Arte, it may have been a spectacular failure for you, but it sounds like it is the only thing that works for them. When we had to do it with A when he was going through the roughest of his reflux problems, I hated it - DH did too, but I had to just suck it up and do it because thats what worked best. Sometimes you have to put your own needs aside and do what works and what gets you all the most sleep.

With W's behaviour, when has he ever truly had a time when it was 100% good? He has always been a high maintenance child and true, it does seem to fluctuate depending on how bad his sleep is, but I think it is all part of a bigger problem. Going to a GP could help a lot - getting a referral to have a sleep study done on him would be a start and see if there is a neurological problem causing it, because maybe if there is a 'reason' for it, then there can be a solution to deal with it. I'm sure I speak for all of us when I say that we just want you to be able to have a night where you don't have a fight happen and that you can go to bed knowing that you wont be getting up 10 times before morning. Most of all I know how tough this is going to be once you have the baby - and my older two were brilliant sleepers, but still found it tough at times once P was born and getting used to dealing with 3 little ones on my own.