Teresa - I've also had my doubts about Angus feeling left out with this baby too and been quite emotional about it all (during pregnancy). But I will be the 3rd one in our playgroup to have another baby and all the others seem to be coping well (big brothers/sisters). Angus is really excited about the baby and I think they will fit in well together. Angus is at the stage where he loves to help and I think being a big brother will help with his confidence.
As for the pregnancy bit - you never can tell.. My first pregnancy was fantastic, but this one has been quite hard on my body (MS, sore back, pelvis etc).
I also wanted a different birth to my first one which was lots of intervention. I wanted to go in to labour spontaneously, but I'm not sure that it's going to happen, despite my best efforts. I have an appointment tomorrow to make a date for induction next week.
Despite all that, I think in the end all that matters is that we have a healthy baby and that it's not too stressful.
Teresa I think subconsciously all the pregnancy scares are you wanting another baby!
I think every mother has doubts. Mine is "how can I possibly love another baby as much as I love jemma?" and another friend said it was her fear too and you just CAN! She's having her 4th baby in a couple months.
In saying that I've always known I want more than one. The universe making it hard for me has only reiterated that!!
Looking into wedding stuff now DP
Is home! Woohoo!!! Exciting
So I've been linked in with domestic violence counselling and have my individual appointment with the mediator on Monday. If they decide it's not safe or appropriate to be in the same room as him then I get a certificate for court. Haven't heard from him in over a month now.
OMG! rooey - is that because of the emotional abuse he did? i hope things work out for you!
afm, told DH that i wanted another baby. he said he wasnt ready, then turned around last night and said he has been thinking about it more and more. hmmm interesting lol
Yeah because of the abuse, which continued after breaking up in the form of suicide threats, threatening to not give DS back during one of his times with him, and downright nasty language and accusations. Hoping that the light at the end of the tunnel appears soon.
That's promising that DH told you he's thinking about it more! He still goes on deployment yeah?
rooey - not for the next 3 years while we are in wagga. he is an instructor now for the next 3 years so only does day shift monday to friday with no trips away! loving it at the moment
lol thats ok! i am starting to wonder whether its really worth talking to an ob about care i am going to get here and just go ahead and get pregnant and just see from there. ahhh decisions!
Hi nat
Congratulations on Hugo's arrival! Cute name! I love it!
The pregnancy is going really fast for me. Probably because I buried my head in the sand for the first 12 weeks so if I miscarried again it wouldn't hurt so much I guess?
I'm getting lots of movement and kicks now so much more relaxed.
I got newborn pics with jemma at 9 days old so will do the same with this baby.
Glad to hear everything is going well with the new addition
well had another chat with DH last night. he is more concerned now with the financial side of things. especially with me taking maternity leave again, 2 lots of child care when i do return to work, and the extra cost of another child. i feel like we are just going around in circles some days i just dont know what to feel or think! i told him as long as the next one is a boy we shouldnt need clothes lol. we kept everything from hamish so the only things we would need is a car seat for each car for hamish and clothes if its a girl. i also thought that next time i would get a baby shower since i missed out on one for hamish so i could ask people to buy clothes. gah this is a really hard decision
We have honestly not purchased anything big for this baby and don't plan too. All we are getting is a set of drawers and possibly an arms reach co sleeper because we still co sleep.
It was a bit easier for us to make the decision though because luckily DP is in a job where I don't have to work so the child care fees and stuff are not an issue for us. I hope you guys can agree soon!!
so do i meercat! i think too that with both of us working there should be no reason why we couldnt afford another baby. DH said to me the other night had i thought about what we would do as far as clothes and such were concerend if it was a girl. i said of course, get my baby shower this time that i missed out on with hamish and ask everyone to buy clothes for a girl lol
he did admit tho that with everything we went thru with hamish, he would prefer i spoke to an ob here in wagga and see what they said before he made his final decision. we got into a huge argument the other night as i said that ultimately its his yes or no we were waiting on. he then said thanks because if he said no then i would make him regret his decision and it wasnt fair to make it all onto him. i said poor wording said by me then. but i also did say that it was a joint decision not just me saying yes despite him wanting no. itms. i really envy those who can make quick decisions like this and not have to go thru all this back and forth! doing my head in
Itd be tough Teresa I dont envy your situation. We've always known we wanted two children. Maybe three but depends on number 2.
I hope you both come up with a decision that works for both of you xx
Afm I am so frickin hot.
Going for a swim this arvo thank goodness. Our a/c has been broken all week and I'm about to stab someone.
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great news Teresa 
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