Firstly, there is a reason they use sleep deprivation as a form of torture. It affects you psychologically, physically and emotionally. I've been there. I know what it's like to feel like you're in a bad dream day in, day out. Living in a fog. Will C take EBM? I think you need at least one night where Damien can get up to all three kids and you can get a good nights' sleep.
Use your phone as an alarm for the baby sessions at the library and play groups. Set the alarm in your phone so it goes off and then displays WHY it's going off. Set it for half an hour before you want to leave - or maybe an hour so you have time to get the munchkins out the door.
Are there any kind of groups you can join for you? Netball? Yoga? A book club? A knitting club? Anything? Even if it's something new or even something you're not really interested in, it will get you out of the house and around other adults. I honestly know what you mean about Damien being the only other adult you see or talk to for weeks at a time. That was me last year until Ben started school. And I don't have the excuse of living the country. I then joined a netball team. I'm also doing the Couch to 5K running program, and although it's a solo thing, I feel SO good after having that half hour to myself. And it's free
As for the housework, I do the bare minimum here at the moment. I would much rather spend time playing with the boys, so the house looks like a bomb's hit it all the time. I do one load of washing and the washing up each and every day. Get Lil and Li to 'help' you with the washing up. Sure it might take twice as long, but it will get done AND keep them occupied for a little while. Ben loves it.
Same goes for gardening. Well, I do nothing in the garden except water my plants because I really hate it, but if you enjoy it, get the two older kids out there pulling out weeds for you. My two older ones really enjoy that too. The fresh air will perk you up and the kids can burn off some energy. Put C into the HAB if you have to and become the supervisor, telling the kids what to do. Of course, it won't help mow the lawn, but it will help with the littler things.
Okay, that's all I've got for now and I've gotta pick up Ben anyway. Hang in there Kel!
Mel has some great ideas, LOL i set my phone all the time. The other day my alarm was going off. I go over to it thinking 'what the hell is that going off for'?? It was for the hair dressers appointment id only made 2hrs before! only had 15mins to get there cuase i thought that there was no way i could forget...idiot LOL
Ok Kell you know i harp on about it but ill say it again, You need some exercise in your life. If the house is already a mess and C likes his cuddles then strap on that HAB and get outside! Leave the mess and your troubles behind. I know my mental healthy improves extremely when i get some exercise. Also yes you should cut all that stuff out of your diet again, if it helps C then its worth it but also you know that none of that is good for your mental health or calming down when it comes to rest time. i am a huge believer in 'if you arent getting your energy from sleep then you need to get it from food' But you need to pick the right foods, like high protein and complex carbs! chocolate wont help your mind racing at 2am!
Walk away from the guilt, it does none of us any good! be proud of what you do do! Look at how beautiful your children are, you made them and your created their personality, if you were lacking then so would they be!
You are doing a great job and you know that this stage will pass. One day when they are all teenages and we are freaking out cause they arent home yet, we will want to swap anything to go back to these days!
so long time no post in here. How are you all doing? well i hope. I seem to now finally have got a grasp on the mum of three plus wife thing. My home is now clean and seems to be staying that way.I have dinner on the table by 6 sometimes sooner. Kids in bed one at 7 the other at 8 and bubs goes down between 7-8. Lunches are being made clothes are finally being ironed and folded.....not just pilling up and up. Feeling much better about life i must say.
So how are you all going with kids? Phoebe is doing so well i wish she would slow down tho and stay a baby a bit longer She is rolling from back to front the front to back.Is trying to sit up. My eldest is doing amazing now he even got yet another award at school so very proud of him And today is my bday D
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She is rolling from back to front the front to back.Is trying to sit up. My eldest is doing amazing now he even got yet another award at school so very proud of him 
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