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I got told too much of the first milk causes belly aches, we try to stretch c out to 3hrly feeds. Still giving infants friend before each feed.
Scone I feel your pain c was like that the first 3 weeks or so. Not fun. She still has her off days but so much better. We have changed feeding,burping,going to chiro and giving infants friend. Don't know what's helped but I'm not game to change anything lol.
Afm - did the dumbest thing. Omg I thought I had an grown hair cos there was a lump along my c section scar with what felt like a hair sticking out. It was the f*cking stitches! But it must be done on one long stitch like sewing and I didnt realise til I'd pulled about 10cms out. Oooooooouch. Now its stinging and burning. What a moron I am!
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Sounds alot like wyatt to ferrals
scone- maybe wyatt is just a fast feeder. He never drinks for long but always seems to empty the booby. I never take him off, he goes as long as he wants any time of day, but alot of it is comfort sucking depending on his mood.
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Well after a night of screaming and a not so proud mummy moment add on to no speaking to DH since 830 and we had a great night. After J crying from 7-830 DH took him and got him to sleep. I woke dh 4am stressing cause he hadn't woken for the total 130/230 feed. Just as I got to his door he stired. Feww.
We have a bit of back arching here too but think that is more of a defiant not wanting to go to/ overtired thing.
Hoping today is a better one. Just wish he would go back to work he is ticking me off along with this rainy crap weather. So over it.
Hope u are all well. I'm on phone so can't remember what posts there were so come back Eden stupid laptop is working
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Where you feed off the one side for 3 hours then switch sides. Supposed to help them if they are feeding hourly and hardly sleeping.
Jaki-i forgot to add to the list Ella gets a croaky voice to which is a symptom.
I rang my doctor again and pushed getting into to see him today at 3:00.
I cant believe i have left it so long thinking it was wind or colic it all makes sense now all the moaning and groaning arching back and neck (she even sleeps with her back arched poor baby) gulping ect it all now makes sense to me i feel so bad letting her go so long and just changing formulas BAD MOTHER BAD BAD MOTHER!!!!!
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Ferrals I don't think it makes you a bad mother. Most of the symptoms can be explained as general newborn fussiness or that their formula isn't very good on their bellies - which is why most reflux isn't diagnosed till 6ish weeks - cos nobody really picks up on things that newborns do until they seem to do it all the time and then we look for further explanation as to why. So don't think you are a bad mum.
Currently carrying S in the close carrier at the moment, oh what I wouldn't give for a nice quiet house. My 17 month old is the loudest child in the world, no wonder the baby can't sleep with all her whinging and carrying on. I had just got S asleep (after several feeds) and put her down, then E decided to stand outside the bedroom door (which is also where our dining room is) and whinge for no reason. No reason!!! Even after telling her to shut the eff up (yes, yes, bad mummy for swearing - meh) she still whinged and then of course - S woke up.
So frustrating, I just want to lock her in her room when S is sleeping because she walks around either yelling or whinging (again, for no reason!) and always wakes her. Anyway, thats my whinge from a mum of many - so count your blessings those with one child cos at least they don't get woken up by their noisy siblings!! lol
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The thread is moving fast and I have no hope on catching up on the last few days.
We had a bad day yesterday as well. I'm lucky that the nights are usually good, bar the 3 hourly feeds. By the end of the day I was in tears as DS hadn't slept except for 10 minutes here and there and was grizzly all day. I was scared to wake up to deal with today as I would find 2 days in a row hard to deal with.
Today I thought I would try out a new strategy and rather than responding to DS the instant there is a grizzle to let DS grizzle for a few minutes (about the time it took to wash and rinse the bottles and breast pump equipment). He was asleep after a few minutes of grizzling. My philosophy is to respond to a crying baby at this age so I'm not sure if it was wrong or not to let DS have a short grizzle. It wasn't one of the waa- waa type cries just some grizzling. What do you ladies think? Is it normal for a baby to grizzle before going off to sleep? Would you respond at the grizzle point or just at the waa-waa type crying point?
Arimeh - I often think how difficult it would be to have another young child to manage as well as attending to DS.
Ferrals - you aren't a bad mother, we are all just trying to do our best and sometimes it takes a little while to work our LO out. It would help if we could read their minds!!
Ella - ouch, I hope you are okay.
Sammie - how cute. It makes a bad day so much better when you get a little smile or a coo.
I have my first mother's group meeting today. I'm looking forward to meeting some other mothers in my area with children the same age. We were asked to bring a small plate to share. I could only manage to organise biscuits as we had such a bad day yesterday as a rushed into the supermarket and out whilst DS was crying. I feel a bit embarrased. I'm normally the person who brings a cake or a slice.
Lisa-If ella is fed watered clean bum and clearly tired and cranky i will let her cry even the full on wah wah i do this for a few minutes at a time then go in pop the dummy in roll her to the other side and walk out and every time she carries on I wait a little longer and i can hear her cry then try to settle herself with the sounds of her sucking her dummy and it usually takes a few times and she goes off to sleep with no patting or rocking.
Of course i never let her get to worked up because then she wont settle but i find if i let her get to tired say we have been in and out of the car a lot shopping ect and she has not had her normal sleep she will play up longer in the evening.
Arimeh-Thanks i feel like a 1st time mum again with Ella she is a mystery where my boys i could read all the signs and they were awesome bubbies.
I have to admit i got really p#ssed off with ella last night that i still cant get her into the routine i want and that i cant settle her as easy as i did the boys i keep comparing her to them and i know i shouldnt but i cant help it i found myself wondering why on earth i agreed to have another baby 3 years ago when DH asked when i had stopped at the 3 boys i cant believe i was thinking that after all the heartache we went through and the ivf and the longing to have a baby together and we got our miracle girl and i am soooo in love with her but FRUSTRATED with her.
DOES THAT MAKE SENSE.
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oh girls, i feel bad now, making you all second guess ur bubbas etc
ferraks - ur not a bad mumma, it's all a guessing game and a matter of elimination, hugs sweety
well we had a good nite, not sure if it's the zantac or it's from the osteo but everytime jack feeds he does a poo!! we have just had a screaming episode but i was naughty n had a chocolate
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Ferrals - thanks for the reassurance. What you are saying makes absolute sense. Mine is an IVF bubba and when I feel frustrated I feel really bad because I know how much I wanted him and how many other ladies on IVF would want to be in my position. I'm also in love with my little one, the highs are high and the lows are low!! When he does something really cute it makes the bad moments melt away for a little while and I realise how much I love him.
Iona - I'm eating heaps of chocolate from Easter maybe this is affecting DS behaviour. It's a little comfort eating and sugar to keep me awake. I hope it's not from chocolate...one of my favourite foods.
Well back from the doctors and he said Ella's gut sounds are terrible and they should not sound like that so that would explain all the moaning and groaning he does think she has silent reflux as she did the whole regurgatation of clear fluid and swallowed it back down and then screamed while he was examing her he had a look in her throat and it is a little red so he has put her on Zantac 1ml twice a day and we go back next week and let him know if there is a change in her.
He said it is a very safe drug as they give it to premmie babies in NICU to help them with reflux as there little bodies are not developed yet.
So lets hope this works he said we should see an improvement in her in a day or so if it is silent reflux
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ferrals - here's hoping the zantac works
Iona-your not wrong there i am actually nervous about tonight how dumb does that sound i am just hopeing for her to have a settled sleep even if its only 3-4 hours between feeds just no moaning and groaning and uncomfortable pain it is starting to wear me down a little the days are fine i can settle her but nights when i am trying to sleep and am tired i dont handle that so well i get impatient.
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Hope the zantac works for ella ferrals
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ferrals: hoping the zantac works and little Ella (and you) get a good nights sleep. And of course you aren't a bad mother, you went through options to see what was wrong and you figured it out. Your an awesome mumma!
iona: I never notice a difference with C when I eat chocolate, Im going to have to pay more attention next time I have some...wait DH bought me home cold rock for dinner!!! cookies and cream ice cream with a choc fudge brownie...imma eat that tonight and see how C goes tomorrow hehehe
lisa: how did your mothers group go?? I meet up with some girls from school who had had babies and we just chat for like 3 hours, much like the bb dfo meets actuallyits always good to be able to ask questions from other mothers. I read somewhere when a baby is under 3 months there is no such thing as cuddling too much so I over cuddle right now but I also do let him grizzle if he is just making noises but as soon as it gets a little more waa-waa then I pick him up. It happened once that C was overtired and I put him down he grizzled for a while then drifted off so I dont think there is anything wrong with that.
mel: I am def counting my blessings
Kylz: sounds like J is doing some good long sleeping
lou: hey while you are at the drs tomorrow think you could ask when the area around the scar is supposed to stop hurting when you push it??? I don't want to have to pay $60 just to ask my GP that lol.
And hello to everyone I missed of course!!!
Just put C down for a sleep, my first attempt, usually it takes 2-3 so just waiting for him to realise that I've dumped him in the bassinet
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holy crap in 1 week and 1 day Chase will be 3 months old!!!!
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kitty - the mothers group went well. my humble plate of biscuits fit in very well with the other busy first time mothers. my pregnancy was to term but I also miss my little one being inside me at times. I agree I tend to believe that bubs at this age can't be cuddled enough.
Ferrals - hope you are having/had a good night!
AFM: just up expressing so thought I;d jump on to pass time away as I finished my library book. Okay should do some pelvic floor exercises before I finish up expressing.
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Holy Dooley! Time does fly! I was only saying to dh last night E is 6 weeks Friday! It's not been that long I swear!I think about my next pregnancy as well, but it's a dream coz dh is going to the 'vet'.
I have sorta worked out the cries now. There is a I'm hungry scream, I'm hungry cry, I want to be held cry, my bum needs changing and I'm-awake-and-no-ones-paying-me-attention cry. I like that one, it sounds pretty cute! I'll let her have a bit of a cry, just to work out which. Sometimes she'll just whinge and go back to sleep. All that said, if we're out or if it's just a particularly scream-y day, my stress level goes up and I get so stressed out! I've had a few these last couple of days.
The smiles are what make the hard parts easy. I'm a 2nd time round parent and sometimes think I knew more 1st time than this time!
The noisy sibling here just keeps kissing E and squeezing her chubby cheeks. He's absolutely smitten. She does seem too disturbed about his noise- probably coz he didn't shut up all pregnancy and that's all she heard lol
Hope we all have a better day today! E has needles at 830 (I have to bring my grandma with me for J as we were measuring everyone last night with a tape measure and we mentioned to him that's what the dr will do and he burst into tears for about 20mins coz he doesn't want the dr to hurt 'his' baby!) twinkle toes photos again today... Please let us get sone good ones with no crying and screaming!
Have a good day!
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