Arte, have you done any reading around child sleep disorders? Any bells ringing on that front? If you think A is waking due to molar pain, have you tried giving her a longer-acting pain relief like nurofen, does that make any difference? Maybe you need to reconsider having your ILs help (if they're actually helpful) while DH is away. I know I complained a lot about my ILs but when DH was away, it was the sum total of a number of different things, the occasional load of laundry, dinner done a couple of times, etc, that did make a difference. BTW yet again your description of W reminds me of my friends son - he gets really hyper when he's sick too. I don't understand the relationship but she says it has something to do with his food sensitivities, so that might be worth reading up on in case there's some measures you could take there.

The forum thing is actually one of the assessible components. No exams - phew. I've done some disaster planning around a potential fail scenario and I've decided even if the worst happens, it will be excruciating but no one ever died of embarrassment, right? In the meantime I've booked myself in for a thorough head-reading with someone who specialises in this area, because I can feel the depression circling out there in the darkness.