Jaki-I have always done the no talking stimulating or a lot of eye contact (cant so none as it is impossible) but only during the night feeds and that is only so they will go back to sleep i also dont turn on lights during the night i have the bathroom light on across the hall and leave the door ajar so i can just see what i am doing and it has worked my babies have always fed and gone straight back to sleep because they are still sleepy and not stimulating them dosent give them a reason to stay awake but i will say it is hard when you see their gummy little smiles when they know mum is there i just pick Ella up give her a kiss and feed her quietly change her bum if needed then kiss her again and pop her back in bed and she goes back to sleep.
I make up for it during the day she comes around the house with me doing housework ect and i tell her what mummy is doing and we have floor time and lots and lots of cuddles and kisses and blowing rasberries on her chubba cheeks lol.
But i do agree that setting a routine with breastfeeding would be really difficult when breast milk is not as filling and is ment for bubs to fed often and you dont know how much they are getting so i take my hat off to you ladies BF every 2-3 hours 24hrs a day i dont think it's easy and when no one can feed bub for you it must feel like you never get a break.