Clare- It was Coro Levu (Sp?) Right next to the Warwick..... i think that is where you mean. How long were you living there? The house thing would be getting me down too. Maybe PAP's right. A break from it all might be good for you guys. And you know what? I bet as soon as you stop looking something will show up. I hope so anyway.

PAP- If it was me in your situation i'd still be getting mum to help. I think in the long run you will find N and your mum have a very special and strong bond having spent so much time together. i think backing off the contact would leave you without a helper and perhaps negatively impact their realatioship. I am guessing it might just be a phase, and he'll be back to loving everyone equally soon! If it's really worrying you, you could trial just letting your mum do the fun bits, but she sounds so competent and helpful i'd be reluctant to do that. I need all the help i can get.

Rainy- how'd you find the snug a bug. They don't really wrap do they? nice and warm though. hmmmmmmm day spa.

Trill- Go easy on those kidneys! glad you're feeling better. Good luck with tthe cot moving. Whats the plan if that doesn't work?