thanks Kris I'd be interested in that chart and also your blog when you start it. I guess with us, cause DH is the primary carer and I won't be at home from next week that I'm finding it really hard to discuss his parenting with him - he doesn't "do" books or websites or any kind of education about raising kids. He really does just leave Pip to his own devices all day - I've more-or-less enforced that Pip can feed the chooks every day, and after the first day DH says it's too hard so he won't do it! I know that Pip can do it, he's good at it, DH just sees it as something that takes longer than it should, not as a parenting tool, ITMS?