Lairdoz, I'm so sorry to hear about the baby I don't think she will want you to hide your son away from her but maybe have the first visit with out him and ask her if she wants to see him. When we lost Riley people gave me some space then asked if i would mind if they brought their bubbas along, I actually enjoyed having a cuddle with them altho i bawled my eyes out holding them. Just see how she feels first