Skybie, sorry things are strained between you and hubby. I understand because DH definitely has a higher sex drive than I do. Luckily since having Arlia he hasn't requested anything more than a "helping hand". I don't even know how to manage anything more these days. Arlia is co-sleeping in our room and the majority of nights we have his two stepsons here because they live with us, so it's not like we can retreat to the lounge room for some action because even after bed time someone might get up and wander in. I wonder how others make this work....?