I don't think I've ever actually said anything about DH's financial situation before...not really one of those things you talk about IYKWIM. That was the really shortened version of it, the whole thing was just twisted...much like any other story that involves MIL and SIL. (still shortened version but a bit more info) DH was basically on the verge of being put in jail because of it and he was completely oblivious to it all. The tax office kept sending him stuff, but he couldn't read could he. He'd give it to his mum so she could tell him what was going on and she'd just feed him a bunch of bull. It was sheer coincidence that I found out about it. He got really mad at his mum one day and came around to visit me. Had his mail in his ute still. He got me to read his mail for him and it just happened that one of them was from the tax office (really, what were the odds that he'd get one from them on that particular day??!!). It was a really threatening FINAL NOTICE one with his outstanding amount the due date (as if he could have paid that much by that date) and the amount of jail time he'd need to do if he didn't get it paid by that day. He thought I was joking...of course this was the first he knew of it poor bugger. Up till them his mother kept telling him a bunch of BS, which is just sickeningshe was prepared to let him go to jail instead of taking 'her money' (yes, she viewed all DH's money he made has hers) to pay his taxes
We both took the next day off work and spent the entire day at the tax office trying to get things sorted for him. Ended that he obviously still has to pay the money back, but no more interest was incurred from the date we saw them provided that he makes his payment every fortnight. But it is/was a huge bill and will take years to pay. Has given us lots of hassles since finance wise...everything basically has to be in my name only because his credit rating will be horrid till the debt is paid, despite the fact that he makes HEAPS more then I do. But you can't really explain it wasn't is fault because no one would believe the truth ITMS.
As soon as we got that sorted and got home DH asked me to give him his first reading lesson...he had obviously learned his mother couldn't be trusted. And I got to read all the mail for him after that until he was able to read it himself. He also put me in charge of his finances and ALL his money. Which caused HUGE fights between him and his mother and his mother and me. She viewed it all as hers and in her mind I was stealing from her when in reality I was just putting it in a savings account for him and giving him what he needed to pay bills plus have some pocket money. Would you beleive despite the fact he was the one who made all the money he never had an allowance (of his own money??!!) She took it all and he basically had nothing??!!
He read his first 'proper adult book' (an investment book) just before B was born. Needed a bit of help from time to time and took him AGES (not that I'd ever say that to him) but I was very proud of him and he was really stoked as well. He every now and then will sit down and read to B and I occasionally catch him telling him that B needs to be smart like mummy and learn to read and write so he doesn't end up in messes like daddy did (that one breaks my heart).
so good to see you again. Ayva is trying to stand! 
I am so stoked. I don't think I actually mentioned it when I was pregnant that despite the fact I only gained about 5 kilos up until 32 weeks at about 33ish or so weeks I gained close on 20 kilos over night 
I think I am just going to have to book him in myself. I had them when I was in second grade, so I'm good.
The bad news is that he's apparently allergic to something. No clue what though. I'd not introduced a new food to him in about five days, so I can rule that out. Unfortunately, that makes it much harder as the food would have been the easy thing. Now I have to try and figure out what he was exposed to in the past few days that he's not been exposed to before, and given that he'd been at daycare for two days this week that could be just about anything 
At least he seems to be feeling better and he's stopped vomiting...YEAH!
I can actually get him to keep it. He's a shocker when it comes to going to the doctor. He's always worried about taking time off work and it costing too much (we go to one that doesn't bulk bill) and wasting the doctors time etc… Not sure it that's just a typical male thing or if that's another thing I can blame on his mother.
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