no we are not close, but i thought maybe something like this might be an opportunity for us to get closer. she is the only female in my family on both sides apart from my evil mil.
it still may bring you closer honey - having kids changes so many things (given it is so early for her she would yet to know that) and now you have the excuse of family get togethers etc. give it some time. this doesnt mean that wont happen - she is still in an old paradign of being a DINK... am sure she doesnt know what is around the corner. just be happy and there for her if/when she wants you... and the closeness will grow.
does she have sisters?
No you can not, and i'm sorry if i sounded insensitive.
I always hoped to be close to a SIL as i have no sisters. My SIL has two kids, about a month different to my first two. You would have thought that might bring us closer, but nope. I try, she's super nice, sometime 'too' nice. But we just don't really click i guess. We get on alright, but we're not close. And as for my brothers, well not much on the SIL front there. I wish. No other girls anywhere in the family. Just me. *cue violins*
G, that's a tough one. Personally it would bother me if they didn't ask - but I can understand why you would be upset. You want this to be the peacemaker and what brings the two of you closer. I get the impression that she is the type of person who never had kids on her radar at all. One of DH's mates had a wife like that - couldn't stand kids and thought women who wanted children and who wanted to stay at home and raise those children were not worthy of her time and attention. Maybe having kids is something she is simply going to endure kwim? Not fussed on the finer details at all. Plus the other thing is that she may not want to ask as she might want to find her own way, or she may have friends she is asking about all of this too so she didn't ask you. I don't think it is silly at all that you feel that way though.
As far as SIL's go, BIL's wife is *nice* but she is a pain in the arse and so daft it isn't funny. She has let the kids down so many times saying they will come over for a visit and she never shows, or that she will have them over there for a play and then never invites them. I just stopped telling the kids about it now because it upset them too much. It ****es me off that she treats my kids like that and she treats it as a token invitation and one you'd never follow through on so she can go **** herself as far as I'm concerned. Her family only have to fart and they go around and visit with gifts to celebrate it and we always get treated as second class citizens. She also said some really really hurtful and offensive stuff about the IL's when she and BIL were going through a rough patch and I can't forgive her for that ever.
MP, I really hope that it isn't the same as your Mum. I know what it's like to have a cronic skin condition and it sucks big time.
I know it all seems a bit petty, but with no mum, no sisters and no daughters, I guess this sort of stuff just becomes more important in your life. It all runs a lot deeper than this incident, obviously. I would have thought she could have called me or texted me to tell me she was pg herself, rather than my bro telling my dad and my dad telling me.
yep i hear you G - I am the same with my BIL and SIL given that I only have my mum. i hear you... i do. and sorry if it came across as harch - it was more about protecting your feelings than telling you you were wrong iykwim? I see where you are coming from, and your bro could also ask her to be more inclusive of you, esp given you have no other female relatives... but i do think these things need to evolve somewhat naturally. big hugs.
not sure what it is... its so awful. did the cortisone cream when i got to work, it is less itchy i think (but it is mainly really bad at work), my legs (thighs) are so swollen and bruised from scratching (at night). i look AWFUL!
not allowed to go to gym (bc of sweating, even though i dont sweat much) for a couple of days while it calms down
i am mainly glad ti isnt something catchy - when i thought it was ringworm i was so worried boys would get it
MP, do you think it's a reaction to something? Ages ago now I brought a bottle of orange juice - just juice brand in the cold section of the supermarket and I had two big glasses of it one night and the next day I was covered in this hot, itchy rash. It lasted for 2 weeks before it finally cleared and it turns out it was the preservative in the juice. Maybe get some phenergan tablets to take when you go to bed and see if it helps relieve it.
G, I totally understand that but it sounds like you have made all the effort over the years and she's done nothing but insult you really so you may be flogging a dead horse. I would make up for that by being the best Aunty around though.
G - big hugs, don't really have any words, but I can understand how you feel
MP - hope your skin is feeling better.
JM - One of my SIL's is like that - very nice, but we just don't click. The other one I just find annoying and she's never really made any effort with me, she's a pretty self centred person.
MD - all the guys I work with in the sewerage field shower at work so they don't bring any nasties home - maybe a recommendation to keep that fungus at bay!
Andie - welcome back and congratulations!
We have an outbreak of mozzies inside the house. Have no idea where they are coming from, there are no pools of water outside and it's so frustrating!!
Just started a week off, then we have two short weeks with the lovely long Easter/anzac weekend. So looking forward to it. Did the housecleaning this morning to get it out of the way and remembered how much I hate it! K has come down with a cold though, standard end of term thing. Her voice is really hoarse, but she loves the way it sounds so she is talking even more than usual. She's also skipping everywhere.
Does anyone else's little ones have problems eating steak? If we have steak she just chews and chews and chews and then it gets spat out. No problems with anything else, just steak. We usually get pretty good stuff so DH and I find it quite tender, but she looks like she's eating a piece of leather.
Those that have dropped naps, do you still have quiet time everyday? If so, how long?
Excited about a hoarse voice eh? The things that amuse kids. I cut the steak up for the girls and they don't seem to have a problem. But i must admit we more often give them sausages or mince just for ease of chewing. And i only have eye filet at my place. I figure when you grow it yourself you might as well have the best.
As for quiet time, yes, everyday. But that could be in front of the TV, or lying on bed reading books. TV lasts a lot longer than the book reading! But anywhere from an hour to 2. And mainly while #2 is sleeping.
Cally that's no good she has a cold. We just cut up steak really really small for him. But if we are having steak I will often just give him a sausage otherwise he does tend to eat slower. We do quiet time as well. But if he lays still for 5 minutes he calls that a 'sleep' LOL.
Cally, hearing of kids that still sleep at this age depresses me lol There is a lady at kindy that gets her 4yo, 2yo and 6 month old all to sleep at the same time for at least 2 hours every day!! Excuse my babble, to answer your question I usually plant W in front of the telly with a snack when we get home from kindy for about half an hour or however long it lasts, but don't bother on non kindy days.
G, I hope your SIL gets over the not liking kids thing before her one is born. I remember growing up with mum often telling people how she didn't like children - I was standing right there!! Anyways, I think your SIL still has the first time mum luxury of knowing everything, so she probably doesn't need your help. Wait until she has had a solid week of crying baby and I am sure she will give you a call.
MP, I hope you get your skin condition sorted out soon. I feel really bad for you, it sounds so uncomfortable!
MD, how is the assignment going? How much longer is your DH away for?
I forgot to say, the girl I wanted to be friends with invited us to her house the other day and it was fun! She has a 2 yo, he and W had a great time running around the house (with A trailing behind). It is great just to hang out at someones house and talk about crap while the kids entertain themselves. I haven't had any visiting type friends here until now, just the girls I see at the activities group that I like, we get along, but that is as far as it goes iykwim.
That's great arte - she prob feels the same way and is glad to havevstarted a great friendship w you too
Ginger - how you doing today? How is lewisby the way? Hope his mouth is better... Poor thing. How is operation fatten up coming along
Jm - when areyiu here? Would live to have you cass and Ginger over fir a pkaydate when you are here.
Sorryno more personals... Cally how are you feeling?
As for me - steroids helping though had another sleepless night.. Has spread a bit... Hoping it comes under control soon
Had a lovely day w the boys... Brunch and play in the park and the friends over for play and kids dinner
Thinking we will have takeaway tonight... Why is it that when I can't go to gym I am also so bad w food?
Ps do any of yours still gave day sleeps?! Noah does.... ( sorry arte!)
Lol, don't be sorry MP, I know I got the short straw for sleeping. He hasn't had a regular day nap for nearly 1.5 years now. Every once in a while he will fall asleep in the car for a power nap.
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and we always get treated as second class citizens. She also said some really really hurtful and offensive stuff about the IL's when she and BIL were going through a rough patch and I can't forgive her for that ever.
but it sounds like you have made all the effort over the years and she's done nothing but insult you really so you may be flogging a dead horse. I would make up for that by being the best Aunty around though.
Excited about a hoarse voice eh? The things that amuse kids. I cut the steak up for the girls and they don't seem to have a problem. But i must admit we more often give them sausages or mince just for ease of chewing. And i only have eye filet at my place. I figure when you grow it yourself you might as well have the best.
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