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Love the way you think Tams. I am the same in a way, I don't judge others parenting style, but don't expect people to judge me either. I'm surprised how opinionated people are about how others raise their bubs. As long as they are fed,warm,loved and clean, who gives a sh*t!! I am getting attitude about co sleeping, demand feeding cloth nappies etc, saying I'm creating more work for myself. So what!!!! I'm the one looking after her not you!!!!! Ok vent over haha
Sammie how you feeling?
Tams is your email the same still? Sent u a fb msg then read your status hehe.
Jak how is your holiday going?
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I see u at 10 Tams.
Jak only thing we do if we have a night feed is the no talking or eye contact as i found it stimulated him too much. now he drinks and goes back to sleep.... well all but this morning lol Iknow its prob bad but i dont change him either
Tams-I had to laugh at the comment sleeping through at this age will cause problems yeah right!
My 3 Boys were all sleeping through the night by 2-3 weeks and fed solids at 3-4 months my eldest is 18 on saturday and works full time saves money and has a steady long term girlfriend he is a good kid no drugs or running a muck with delinquents my 2nd son is doing year 10 and is in the top history and english classes he is in the top 10% of both those subjects (he sux at maths lol) he just picked his electives for year 11/12 he chose advanced history and advanced english advanced science plus metal technology and wood technology because he wants to be either a history teacher or a carpenter so he is making sure he covers both subjects.
My 3rd son is doing year 8 and just picked history,english,woodwork,and food technology and sports studies for his electives for next year he wants to either be a chef or sports teacher so i dont think sleeping through the night has effected my boys one bit i am VERY proud to have 3 well ajusted good boys i dont have to worry about them going astray.
And i am like you i NEED routine and for my babies to self settle and i teach them to try to do things for themselves first before asking for help as they get older that is my way to prepare them for the big wide difficult world out there but i have never had a problem with how others parent there own children each to their own as long as they dont neglect or abuse their kids then go for what ever suits them.
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Great attitude Tams, I wasn't passing judgement on you, it's just not for me.
Kylie - I do the same as you at night time, although I do change A, simply because she is a heavy wetter and I would have a saturated baby if I didn't!
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Jaki-I have always done the no talking stimulating or a lot of eye contact (cant so none as it is impossible) but only during the night feeds and that is only so they will go back to sleep i also dont turn on lights during the night i have the bathroom light on across the hall and leave the door ajar so i can just see what i am doing and it has worked my babies have always fed and gone straight back to sleep because they are still sleepy and not stimulating them dosent give them a reason to stay awake but i will say it is hard when you see their gummy little smiles when they know mum is there i just pick Ella up give her a kiss and feed her quietly change her bum if needed then kiss her again and pop her back in bed and she goes back to sleep.
I make up for it during the day she comes around the house with me doing housework ect and i tell her what mummy is doing and we have floor time and lots and lots of cuddles and kisses and blowing rasberries on her chubba cheeks lol.
But i do agree that setting a routine with breastfeeding would be really difficult when breast milk is not as filling and is ment for bubs to fed often and you dont know how much they are getting so i take my hat off to you ladies BF every 2-3 hours 24hrs a day i dont think it's easy and when no one can feed bub for you it must feel like you never get a break.
Anyway getting off the subject this was my weekend.
DH and i went to sydney to catch up with friends and family and to do some BDay shopping for my son who is 18 on saturday we got some fab bargins here is what we got him as he will now be clubbing/nite club age he needs some better going out clothes
$140 quicksilver jacket for $70.
$100 quicksilver jeans for $50
$140 DC shoes for $60
$60 quicksilver shirt for $30
$60 Tapout shirt for $27
$40 billabong belt $10
$20x 3pkt of quicksilver socks for $15
$60 ripcurl back pack for work for $20
So $620 worth of really nice stuff all for about $250 and i got DH a pair of Billabong jeans for $40 and me a Roxy jacket for $30.
I LOVE DFO FACTORY OUTLETS.
And the other thing i did on the weekend was de-nit my stepdaughter you would not believe the state of her head she came to us on friday afternoon for her normal fortnightly visit she was scratching and had sore's and scabs all over the back of her neck i said what is all that and she says mum has said i am allergic to shampoo and she has sent some gloves and tape to put on my hands at night to stop me scratching and some detol cream to put on the soresi said did mum check you for nits she said yes so i txt her mum and asked she said yes on the thursday before she came so i said ok no worries anyway E (i will call her) was scratching and scratching and her hair just looked filthy so i said go have a shower and use my organic stuff it is chemical free it will help your scalp but before you do let me have a look.
WELLLLL HOLY F#CK!!!!!!!!!!! i took her hair out of the band and parted it and there was friggen nits running everywhere i was horrified i was nearly sick i called DH (her dad) and he was shocked so i jumped in the car and went and brought some sensitive organic nit solution i couldnt use the normal stuff it would have burnt her head and i got some pinetarsal for the sores and scabs and some organic dry hair shampoo and conditioner and then spent the next 3 hours YES! 3 hours combing nits out of her hair they were even falling on the floor as i was combing her hair it was the most disgusting thing i have seen her poor scalp is covered in sores from the nit bites and she has patches of missing hair where she has scratched so much the poor little thing so after i got all the nits out i washed her hair and soaked her head in pinetarsal to stop the itch and help the sores heal then i got on the phone and blasted her mother and her excuse was.
Well i checked and didnt see any and i said well they have been there for weeks for her head to look like that and there is adult nits and babies and her head is full of eggs and then E tells me mum knew i had nits she has been using teatree cream to try and get rid of them and told me not to tell anyone at school
Well i am not paying that much for organic stuff and nit stuff i cant afford it if her scalp is so bad its her fault from scratching she buys E $1.90 shampoo thats all she will spend and E is only allowed to wash her hair every 3rd day so it lasts longer OMG!!! so i blast the mother some more and tell her i have spent $50 just on nit sh#t and speacial shampoo and conditioner plus the pinetarsal to try to fix her head and i said to her mother i will send it all home with E for you to use on HER head not your own and she needs her hair tied up and plated every day and if she comes back to us next fortnight and you have done nothing to keep the treatment up i will call doc's and show them all the photo's i have taken of her head and the nits all over the bathtowel, floor and in her hair.
What a penny pinching cheapskate slack lazy mother that poor little girl would have been so uncomfortable all that time so i hope she does what i have said and next time E comes over i am getting her hair cut as her mother wont pay for a hair cut.
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Ferrals, se thing happens regularly with DSS, it so awfulespecially as he frequently infects MJ
Even if she want to be cheap, she can get conditioner, the cheapest one she can find, and comb it through her wet hair each night with the nit comb and that will catch them as they hatch.
Also, when she has no sores, white vinegar works really well to kill them.
Shocking that she knew about it
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Oh yeah, we have to get DSS hair cut too, it pi**es me off so much that some parents refuse to do the basic things for their kids, DSS always has new clothes, glasses and haircuts yet he doesn't! What's with tgat?
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Haha ferrals you crack me up! I love that you blasted her
Back to the sleeping thing, I've been so lucky with Wyatt. He self settles which is awesome, we do one feed overnight and I can put the light on, feed change chat and sometimes even TV and he will resettle fine. Quite often tho if I catch him fussing before he wakes I can dream feed and he doesn't even wakeplus if he has a night nappy on I don't need to change him unless I smell poop.
Jaki-that is awesome for a BF bubby you sound like a pro.
Sammie-I know and the worst thing is her mother wont even check her hair every night she get's the lady who does E's after school home care to do it and that lady is just as bad as E's mother her 3 daughters are filthy all the time and need a good hair cut and wash.
I told the stupid women if she just went through her hair every night and tied it up every morning she would keep on top of the nits and it wouldnt end up so bad i mean her scalp was red raw covered in sores and weeping it was so bad and all's she did was tape gloves on her hand s to stop her scratchingi told DH next time she comes over if it hasnt improved she will not be going home until we get her head healed and if her mother doesnt like it she can take us back to court.
So what milestones is everyones bubs up to Ella reaches out to her mobile and can put her hands in her mouth she tries to talk to us all the time she holds onto teething toys and tries to get them in her mouth but sometimes smacks herself in the head.
She still wont even try to roll over yet lazy chubba bubba.
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Wyatt doesn't hold anything yet, but if I put a toy in his lap he will slap it. He stares at things and watches very closely, loves lights and mirrors. He kicks alot and will launch off his heals. He rarely has 'bobble head' anymore so not far off the straight spine
We are going to get a jolly jumper, they are on special at target and I don't think he is far off
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Jakie - i am sending Jack to you, so that Wyatt can have a few words with him and tell him that one feed over night is efficient lol
ferrals - that is just disgraceful of ur DH's ex.
jack grabs some of his toys on his rocker and pram, he found his fist the other day he enjoys sucking the whole thing - i thought it was quite cute as he kept bringing it to his face but landing on his eye lol, he talks to the pooh wall border when i change his bum, hates tummy time but luke was the same, smiles away continuously hmm can't think of anything else
Now for all you younger mums tell me about today's jolly jumpers because when my boys were babies they were a big no no we were told they are bad for bubs backs ect and can be dangerous so we never used one have they changed them to be better for babies now or is it just one of those change in times things like the time to start solids and tummy sleeping is best and now its not so like i said things have changed over the years and i havnt heard anything about jolly jumpers.
Jaki- how is everything with your furbaby?
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Im not sure about the jumpers but I've not heard not to use one.
Molly is ok, I'm going to reply to your last email. We just walked in from our trip, she is walking better but has split her stitches so I'll have to call the vet
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Ferrals I will txt u a pic of what we got jayden today since u can't see fb
Thanks kylz how cool is it DH has gone nuts looking at all the different ones he likes the rainforest one you have because ella has the rainforest cot mobile and floor play mat did you order yours on ebay or did you buy it somewhere cheaper.
I am going to sign up for FB i had a talk to DH and he said it's ok (remember we had a no chatroom rule) but i wasnt the one with the problem so he has said it's ok.
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HI everyone. It has been ages since I have been on here. It has been so hectic and I have been away on and off also.
I've just skimmed through the last few pages and got a general idea on what is happening. As far as feeding goes here the boys go anywhere from 3 - 4 hourly feeds. drinking anywhere between 80mls and 160mls. I was worried about the 80mls but the midwife told me not to worry as they are putting on great weight every week. There is no way in the world they would drink the recommended 200mls. As far as night time goes, it kills me, lol!!! THey usually have a feed anywhere from 6 - 7:30pm and then again at 9 - 10:30pm. Usually they will go through until 1 or 2 am and then again at 6am but some times they are up at midnight and than again at 3am and then 6am. I've had two nights where they have a feed around 10pm and then go through to 6am. With saying that, they did wake a couple of times but I put their dummies in and they went straight back to sleep - bad mummy. I can't wait for them to sleep from 9pm to 6am. I loooove my sleep and the broken sleep kills me. It makes it worse that i dont get the opportunity to have a sleep through the day. Sleep Pleeeeaseeee!!
So, is this DFO meet up still happening on the 20th of June? Just thought I better check in, I'm looking forward to it.
Hope all of you who have been sick are feeling better now. There is nothing worse.
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