Babies Born ~ March 16th-31st 2010 #2

[teresa]

good morning ladies.

hope everyone is well.

well its so cold here at the moment. we are leaving the heater on overnight just to keep the house warm. by morning the house is so nice and toasty that i turn the heater off around 7 and it gets turned back on around 6 that night. i really hate winter. much prefer summer time!!

well Hamish is 17 weeks old today. need to make an appointment for next week for his 4 month needles. definately not looking forward to that. i hated the 2 month ones!!

well Hamish flipped from his tummy to his back last friday. it was so exciting. he is also soooo close to rolling from his back to his tummy. i dont think it will be much longer before he does.

Hamish has been putting his fists in his mouth now for weeks. i thought it meant he was hungry so thats why we tried him on rice cereal. he is definately not ready for solids yet. lol i didnt realise it meant he had discovered his hands.

i am having so much trouble with a friend of mine. she keeps avoiding me and had a couple of snarky comments made to me yesterday on facebook. one that didnt make any sense regarding my status update, and the other one having a go at me for not going to the movies with her on saturday night. she asked me last monday night if i wanted to go on the weekend but said she would get back to me on the day. i hadnt heard from her by friday so we made plans for saturday night, then saturday at lunch time she sms'd me to see if i wanted to go out that night. i told her i was busy but how about sunday arvo. she said she was free. never heard back from her. anyway i left a mesage on her fb profile yesterday about going to the movies this weekend and she started complaining coz she was soooo busy over the weekend coming and the only day she had free was last saturday cos she kept it free. she keeps avoiding us because of Hamish. she desperately wants a baby but is having trouble and keeps miscarrying. its really upsetting me at the moment.

anyway enough about me

hope u all have a good day today

xx

[teresa]

b - yeah she did. she also told me she has been "insanely busy" and hasnt seen friends outside of work but i know she has.

[teresa]

b - u r right. we had issues 5 years ago, then it took her 2 years to apologise. i forgave her and now she is behaving like this. another friend of mine says that just because u have a couple of miscarriages, doesnt mean she can behave like this. she said that she understands about the miscarriages coz she has had a few but its not nice to do what she is doing. she really hurt me 5 years ago and now she is doing it again. i think i will just let it run its course and die out. i dont want Hamish around someone so self centred and self absorbed. thanks for listening b xx

[miamunchkin]

Hi Ladies

GRR - I also just did a long post and lost it. Think I hit something on the keyboard though and it closed the webpage. Let's try again....

teresa - sounds like you need some time out from your friend. Friendships are never the same after a fall out and it sounds like she is still holding a grudge. It's just not worth it - life is too short.

~b~ - great to hear that Ewan is growing heaps. Fraser is also into 00 - they are generally a great fit, but a little long in the arms. Guess it gves him something to grow into.

Nat - good luck with the inlaws this time. I also leave Fraser on his playmat happpily playing for about 15 mins in the morning while I get a few things done (and grab a coffee). Fraser has also decided that he loves music TV, so I have also been guilty of strapping him into his bouncy chair in front of the TV while I get things done. I'll probably get some criticism for that, but he REALLY loves it - laughs away and gets upset when the ads come on!

Berry - we also tried Fraser in a Grobag (I agree about them being a bit tight on the neck) and he hated it! I must say, today I have just put him down for a sleep without being swaddled as the last week or so, when I go to get him, his blankie is dripping in drool as he fights until he gets his hands up to his mouth. I thought he might be a bit more restful now that he knows how to control his hands, and it seems to be working, so far. I will still swaddle at night though. He also has a Mother's Pouch cot sheet, so he is still under that, even though on my last peek in, his hands were up in the air.

Jelly - that's great that Adrian is sleeping through. He must be one happy little boy!

As for us, all is going pretty well at the moment. We've had a few nights in the last week where I have only had to get up once to feed Fraser, which has been great! Makes such a difference to get a bit more sleep. He's 13 weeks today - I have no idea where that time went! We also had our first "Baby Splash" class last week, which was brilliant! Fraser absolutely loved it! Can't wait for this week's session! The mummies did a class afterwards, which absolutely killed me! My arms are still sore! She probably didn't work us as hard as I thought she did, but I'm a pretty weak swmmer and found it tough! Has anyone else taken their LO swimming yet?

[Meercat]

Teresa - I would take a break from her, she doesnt sound like a good friend. I had to be strong when I was pregnant... a girl I had stopped speaking to a year before was so insistant that she wanted to be my friend again, calling, emailing and complaining about missing me to mutual friends. I stood strong though because I didnt want her influence on my child. The day Tiah was born she made a point of joining a group on facebook - "Just because you can reproduce doesnt mean you should" - I think I made the right choice in ignoring her!!!! Miscarriages or not - she should still be there for you!

Mia - I want to take Tiah to swimming but I cant find anywhere locally that does it The local swimming place doesnt take them until 6 months! I am glad someone else admits to using the TV as well! I dont do it often... but if I need to do something or just have 5 minutes to myself I put her in her swing so she can see the TV..... I figure 5 minutes of TV is better than me going crazy. I also know that when she is by herself with her dad he has her watching boxing, he denies it but I know the truth!

B - Tiah is still in 0000 for Tops and 000 for pants for her long legs. She is a beanpole!

I just had Tiah giggling for the first time. I rang DP at work and made him listen to me doing Cookie Monster noises for ages until she would do it again

Is anyone elses pets driving them insane? My once spoilt cats are behaving so badly, hiding in Tiah's room, refusing to move, MEOWING into her face when she is asleep during the day in her pram. I have always had them inside only, but I am seriously considering putting them outside soon.

[teresa]

Is anyone elses pets driving them insane? .

yeah my dog wont stop humping my leg and when i try and push her off she growls and tries to attack me!! she only does it when i am in the rocking chair with Hamish lol

[31becc]

Hey Girls - sorry been MIA again. Yeah Teresa - you don't need negative people like that. I had a friend like that, that was really hard work - wouldn't speak to her for a week and she would think she did something wrong. I am still friends with her but really distance myself and it is fine. I don't mind speaking to her now, but it is only birthdays really.

Meercat - yah for Tiah, Matilda cacked up in the bathtub the other day, when my DH and I were there, she just went crazy and didn't stop. She hasn't done it since, but gee it was funny.

Teresa - I can't believe Hamish is 17 week s - how time flys!

Big hi to everyone else, sorry didnt do many personals, just replying from memory.

[Jellymaker]

Hi girls,

Teresa- i agree with the others, ditch this friend, it sounds like she is leading you on just so she can cancel on you. I had a friend like that once and she was all about having the power in the relationship and being in control. Needless to say we are no longer friends. Stop putting in so much of the effort and if she is a true friend she should pick up the slack, if not, then i guess she wasnt worth it.

Berry- i have two grobags but havent used them yet as we still wrap Adrian up at night and i have started putting him under the blankets in his cot. I figure i'll get him used to being tucked in and then get rid of the wrap, hopefully he will be so used to the top covers he wont thrash around and wake himself up. Will try the growbags soon.

Nat- Adrian doesnt really seem interested in the TV but when our apple TV goes into screensaver mode which is all glowing moving lights,he likes to watch that. Adrian will play on his mat happily for about 20mins or so alone but if you lie next to him and play with stuff too he will last much longer, kinda defeats the purpose of getting stuff done tho, LOL.

B- Adrian is in 00 stuff now too, its a little baggy in places but that means he'll get more use out of them Anymore news about Toowoomba?

RE- Pets- I have an inside cat and an outside dog. The cat has become real clingy and is ALWAYS under my feet which is really dangerous and annoying, she doesnt pay any attention to the baby though which im glad. As for my dog, my DH quit smoking 6 months ago which was good because he used to play with the dog while smoking outside, but when he stopped smoking he stopped going outside as much and the dog got used to not as much playtime, it was good he did that early so the dog doesnt associate the baby with less playtime. She seems curious and protective about the baby but she is not coming within 6 feet of Adrian until he starts walking. Pet psycologists say that dogs dont see crawling babies as human because they are on all fours and see them as another animal invading their territory and can be aggressive, but as soon as a baby is on two feet the dog recognises it as human and a part of the family. For those of you with inside dogs, becareful when your babies start crawling.

AFM- today must be the day for giggling babies as Adrian giggled for the first time today! I actually jumped up and down it was so cute. I hope he does it again soon for DH because he gets so sad when he misses things and this would pick him right up

Well, better go and get tea on and have a shower before DH goes to the gym (Finally!!!)

Hugs

[human bean]

Hi Ladies, just a quickie from me too, my brain is a little mushy atm!

I did want to say a HUGE thanks for all the advice regarding transitioning DD into her cot from her bassinette. She is now having day sleeps in her cot, in the cot itself , and still in the bassinette next to our bed at night. She seems to have adjusted pretty well after a grumpy few days, but it really helped putting the basinette in first, then laying down a towel (securely) over the cot mattress that I'd slept on for a couple of nights. I'm being selfish keeping her next to us during the night, but we're still BF on demand too and although she only wakes at approx. 2am then 6am for a feed, I still don't want to have to go all the way down the other end of the cold house to her room to feed! Considering she crashes out most nights at abour 7pm I'm pretty happy with how our nights are going.

Has anyone flown with their LO's yet? Or earlier children? We're heading interstate in a couple of weeks and I'm a little nervous as it will just be DD and I, with a few connecting flights, but she's pretty cruisy so I hope feeding on landing and take off will take care of any unsettledness.

[Meercat]

Human Bean - I agree, your not selfish! I have Tiah in the room andI plan to keep her in with me as long as possible! I love being able to see her from my bed and that she can see me if she needs some reassurance (Ok I need the reassurance wayyyyy more than her haha)

[teresa]

hb - dont worry u r not being selfish. the only reason i put Hamish into his cot full time when he was 12 weeks old was because i was getting really tired as when he woke overnight i was up for 2-3 hours each time with him as it took so long to settle him. i found by him being in his cot overnight, it enabled me to get a better sleep and he slept better too. plus now when i feed him in the early hours of the morning (between 3-5am), he is still drowsy and goes straight back into his cot until between 6-7am.

afm, Hamish really got a giggle up yesterday. it was so cute. and he is soooo close to rolling over. anyday now!! he is going thru a wonder week too so i am finding him much more clingy then normal. he is having catnaps during the day but sleeping thru the night which is great. only wish he didnt wake soooo early! lol

i have also decided not to talk to this friend much anymore. i spoke to DH about it and said that the message she sent me, she is waiting for me to apologise and i have nothing to apologise for. i am going to let the friendship "die out". i dont need people like her in my life. i have better friends out there. thank u guys so much for listening to me. i feel like all i do is complain lately! so sorry to keep venting

xx

[teresa]

good morning ladies

i forgot to tell u that my brother FINALLY met Hamish last week. i went to my mums for my stepdads birthday and he and his gf and their kids turned up. anyway my brother looked at Hamish but didnt acknowledge him the whole time we were there and then proceeded to tell me that i knew nothing about raising a baby (HELLO I HAVE A SON HERE) and that i was stupid. i almost walked out of there as it was coz their baby who is 7 months old (was born 9 weeks premmie) had gastro. i would never take Hamish anywhere if he had gastro. i didnt even leave the house, other then to go the doctors with him while he had bronchiolitis. anyway their baby isnt even rolling over yet, they put him on his tummy in bed to sleep, his head is half the size of Hamish's but he is a little bit longer then Hamish in length. i think i am the only one concerned about all of this. my mum said that he is in all proportion to his body and my brother has a small head so that would make bjay have a small head. at least my brother actually looks in proportion!

[Rooey5]

Hi ladies!

I've missed heaps again, sigh...

Teresa, why is your brother acting that way? I wouldn't take Indy out if he was crook either.

We still have Indy in the room with us, he sleeps in his cot though (when we can get him down!). If he's having a particularly grumpy night he'll sleep on my chest.

Sorry, I'm not going to read back any further, gotta eat while he's sleeping

Hope you're all well!

[teresa]

rooey - i have no idea. he is an absolutely loser tho!! i want to say another word but dont wanna get in trouble!

[Rooey5]

Sounds it! Telling you you don't know how to raise a kid... pah.

[Misssawah]

Hi all,

I've forgotten everything that's been written. I've taken back on the role of editor for the paper I was writing for before Harri was born so I've got a lot on my plate at the moment, having said that I love it!

DSD is going back to Sydney on Monday, but in a major victory we won't be needing to go to court. Her mother has finally decided to do the right thing and move back to the same town as us so DSD can have equal access to DP as well as herself. We're so excited that things have worked out and we haven't had to go through a messy court battle. DSD's mother as well as her grandma are going to move back so she will now have both sides of the family close. Yay! Having said that I am looking forward to having a few months with just me, Harri and DP. It may be selfish but I feel like I'm missing out on being a new mum sometimes with her here. She's been teething for the past week and has turned into a total monster. Yesterday she really upset us. We had professional photos taken and while DP and I were getting our photo done, she went over to Harri, put her hands over his face and pushed him into the bean bag he was resting in. He screamed so much and I cried, I really can't believe she did that. *end rant*

Harrison is such a happy and smiley baby. He giggles and 'talks' a lot! He's sleeping through most nights and has a nap around midday. He's still in a mix of 0000 and 000, he's got a skinny bum so his pants are 0000 and wearing 000 in onesies and shirts.

Harri's naming day is on the 20th of this month. We've got a really nice ceremony planned out and it will include all the grandparents and god parents. We're going to be releasing helium balloons at the end of the ceremony that we'll ask everyone to make a wish for him when they release it. We've decided on a caterpillar and bug cake and cupcakes for afterwards. The cake will be a big leaf and then have a caterpillar made from different cupcakes and then different bugs decorated on other cupcakes. It should be nice and I'm so excited my sister and mum will be coming up to see him again and that my dad will be coming up to meet him for the first time.

Hope everyone is enjoying baby snuggles and getting plenty of rest

[teresa]

b - i am very much like u. i keep going back only to have all that happen again. i told my mum i dont want to have anything to do with him and his gf again. he continually speaks to me like dirt and treat me like dirt and i have had enough.

[Rooey5]

Missawah, wow, I can't believe she did that either! I would have been super upset. I'm glad you'll be getting some time with the three of you. His naming day sounds great, I suppose we should think about something like that for Indy!

I think you should give your brother a wide berth, you don't need that in your life!