bugaboo and sling/s i am not sure how much use it will get... i am also looking at firstwheels and city mini but i think i would have to import them...so what do you want to discuss???? tell me!!
Clare - curry sounds delicious! i'll be doing that soon... yum
Gyspy - did i say woo hoo?? SO SO excited for you!
Play dough seems like a good idea, might get some of that.
does anyone have a 'close carrier' i am thinking of getting it for the baby...
just had lunch with my cousins from london who hve come to visit so nice to see them. i felt a bit awkward as i know they have beebn ttc for about 2 yrs... she told me all about it a while back but obv no news and no progress... kinda hard to know what to say etc etc. rare for me to be stuck for words..
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PAP I just bought the Close carrier this morning. Limslice has them on sale on her website!
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how much is the close carrier? i want one! what colour did you get katie? i want a red one
going to check them out now....
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Rainy I got the chocolate one, they are reduced to $96. She wont have them in stock for about two weeks, I sent her a pm so I could get one while they were on special.
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i also just bought one!! what a bargain. i also got chocolate oz!!
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They look great dont they. I cant wait to use it.
