Hi ladies! Have been reading posts without replying last couple of days, just the usual story, no time!
Delph - I was momentarily confused when I saw you write Lily instead of Gumnut, lol. It's such a beautiful name I guess you want to use it more often! Your DH sounds AMAZING. It makes me almost want to suggest my DH and I reverse the roles. He's pretty good, but not sure he'd be that good! Three teeth, wow! I thought T might have one about to come up ages ago but nothing has appeared yet. Have to blame the bad sleeping etc on something else, doh. So does Lily actually say DaDa in reference to your DH? Travis has been saying mumumum the last few days but it's purely babble. It also sounds like he says "Emmy" sometimes which is freaky!
OP - yeah, congrats on the house! Is it perfect as is or will renovations be on the cards?
Dr T - sorry to hear you don't like your work, I hadn't realized that. Must make it so much harder to go back and leave B. But he's such an advanced little thing, I bet he'll really enjoy it! Has he been around other babies before? I'm not sure if I mentioned but I went to a xmas party with a bunch of mums and their bubs all about Travis' age and plonked him on the mat with the other babies and he was fascinated! I walked away and kept an eye on him from a distance and he was having a great time, gave big smiles to anyone who pointed a camera in his direction. So cute! It made me feel much more comfortable with the idea of putting him in day care for that one day a week next month.
Hi to everyone else, doesn't seem to be anyone else with a post on this page and I'm too tired to go back. Hope you're all doing well though!
I don't know what can make it better hun... Is there any way you can not be at work??? Have you looked into CL entitlements, any sort of work you can do from home, whether DH can do something else?
If the answer to that is no, please take heart from the reassurances of the carers that he is fine once you're gone. I know that's really easy for me to say but I hope it is true!!
It does get easier. What helped me with my return to work was knowing it was temporary - I was already pg with X and I actually counted the number of days until I was due to finish and wrote it in my diary. Helped a bit, looking at those numbers each day.
Hang in there. Think of the benefit of this to your family. It'll get easier.
Thanks for your replys and hugs everyone. Obviously I had a really rough week last week. I'm really praying that this coming week is easier.
EJ - I had actually completely forgotten about the seperattion anxiety thing and that it starts aboutnow. And that actually made me feel a lot better strangely enough. But we'll see how I am feeling when I have to leave him again on Tuesday.
OP - Unfortunately DH and I have gone over finances again and again and if we want to keep our house we can't afford for me to not work at all as my job pays the mortgage. We're hoping soon that DH's new business will be able to cover my wage as well, but that looks to be a bit off unfortunately.
AFU - There is a chance I might get out of having to go into work next week, but I'm not sure if that is a good thing or not simply because of the reason. B got croup and is really quite miseragle. He is really horse and sounds like a strangled cat and he also is having a bit of a hard time breathing when he's sleeping. He seems to be getting a bitbetter now. Also I seem to hace caught something as well and have had quite a high fever and a really upset stomach the whole weekend as well. I also seem to be feeling a bit better, but with any luck (not sure it that's really the way to look at it) one (hopefully just me) or both of us might still be sick come Tuesday so I'll be able to call in sick That's probably the first time in years I've actually wante3d to be sick
Dr T - poor B and you for being sick! Not sure whether I should wish you a speedy recovery or not though, very confusing! Sorry if you've already explained this, but is the option of DH getting paid work completely off the table? Or is he working already anyway? And how many days did you say you're working?
Delph - hope the 3rd tooth has broken through and things have settled down?
Hi Salad and OP, and anyone else still lurking!
AFU - T is still waking up 2 or 3 times a night, and we're co-sleeping after the first or second time and he is SO squirmy in the early hours that it wakes me up constantly. He'll go down between 7 and 8pm usually and be ready to get up some time between about 4.30am (gah!) and 6.30am. Will he ever get into a nice routine? And today he had 3 short naps while feeding during the day, so it's not like he's getting too much sleep during the day as some deaf people keep suggesting. It's so frustrating.
So basically not much has changed with respect to sleep!
As for other developmental milestones, I can actually see a bulge where the tooth is coming through on the top of his gum at the moment. How long do they take to break through? He's still not crawling, just doing the rocking on hands and knees, but he's finally able to go forward by pushing himself along the ground with his feet now. I think he's been slightly less frustrated since he picked up that trick!
EJ - DH does do paid work. He works himself nearly to death. On average he probably works close to 60 hours per week. His paying job (so to speak) is as a cabinet maker and he works between 40 and 50 hours a week doing that, his new business is doing laminate, timber and tile repair and on average he gets about 10 hours in on that every week at the moment. He's hoping to slowly phase out the amount of time with cabinet making as he gets more repairs as it pays better. But like any new business (as in we think he might be the only one in Australia doing it) it's taking a while to get going.
The biggest problem is his debt. VERY VERY long story there, and another reason for me to dislike his MIL and SIL. The semi shortened version is: I found out what was going on with his finances about 2 years after we started dating and as soon as I found out I explained it all to him properly (DH really isn't very good money and accounting wise) and when the penny dropped he realised how much his mother had been screwing him. But he has a MASSIVE, and I mean MASSIVE tax debt (basically she told him he didn't need to file income or BAS for about 7ish years as it was a 'hobby' and therefore didn't need to be declared. As she was an accountant for a major builder at the time he stupidly believed her. So at the moment we're paying his current taxes as well as 7+ years of old taxes AND interest on the old taxes. So that takes a HUGE chunck out of his earnings each week. and the reason I need to work if we want to keep our house.
That kind of makes DH sound like an idiot. He really isn't he just has no mind for money. He was also brainwashed (I'll call it that because I can't thihnk of what else to call it and that's what it seems like to me) by his mother for years to beleive whatever she told him. Add to that the fact that his mother actively encouraged him to do poorly in school (I think it gave her better control over him, he never even finished grade 10 and since she never made him study or do homework he didn't do very wekk the 9 and a bit years he did go) and it really was just a recipe for disaster. I've been teaching him how to read (yes you read that correctly he didn't even know how to read before he met me, made it easy for her to lie to him about LOTS of things), he's quite good at it now, and a lot about history and science and that sort of stuff and he's wanting to do a couple tafe courses fairly soon. Just a really bad situation he was in all round really Saddest bit is that he's actually really smart. He picks things up so quickly and he really seems to enjoy it as well.
As for my working I'm doing 3 days a week till B is a year old and then I'll most likely have to go back to full time work. But that's partly to do with works maternity leave benefits as well. DH and I are most likely going to try for another baby, and I have to work for 1 year full time after one maternity laeave before they'll pay out another full maternity leave. So it I was only working for 3 days a week I'd only be entitled to 3/5ths of 14 weeks (whatever that is) But if I work 5 days a week for 1 year I'm entitled to 14 weeks plus I'll have accumulated close to 12 weeks annaul leave by then again so able to take 6 months full paid leave.
Confused yet
Sorry to hear that T is still waking so much during the night. B has started to as well, so not sure now if it's daycare or maybe just a growth spurt? We also do the cosleeping after a wake up or two and he gets really wiggly at about the same time! That would be frustrating with people saying he's getting too much sleep during the day especially since as you say he doens't seem to sleep during the day either
Does T have bottom teeth? Can't say I recall you saying he'd gotten his bottom ones. Or will the top one be his first? Only asking as am prety sure that usually the bottom ones come in first (although I'm sure there are exceptions to that just like anything else )
Geez Dr T, I hadn't read the full story of your DH's finance situation before! That's just terrible about your MIL. I'm gobsmacked! Has she put the builder she worked for in dire straits too?? And poor DH having to work so many hours. But good work you for all the stuff you're teaching him, and him for taking it in! Well it definitely sounds like you've thought through all possibilities given your situation. And when it all comes down to it, you're B's awesome mummy and he's going to love you whatever happens!
I wonder if everyone else's babies get wiggly at the same time as ours? I wish it was a growth spurt but he's been doing the same thing for so long now I gave that hope up! Hopefully B will settle back down for you though.
AFU - We think T's tooth has broken through on one edge because it's very sharp! Dr T, I must have written something about feeling the bulge on the top of his gum but what I meant was the top of his bottom gum (if that makes sense?). It's the right bottom front tooth to be precise! I tried to take a photo but even on macro it was really blurry. Gah, I can't upload it on bellybelly anyway and I can't seem to sign up for photobucket. Grr.
Emma - How scary! I didn't realise you were near the impacted area either! Really hope that everything went well last night and the stream near your house didn't get to high. Hope all three of you, and your home, are okay
OP - That must be so cute to watch X and your DD interact like that! I know B gets really excited about the dogs and smiles and giggles when they come over and smell him and lick him and he is constantly scooting to and over them. That's cute, but it woudl be so much different to watch him interact with a sibling.
WOW X is long Every time you say how long he is I'm amased! B is only just slight above the 50th percentile at 68cm and people are always commenting on how long he is and X so SO MUCH longer.
Work was a bit easier this week, thanks for asking. Tuesday was good as he willingly went with one of the carers. He was the same yesterday morning, but when I went to feed him for lunch he got upset when I left. Then last night he was super clingy again and he didn't sleep well at all last night and I am thinking he's sick again, but I'll get into that more later.
M2A - so good to see you again. Ayva is trying to stand! Sounds like it will only be a matter of time before she's running around and getting into mischief...hehehe
That's so sad about their father not even trying to see them and only bumping into him accidentally. Would have been hard to see Aiden not wanting to go near him as I think I remember you saying that Aiden really liked him. But I guess it's only to be expected that Ayva cried since she's never seen him before. I'm with OP definitely sounds like you are better off without him
AFU - I'll start with B and my boohoo section. I'm pretty sure he's sick again...yeah daycare (that was said VERY sarcastically). Like I said a bit earlier he was really clingy yesterday afternoon and didn't sleep well at all last night as in he was waking up about every 45 minutes. Then this morning he vomited. Not just a spit up like he usually does, he was heaving before and full on projectile vomited, poor baby. I also hope I am being really paranoid but I think he might possibly have chickenpox He's got a couple little bumps/sores/blisters on him that look very suspicious and I remember seeing a note on one of the older children daycare doors that a child had been diagnosed with chickenpox a few weeks ago. So I really hope I am being a hypocondriac on B's behalf. Especially since DH hasn't had chickenpox yet. I have, but it could be a disaster if B has them and DH catches them. So obviously I'm not at work today and I have a doctors appointmet for B today at 3.
Now my WOOHOO....I figure I deserve one after my last two weeks. I weighed myself last night and I've lost 28 kilos since B was born I am so stoked. I don't think I actually mentioned it when I was pregnant that despite the fact I only gained about 5 kilos up until 32 weeks at about 33ish or so weeks I gained close on 20 kilos over night (I know...crazy...) stupid fluid retention. Anway, I now weigh less then I did before I got pregnant....by about 5 kilos! SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO HAPPY!!!! I am/was a bit overweight and had wanted to get my weight down some so I am really stoked about that! YEAH ME
Luckily the river didn't get as high as it did in the 74 floods and it hasn't rained much the last couple of days so the creek didn't rise at all. Such a relief! But there are so many people whose houses were completely flooded, it's incredible. I hope people who are actually in need get as many offers of help if as we did.
Dr T - great work on the weight loss! Fingers crossed B doesn't have chickenpox and your DH doesn't catch it if he does. Did you know there is a booster for that? I had it before I got pregnant with T because I hadn't had it as a kid.
OP - Don't know how I forgot to mention about your settlement today in your last post. I hope it all went well!
Emma - I keep trying to tell DH he needs to get the booster for it, but he doesn't I think I am just going to have to book him in myself. I had them when I was in second grade, so I'm good.
So glad to hear that they water didn't affect you. It's been really horrible watching all the devestation on the TV. I'm going to be donating some of my annual leave days, work has organised it so you can give up some of your annual leave and they will make the equivalent monitary contribution on your behalf, so I am look at giving up about a week of my annual leave.
AFU - The good news is that B didn't have chickenpox The bad news is that he's apparently allergic to something. No clue what though. I'd not introduced a new food to him in about five days, so I can rule that out. Unfortunately, that makes it much harder as the food would have been the easy thing. Now I have to try and figure out what he was exposed to in the past few days that he's not been exposed to before, and given that he'd been at daycare for two days this week that could be just about anything At least he seems to be feeling better and he's stopped vomiting...YEAH!
Owens - WELCOME BACK of course you're welcome here! Can't wait to hear how A is going and how your other little ones are liking having a new (or perhaps not so new now) baby sister.
Lise - OUCH! Unfortunately (or perhaps fortunately) I can't say I've had anything like that at all. All I can think is that when F bit you he broke the skin and you ended up getting an infection. I know human bites can be quite nasty infection wise. Does the doctor know you think it might have been from a bite? that might make a difference in what you are given to treat it. It's a lot harder to do but have you tried manual extraction as opposed to a breast pump? That doesn't focus so much on the nipple so to speak to might not hurt as much. Just a thought.
AFU - B has his doctors appointment to have another look at his hypospaedeus (sp??) and to determine which op he'll need (the easy or the hard) and to schedule an operation date. that it's only the 'easy' one he'll need.
I haven't read back over the thread yet, but will try to over the next few days
Dr Tal, I hope B's Dr's app went well, did you find out which op he will have to have?
Lise, I hope you're feeling better. I had a really really sore right breast about a month ago. Was tender in the morning, by that night I could hardly touch it! I iced it literally with ice packs all night and just put Annabelle on constantly to feed. I was exhausted and it absolutely killed, but by lunch the next day, it was starting to feel better. Don't know what it was and not the same as you, but it worked for me, hope you get it sorted quickly!!!
AFU - so Annabelle is an amazing baby, so placid and easy , the easiest of my 4 children for sure. She's not sleeping through yet so thats hard as my twins still don't sleep through either and they're 3 .Besides that, she's just lovely. I had her weighed last Thur and has just reached 6kg. A is starting to crawl, but as she's quite little she looks funny moving about everywhere. Im very proud of myself as im still bf Annabelle - I didn't feed my other children for long, so its been an amazing experience. I now understand the bond mothers talk about with their babies when it comes to bf. I really didn't get it before, but it really is special. Im suprised I've made it to almost 7 months though, its hectic with a 6yr old, the twins being 3 and trying to feed A. I swear they wait until im feeding to be starving, thirsty, NEED that toy, want a cuddle etc etc lol. But we're managing!
I found it hard after having A with not having my mum here, but had some amazing friends help me through. Unfortunately they've been posted away with the army recently so am missing them terribly atm .
My other 3 children adore Annabelle, so I think that has made having a new baby easier.
Ummmm, so I think thats about me updated!
I hope everyone's well and I will get back to reading the thread so I can catch up!
Owens - So glad to hear that A is such a fantastic baby! And it must make it all the better with your other three adoring her. That's FANTASTIC about the BF as well. You must be really stoked.
Sorry it's making it hard missing your mum though and with having your friends posted away Just curious where you are located if you don't mind telling people.
AFU - Lets see how far I get.
Yesterday at the specialist appointment. B's operation date is set for the 14th of Feb. At the moment he's going to try to do the 'easy' operation as (pardon the non technical term) his pee tube is in an okay place. Problem is that there is very little skin covering the top section of his pee tube. The doctor said it's like tissue paper, so there is a very high chance that he could 'spring a leak' (doctors exact words) in which case he'll need to reconstruct the pee tube (what he's hoping he doesn't have to do) the 'hard' op. The 'easy' op is just day surgery, but if things don't go quite right and he ends up having to do the 'hard' one B will be in hospital for a week.
Today I kept B home from daycare again. He's still sick and didn't seem to be getting better. Took him into the doctor and he's got a chest infection (just starting) and an ear infection...which apparenlty the doctor seems to think he's had for quite some time I feel horrible for not having noticed! But he's not pulling or tugging at his ear and he's not whingy or anything, just clingy, but I assumed that was do to the stuffy nose he's had (perhaps something to do with the amber teething necklace I have on him??) That having been said he had him into the doctor only about 10 days ago for his vomiting and the doctor didn't pick it up then. Today's doctor thinks he's had it for about 2 weeks. Neighter DH or I liked the doctor B saw last time (he had him in hysterics after only taking his temp ) but after today we'll definitely not be using him again even if he's the only one with an open appointment. So poor little B is on antibiotics now for both of them...oh well. Stupid daycare (don't know if that's where he actually picked them up, but I'll blame them anyway, makes me feel better ) So he's not allowed to go to daycare for the rest of the week, which means I also don't have to go to work
just want to pop in and say Dr Tal dont feel bad about not picking up on an ear infection they can go unoticed for a long time in some children, poor lil B. With the antibiotics maybe go get him some childrens inner health plus (probiotics) too many anti biotics can really mess with him tummy and probiotics will help balance out the good bad bacteria in his system. maybe you could investigate a vitamin supplement for him also help build up his poor little immune system, there is one called pentavite but I cant remember what age group can have it he may be too little, I dont like pentavite coz it has artificial colours but you could speak to a naturopath. You are a great mum and doing such a fantatic job, lets hope B only needs the easy surgery.
Hang in there. Think of the benefit of this to your family. It'll get easier.
that this coming week is easier.
and is really quite miseragle. He is really horse and sounds like a strangled cat and he also is having a bit of a hard time breathing when he's sleeping. He seems to be getting a bitbetter now. Also I seem to hace caught something as well and have had quite a high fever and a really upset stomach the whole weekend as well. I also seem to be feeling a bit better, but with any luck (not sure it that's really the way to look at it) one (hopefully just me) or both of us might still be sick come Tuesday so I'll be able to call in sick 
That's probably the first time in years I've actually wante3d to be sick 
Saddest bit is that he's actually really smart. He picks things up so quickly and he really seems to enjoy it as well.
so good to see you again. Ayva is trying to stand! 
I am so stoked. I don't think I actually mentioned it when I was pregnant that despite the fact I only gained about 5 kilos up until 32 weeks at about 33ish or so weeks I gained close on 20 kilos over night 
The bad news is that he's apparently allergic to something. No clue what though. I'd not introduced a new food to him in about five days, so I can rule that out. Unfortunately, that makes it much harder as the food would have been the easy thing. Now I have to try and figure out what he was exposed to in the past few days that he's not been exposed to before, and given that he'd been at daycare for two days this week that could be just about anything 
) but after today we'll definitely not be using him again even if he's the only one with an open appointment. So poor little B is on antibiotics now for both of them...oh well. Stupid daycare (don't know if that's where he actually picked them up, but I'll blame them anyway, makes me feel better 
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