Lani sweetie - they are all natural feelings, everyone copes in their own way, my sister's husband cheated on her 3 years ago (they're coming up for their 25th wedding anniversary) and she forgave him but she still isn't over it and says things all the time, it's very awkward at times. Personally even if my ex gave me the choice I wouldn't have stayed either, I just don't think i could've ever trusted him again or looked at him the same again. Sometimes too much happens to go back. But, just give yourself some time, sometimes you just need time to reflect and think about things, you do have a child together now which makes things much more difficult. I am disgusted in him and if I was there I'd track him AND her down (what kind of woman would do this) and I'd make sure they never did it again. Sorry, as you can see I'm still, 10 years later, carrying the scars from being hurt the same way. Please call me if you need, but if you need some alone time i get that too, I didn't tell my family for 3 weeks because I was too ashamed, just told them he was away (which he was) - my situation was confirmed by a friend, not the nicest news to be told unexpectedly......but then after I had time to grieve and process things myself I had to talk talk talk so I'm here if you need. I'm so sorry this has happened to you both, b*stard. Sorry.

And Rose - how rude of me to not mention it earlier, I'm also very sorry and sad to hear about your dad, did you get to say goodbye? He really tried hard this past year didn't he. I know he's in a nice happy place now and he'll always watch over you with such a big and proud heart, let us know when you're up for another Perth girls visit, Beany and I will cheer you up. xx

Hi to everyone else, hope you have a Happy New Year, although it feels very wrong even suggesting it with all the horrible news lately. Love you all.

Oh and Tilda - you'll have to post pics of your bump when you announce it hee hee.
xx