Fark me! Self absorbed much? Far out G, shame on your for making her feel bad on her birthday about something SHE DID in the first place! Never mind how bad she made poor L feel on his special day. If it were me I would have given it to her with both barrels! I'd be cutting her out for a while, sounds like she's just not worth the effort and if she really values your friendship then she'd make it up to you - which is what she should have done in the first place instead of telling you how bad you made her feel.