I don't think he is on the spectrum. He is generally a nice, well behaved kid. It is just these random patches when he won't go to bed, won't stay asleep and acts silly during the day. His behaviour isn't anything outrageous (I don't think) for a 3.5 year old - sometimes throwing and kicking toys around, being loud, not doing as asked -do the other kids in here not do any of that??
The pee thing is clearly attention seeking behaviour. If he wants attention he is sure as hell going to get it if he does something filthy like that and he knows that I react for it.
His kindy teachers describe him as very sociable and chatty. He plays with the other kids every day and joins in on all the activities - even singing and dancing which he has always hated. Other mum's keep commenting on how much he has come out of his shell in the past 6 months since he started kindy. He just needed the confidence boost of knowing he could be without me and still be fine.
He is highly strung. Always has been. He is much better now at communicating what he wants rather than having a tantrum. We hardly ever have tantrums during the day now and we haven't had a mega long one for a long time.
I honestly think is main problem is the sleep. When he is sleeping alright he is good during the day. He is a very literal kid that does better with rules and order. I personally think that all this comforted sleeping BS has not been right for his personality - I would have been better off leaving him to CIO and learning to get to sleep on his own, then that would be how it is. Instead I mollycoddled him and now that is what he expects.