Were taking Amelia home today ! Let the fun begin :leap:
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Were taking Amelia home today ! Let the fun begin :leap:
Yay Kellbell!
Fantastic!!!!!
Woohoo
That's great news Kellbell!!
Yaay! ! Great news!!
She's been perfect today , sleeping feeding :-)
So so lovely being at home like a ton of pressure has been lifted off us and we can just enjoy being a family of 5
Enjoy Kellbell. What a relief for you. You must feel great x
We are blessed we still have her with us . Hold your babies close they are so precious x
I'm so glad she's home and happy Kellbell :)
AFM: I feel like a terrible mum today :(
Poor Lachlan has lost 245g this week... I don't know what else to say. He's been very unsettled but I have had milk left after he finished feeding and I've been feeding him frequently so I thought he was grumpy because he's used to being really full with too much formula and also in pain because he's had oral thrush. Ugh I just wish I could put a meter on my boobs so I'd know how much he's getting, like a petrol pump! I've got some motilium now and hopefully after putting on too much weight last week and losing this week we now have a better plan... We go back to the mchn in 2 days which I'm happy about, I'd prefer to have him monitored closely while we work out how much formula we need to top him up with. I still feel horribly guilty and I've cried a few times this afternoon :(
Oh eivie you have had a rough trot. Crying is ok. As long as you pat yourself on the back too for all the hard work you are putting in. Breast feeding is worth the effort I promise and I also promise you will get there. Still only early days. Hugs
Eivie sorry to hear about the weight loss, must be really stressful but it's definitely not your fault! You're doing the best for your baby, it's just really hard I think esp with mixed feeding to get it right. Glad you can monitor bubs more closely and I'm sure the mottilium will help!
Williever how are you, is the infection better? How is the bf/pumping? Been thinking of you!
Kellbell so glad you have your baby home now, she is just gorgeous x
I still can't even pump one full bottle a day.
I think we put a lot of pressure on ourselves to breast feed like in the movies. You know 'perfectly' without really even trying......
It's good to cry, but always remember what an amazing job you've been doing. Try to get through the upset without blaming yourself xxxx
Cattie- I think the infection is clearing and the blood has been draining. Far less painful now. Even off painkillers. I hate taking painkillers! Still on antibiotics.
Pumping is going slowly still. Ugh
Home visit is this Friday. Then will see a lactation consultant.
Just a note, pumping isn't a good indicator of milk supply. I have fed 5bubs now and have only ever been able to express 60mls both side when dd2 was sick and wasn't feeding. Only use it as one of the bits of the puzzle. Remember to look at your baby too :)
Thanks so much ladies, the support in this group is just so amazing. I'm glad you are feeling a bit better Williever. Good luck with the lc, hopefully it makes a big difference for you.
Eivie- hang In there Hun. I'm glad you have the support of having him monitored while you work it out, it will give you some peace of mind and have a good cry when and as you need it. I have realised it's easier just to let it out xx and we are all here for you =)
Tegam- looking at your own baby is the best advice! I was told to feed more often (3 hourly) and all that had led to is a baby who is throwing up half her bottle for at least half the time. She was gaining, just not to their standards and now we have a baby we are force feeding when she isn't demanding and I feel awful..
On that note, yesterday it was like maybe I will let her demand today.. She demanded every 3 hours, two hourly by the afternoon!! Someone had a growth spurt! Here I was thinking she would demand 4 hourly like normal lol...
Williever- glad to hear the infection is clearing.. I hear you on the pain killers! I hate taking any type of medication and I can't tell you how many pills I was made to take when being induced for different things.
Kellbell- I'm so happy to hear you are finally able to enjoy your family at home xx
Cattie- did you get my email for the fb group? Let me know if u have issues and I need to change my settings so u can add me xx
Hi wannabubby, I couldn't find you on fb, I pm'ed you about it? Anyway if you could change your settings so anyone can find you that would be great, or you could add me!
Ok I'll go off tapatalk and online to my messages lol
Cattie, I tried to pm you about fb but it says your pm storage is full.
Hi again everyone. My poor baby has just not had the best start in life :( after spending 5 days in hospital with the meningitis, he now has a cold & oral thrush. I swear this kids immune system is going to be one of the strongest! Lol
Oh no Kalina! Poor bubby. I hope he's better soon!
Oh poor bubby :( I'm assuming the thrush is caused by antibiotics when he had the meningitis? Lachlan has it from the antibiotics during our c-section. Are you treating it with daktarin? It might be reassuring to know after a couple of days Lachlan loves sucking the gel off my finger and spends the next 5 mins poking his tongue in and out, spreading it around his mouth, so stinking cute!! I hope your little man feels better soon.
Kalina poor bubba :( Hope the cold and thrush clear soon. It's hard seeing our babies sick. I've cleared some of my pm's if you want to try again.
DD has a cold! Poor poppet is full of snot! My other two never got sick this young 😢 I don't like it.
Poor bubbas :-( hope they feel better soon.
Poor little bubbies :(
Kalina and lady-bug how are your bubby's colds? I hope they're getting better. Our whole family have a cold and now ds sounds like he has a bit of a blocked nose too sigh.
Had mchn appt today, ds weighing 4.29kg! She suggested I could use a dummy instead of bf so frequently as he may just be comfort sucking rather than hungry. During the day he feeds every 1.5-2.5hrs! Today he barely slept at all, I'm exhausted!
The dummy could definitely make a difference. Lachlan often just needs to suck anything, daddy's nose will do, 1 min later he's fast asleep!
I had the home visit today and bub is all good. I just feel so sad. I still am getting about 40 mls a day of breast milk. Yes it's something but is it worth spending less time with my DS because I'm pumping away?!!! Bub still spends time at the breast getting nothing. I'm so upset that I can't feed her.
I need to get over it. And really I did not think I would get this upset again. Emotional day!
Have you thought about motilium? I'm pumping double after 3 days - still only 20ml at a time but my doctor said it would be a week before it kicks in so I have hope. Mind you, I don't have any other children so I'm able to make this my priority for a while.
Williever, it is upsetting not being able to provide enough milk for your child. I completely understand what you are going through. I've come to a place where I accept that he will probably need formula regardless of what I do, the bonus is he sleeps longer at night and I'm not the only one who can feed him. We have a routine now, I pump while he's on the other breast, switch sides then give him the bottle. He still loves the boob and it settles him when he's upset so I am still his comfort person. Kind of best of both worlds in a way and I only do a separate pump if I feel like it.
Williever. My advice. Remove the emotional you from the equation. She is of no help to anyone xx
Now picture yourself 12 months ago. take a deep breath and give yourself some advice. What would you have said? What would have been most important to you? What would you have suggested as a solution?
Sometimes it's 'breast feeding is do important to me I will fight for it'
And sometimes it's 'FFS stop the sadness, breast feeding just isn't that important to me'
But see only you know what is important to you. No one can give you the right answer. And either answer is the right one because it's what's most important to you!!
But being emotional now and making a decision now when you are all mixed up means you could give up breast feeding and regret it later or on the other hand you could make yourself persist and prolong the agony for no good reason.
I think it would always be wise to write ourselves a letter about things like this as soon as we fall pregnant.
I hope this helps hun and the last bit of advice is 'you'll be judged either way, there is no escaping judgemental twats. But the people that are your true friends will only want you to be happy xx
Wow Tegam, you give amazing advice! Made me cry dammit...
Ok eivie that was so not my intention lol!
Good cry lol
Tegam, beautiful words :)
Williever, I agree with everything Tegam has said. Do what's best for you.
As for David's cold, it's getting better. I've been using the Fess Little Noses aspirator to unblock him. I still can't believe he was a month old yesterday. Any other bubs starting to smile? Or goo & gaa?
Yeah I'm sure Lachlan is smiling on purpose now, he's a month tomorrow. His sound is 'nnnnnn-Ger! It can be used as a happy sound or a sad sound. He likes it when I say it back to him lol.
Glad David is feeling better :)
Haha David's sound is "oh-ahhhhh" usually during nakey times lol
Hi girls, DD's cold is getting better, slowly. Yeah I think we are starting to get smiles too! So gorgeous. We had our first 'poo-narmie' yesterday, wow. Not fun. Hope everyone is doing well x
Great to hear about all these smiles. I'm getting a few and some pretty cute girlie sounds :-)
Lady-bug- I'm glad her cold is improving. Gotta love a poo-narmie!!!
Kalina- glad your little man is feeling better too!
Tegam- I have been thinking about your words all night. I know what I would have said pre- pregnancy (which is probably why I'm so surprised that I'm so upset) and thinking about that is beginning to help. I am still a little emotional about it so I will have to work through that.
I promised myself that I would not let this take over and for the sake of my sanity and my boys enjoyment of everyday things I will stick by that promise. I just need to put the emotional me aside...... That will take a few days.
For now, while DH is on leave I will give her what I can. After that she will be fully formula fed and she will survive and continue to thrive. Just like her brother!
BUT thank you for those thought/ reality provoking words Tegam!!!! I'll never forget them!
See still emosh!!!!