I've been mulling over the past day whether to come in and address the "judging" accusations that seem to be appearing.

I'm just going to say - all posts by Kate, Sammie and myself contained no judgement. They contained information. If we had said "gee whiz, you are feeding them solids at 2 months, wow thats so crap, you're a crap mother blah blah blah" - THAT is judgement.

We didn't call anyone a crap mother. We didn't say anything bout your decision to. I personally posted the reason WHY the guidelines are in place, just incase someone wasn't aware of the reason. To me, thats not judgemental, thats sharing information.

To me, BB just isn't about support, its about sharing information that you may not have learnt otherwise. I know for me, I parent my 4th child way different to my 1st child - because I've had BB women to teach me things, to challenge my way of thinking, to make me see if from another point of view not my own. It is not judgement to share information, and it saddens me that people in here feel judged because of others sharing information.

So maybe, instead of flinging crap at us about how we were "judging" people - maybe its the way the information was received by others, your reaction to it - not what we have been "assumed" in saying.

Any way, I'm not going to stay in a thread where any information I feel is necessary to be shared in relation to a topic is going to be classed as me judging, so I'm out too. FWIW, I don't judge people on their decisions on what they do with their child. I've fed my child early, done controlled crying, fed to a schedule, used every bloody thing that they say not to, and you know what - at the end of the day I live with my decision and thats fine. But if something changes and someone challenges me on a new way of thinking with my next child - I don't see it as judging, I see it as doing the best by my child with the information that is available to me at that exact time.

Thats enough babbling from me. Good luck to everyone with their babies - enjoy them because they are only little for such a small amount of time.

Cheers and Beers!
Mel xx