Hey everyone! Back from NYC and majoprly jet lagged - Eva fell asleep at like 2am last night and woke up to feed at 8 then fussed majorly and is back down now until I don't know when - I have a huge pile of stuff to wash and repack for departure thursday...I am not so motivated but the next trip will be more restful.
I won't do persies just an update, sorry girls for my lack of direct replies, mushy brain I say
The flight over was the worst experience of my life - I ended up crying in the bathroom four hours into it - I flew alone, they gave the infant bed to another couple, and I was alone, so I had to use the bathroom with Eva on my lap and did not eat anything in 8 hours! The flight attendants were awful and I ended up next to an old obese handicapped woman who was super nice but could not help mle with anything or get up to let me out so I was stepping over her each time I had to go change Eva...I ended up just leaving Eva on the floor in between my legs (I won't even tell you how that made my skin crawl) because she could no longer stand being seated on my lap - she dozed off for about 1.5 hours in two naps during the whole 8 hours and was super energetic the rest of the flight since it was her daytime...Worst flight EVER! I am never doing it again. Everrrrrrrrrrr! For the flight back I went to check in 6 hours before to be sure I get the bed and they said it had already been reserved so I went to the gate and begged and said I was alone and they gave me the bed, thank god! So the flight back she ate and slept the whole way so I got some rest at least...she woke up half an hour before and was eating at landing so that flight was easy...
NY was not so great this time around - I never go in the summer since the heat in the city is notorious but since my mother insisted I did it this time - Eva was miserable in the 100 degree heat - the lowest temp we had was about 95 during our stay! She could not settle well and I could not keep her out much since it was just too hot! I got into a huge fight with my mother who flew me out because she said she misses us so much but then never came home from work early (never mind that she did not take any days off) - then left for three days in the middle of our stay to go work in another city! I was so angry because she got mad that I went to stay with friends last time and stayed at my parents' the whole ten days this time but they live far from everything so I was stuck a lot since I could not just go out for a walk to grab coffee or stuff like that...When she left to work I packed my stuff and left without telling her. I was so angry I could not process it. Don't call me and get me a ticket to come ALONE in a heatwave to sit in your house then make no time for us! My moither means well but is a workaholic and has no sense of quality time! I just lost my sh** and I am not the kind of person that should be pushed over the line - I am super understanding about all things and can see other point of vues and all that but this was really the final straw. And when I get mad it isn't pretty.
Since getting pregnant I have been talking to her about spending more time, if not with me then with Eva at least since we live far away...I have tried numerous times to explain how important this is to me and she just does not care - I know I cannot change my parents, but seriously...Even my dad had no words for her and when I left he was super sad but he understood. I will not be going back to ny until one of my siblings get their own place. I feel bad coming and staying with friends but if I go stay with siblings, my parents should be less angry. MY brother is planning a move soon and my sister has just gotten back on track with work and putting money aside since returning from her year of travelling, so they should be moved in in the fall...if it takes longer, so be it. And I will never fly again alone until Eva is old enough to stay in her seat alone...
Anyway, I am happy to be back home...it was super nice tyo have the new iphone too since DH and I put in tons of facetime so he got to see Eva every day on video chat
I am looking forward to our trip to the south, with the ILs who totally get quality time, and will be with us the whole time and will prob help me out enormously with eva...I can't tell you how hard it is to get over jet lag when no one is there to help out with the baby...you would think my mother would try to do that but no, she is too tired from work. This is why I insist on working but not too much - It is in my genes to work too much and I can def get caught up in it, but I suffered so much with my mother never being around that I told DH I woul dnever put Eva through that. I know everything I have is because my parents work, but still...you can't work until you drop dead.
Ok, so I miss you all and will try to be on a bit and post tons of pics from the next trip...
Oh and during our trip in nyc Eva started waving at people ! cutest thing EVER - I'll posty a vid when I can - she just waves at everyone! She also started sticking out her tongue and blowing, less elegant but so cute too. She get to sitting position once in a while too but no xcrawling or teeth yet, although she is advancing now commando style more often than before. She spends a lot of time in downwards facing dog with her bum high in the air!
Lani, glad to hear Jett isok. I was worried about that.
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