I agree, be more direct with your MIL Amanda. She will get the message that she can hold her but not when it isn't appropriate. Dont let her make you anxious, try being assertive in a polite way and see if it helps

I'm having a rough time with Jess too. Went to sleep at 11pm, up at 2:30. Fed back to sleep then up at 3:30, 4:30, 5 and 6:30. She's done it a few nights with the same pattern. I worry the change in formula and meds is causing it or just normal baby behaviour? I'm soooo tired.

Tresillian are coming tomorrow, just for 2 hours. I wonder what they will say. Not looking forward to it TBH.