Hi BS - I know exactly what you're saying and you're right. It's funny because a few people have mentioned the socialisation thing for Amelia and myself and quite honestly I socialise every week with people so that doesn't bother me at all. I have 2 groups of friends, my pregnancy aqua friends and my mums group girls and I see them every week. Amelia gets to play with other bubs and I get to socialise with other adults, and we don't always talk babies on purpose! I'm very lucky to have lots of people around me, some people don't so I can understand the need for that side of things. Maybe it's my age, given I'm 37 and all it's almost like I've done the whole "career" thing for now, my job while I loved it doesn't seem as important to me anymore and like I said before I am happy to work, I just want to find something else that is more of interest to me, my whole perspective on life has changed since having Amelia and my priorities are not worrying about dealing with someone at work who wants to give me the poopies etc. As an admin assistant you do have to put up with lots of bum wiping, personally I'd prefer to wipe Amelia's butt any day!! lol But, in saying all this, I got an email from my boss this morning, he was very lovely in it and said that he totally understands how I'm feeling and doesn't want me to stress. He said he needs to check with HR but he's happy for me to just come in one day a week initially and work from home as well but he wants me to do 2 days at home not 1 - so that's 3 days, I really only want to do 2, even working from home I'm not sure I could put in a decent day's work without having someone watch Amelia and I'm not really prepared to do that for 3 days in the week, that's eating into too much of the time I want to spend with her. DH will have her for the day I'm in the office which is lucky and I'm sure my sister's would look after her but it's not that, it's me, I don't want it to cut into my time with her, it might sound odd but that's the way I feel. But, if it comes down to that or not at all and having to repay the maternity leave money I will do it and give myself an end date of December and resign, that way I don't feel so trapped and really it's only a couple of months so I imagine that will fly by. It might be stuffing them around a bit but at the end of the day I need to learn to not worry about others and do what is best for me and my family and I think this is it, this is my compromise to myself ha ha! Anyway, it might not be possible, it also depends on if I can get my pc hooked into the network system at work so I can do the necessary work. One of the jobs I can do from home he said was the travel bookings which is what I wanted to do - it's my fave part of the job but he's also suggested taking over another part of the other admin's role which I hate, it's something I flicked ages ago when I managed to get myself an assistant, the woman I'd be doing the work for is a pain in the backside too so not sure I could handle it. But, my boss said to have a think if there's something else I could do, I think he's really going to do his best to suit my needs which is so lovely of him, which is part of why I feel guilty mucking him around but he's leaving at the end of the year anyway so I'm just telling myself that to stop me from stressing so much. I think a lot of it too is not coming back fulltime means the job won't really be mine anymore and I feel a bit weird about that as I'd built that job up to what it is. When I started in this department there was only me and 4 other people, there's now 70 people, it was a brand new position and I basically created it into what it is today - 3 years down the track. I know I can't having everything though, it's just a bit weird you know. It's such a tough decision to make to even consider leaving but I feel it's the right one for me. But, I'll give it a go till the end of the year, you never know, I might like it cough cough.....but seriously I'll give it a go. At least that way they can't say I didn't try - if it doesn't work I'll just tell them my situation has changed and it's best that I allow someone else to come in and take over. At least I'll be offering someone a really good job that is in a time in their life where they would appreciate it a lot more. It's really a fab company - it's Chevron BS, not sure if I've told you that before, but being from the US you will know who they are for sure hee hee. Our head office is in Houston and a lot of my colleagues are from there.
Anyway, you get the gist, I've rambled and rambled......of course this is all dependent on what HR says, they still might say no yet, but I shall keep you all posted. Thank you BS though for your input, I really appreciate having you girls to talk to about this stuff, I'm a terrible decision maker and this is one of those times when it's a BIG decision to make, not good for someone like me!
Hope everyone is well and your bubs are all as gorgeous as ever. Mine's getting cheekier by the day, every day she has a new personality trait and can do something different, I think they really obviously start to grow from hereon in don't they. I'm trying to teach Amelia the word no at the moment but it's not working very well lol. Oh and BS, Amelia wore her stripey velour pants today, I've taken a pic which I'll upload onto FB soon. They look so nice, so bright and colourful. xx
Last edited by Alison1973; August 30th, 2010 at 07:32 PM.
Hi everyone! Not much going on here but I'm dropping in to say hi! Enjoying my time with my sister so not much time to post, and Eva has gone back to sleeping 12 hours the past few days (hope that doesn't change for now)...thinking of you all and have a great week!
Hi Everyone - I feel bad that I don't get on here to post as much as I used to, I spend too much time on Facebook as it is so trying to not get on so much, once I open the computer that's me for an hour, terrible!
Hi BS - glad you're enjoying your time with your sister, I can see by the pics she's enjoying herself too. Yay for Eva sleeping 12 hours, Amelia's been doing the same the past couple of weeks aside from a couple of nights in between with teething where she's woken here and there. Have you started your TTC journey yet? Another girl at mums group is pregnant so that's 2 now!
Hi Beany - howd your first day at work go? I'm so dreading going back in 4 weeks, the only thing keeping me going is knowing it might only be for a couple of months max. I've been looking into something else I want to do from home, just a little side project, nothing big but I'm hoping it will be something I can get my hands into and sell on Facebook like everybody else seems to be doing, some ladies are making loads I see! Not that I expect that, it's more for fun and something to do in between my mum duties really. Will tell you all more about it when I get the materials to make sure it works first lol!
Hi Rose - how are you? Would love to catch up soon, I go back to work in 4 weeks, I'll be working Tuesdays in the office and Wednesdays at home so would be nice to squeeze in a visit, if not I'll have to meet you on Monday's or Fridays, Thursdays I have mums group.
Hi Willow - how's Harry going? He's such a cutie pie and everytime I see a pic of him I definitely think he's the male version of Amelia. hee hee
Hi Carmey - I see by your FB status you're back at work too, but sounds like you're enjoying it. I feel bad that I'm not looking forward to it but your job sounds far more exciting than ordering stationery and doing people's expense statements which is probably what I'll be doing on the day I'm in the office, nothing like being the Senior Admin but doing the junior work lol. Oh well, my choice to work part-time and at least on the day/s I work from home I'll be the travel co-ordinator which was my most fave part of the job anyway.
Hi Tilda - hows things going in your new place now, all settled? I am so glad you put up pictures of Matilda recently, it's been so long since I'd seen her, she's growing so much and is still so gorgeous. Hope to see you back in Perth some time soon.
Hi to everyone else!
AFM - things going well here, I don't like to say Amelia's sleeping well because whenever I do that I jinx myself and she has a bad night lol. I took her to the pool today and she loved it, she had a 2 hour sleep afterwards and went down tonight looking completely knackered so hopefully she'll have a lovely sleep again tonight. She's teething again but she seems to be fine one day and pulling at her ears the next, she has a couple of 12 hour straight nights and then a night where she might wake up or fuss but that's ok, I just go with the flow, between teething and wonder weeks you have no choice ha ha! I can't believe they're getting close to their 1st birthdays, where has the past year gone. This time last year I was 4 weeks away from maternity leave, now I'm 4 weeks away from returning, boooooo.
Alison I think we're all pushed for time to post now with mobile babies! You just can't leave them for a second, well not Harry, he's always pulling himself up to everything and if you're not there he ends up falling, or chasing the cat, who hates him lol I can't believe she hasn't given him a good scratch yet! He just hasn't gotten the hang of 'gentle' yet.
I'm with you on dreading going back to work I need to go in next week and discuss my impending return. I'm desperately trying to think of something I can do from home too, but I just can't get my brain around anything feasible Good luck with your venture!
BS Your sister looks like she's having a good time going by the facebook pics. It must be good to just spend time with her instead of being go go go and her being there to help out. Eva looks like such a character, and a bit of a show off ...I think they're all hitting that 'show off' age now, when they're starting to realise the reaction factor. They're gorgeous.
Carmey Sounds like work is good m-a-g-a-z-i-n-e what's that?? lol
Beany How was your first day back? Did it take your brain long to focus on one thing for more than five mins?
Hi Tilda,Hope all is well with you, I must have missed the new pics on fb, I'll have to go have a look!
Kawa I see you're moving to Mackay, I love Mackay it's beautiful. And did I also see you might have to go back to work? You've only just become a full time WHAM
Rose How are you guys going? I really admire you and I feel like like such a sook sometimes when my neck plays up and I'm complaining about how tired and sore I am. You are awesome the way you just get on with it while dealing with the Fibro, I've noticed a couple of statuses on fb and just think how awesome you are! Hope your dad had some success with the alternative treatment, did it help?
Hannah How are you going? Still getting lots of rest! And no more mail from your admirer I hope How did you go with getting Amelia into her cot? I've been meaning to ask for ages, you were going to have someone help with it, did it work out ok? Thanks for your tip about the Baby Einstein DVDs on Ebay, I couldn't find your buyer, but I managed to get a box set for $45 +$6 postage, so pretty happy with that, although it's only a set of 24 dvds not the full 26.
Suzi Welcome home! Waiting to see some holiday pics on fb How's the transition to cloth going? Are you full time now?
Lani Hope all is well with you guys too
All is well here, number 7 tooth cut through on Sunday, so now he has four on top and three down bottom. Hoping the fourth bottom comes soon too so then we might get a break for a while from the joys of teething, poor little thing.
ARGH just lost a post Not happy it was a huge one I had done all the persies and was onto an update on us.
Willow- Wow 7 teeth, Harry what a little champion. How funny the cat doesn't like him.
Ali- How is Amelia liking her cot being dropped down? Ohhh please tell what your at home idea is.
Suzi- Hope you have settled back in at home after the holiday and caught up with all the washing. Hope the boys are both well.
Tilda- How are things with you?
Carmey- How did the return to work go? Your job sounds very good. Lucky you.
Beany- Hope you have survived the return to work as well.
BS- It looks as though you and Eva are having a great time with your sister. I hope you had a lovely birthday last weekend.
Kawa- When is the big move up north? Hope u can remain a SAHM.
Rose- Hope the Fibro isn't giving you too much grief
Hannah- Hope you are still getting lots of sleep and hopefully u haven't received anymore horrible mail.
AFM
We are going well. Jett is still sleeping well. I really think we are teething we are having lots n lots of dirty nappies including one at 2am this morning. He has a very red bottom (first nappy rash since birth). Poor little munchkin.
We are going away this weekend up to the Central Coast so I have been busy this morning packing everything. I can't believe the amount of stuff I take for Jett.
I am not looking forward to returning to work. I hate thinking about it. I would love to be able to run a business from home that had guaranteed income. I am trying to think of things. I have a great idea but would need a millionaire to fund it.
Hope everyone and the little bubs are doing well.
Sorry if I have missed anyone in the persies. I must run and get some more things done before my little man awakes.
Hi everyone, I'm sooooooo behind and it's been age since I"ve been on.
Rose - I saw your FB status about the fibro. Sorry to hear its playing up. You've probably tried everything but if you're willing to go down the medication path, endep is good for chronic pain including fibro I believe. It's an antidepressant that works on pain as well. There a few side effects sometimes but it can be worth it if it works. It is so exhausting being sore all the time.
BS - I saw the FB pics of your sister and Eva. Your family is full of stunners!! You're going to have to keep an eye on Eva when she grows up! Poor DH LOL!
Alison - Sorry I never even replied to your FB messages!! Thanks for the risotto recipe. I've been too slack to do much cooking lately. Isn't that terrible!! And sounds like work is getting closer. At least you'll have a bit of pocket money. I wonder if you could become an online personal shopper for other busy mums?
Lani - It's great to hear you've got Jett's sleep sorted out! What a relief. Who would have thought it could be hormones!
Suzi - Hope the holiday went well. I'm very envious. I'd love some full time family time sometime soon. I really miss the days DH and I were both at home with Matilda. I guess it couldn't last for ever and eventually you need $$$$.
Hannah - what was with that person and the letter?????? How old were they? Five? I mean really, that's primary school stuff. You should post on FB "sticks and stones will break my bones etc" since that's pretty much the level of it!! Makes me angry.
Kawa - how's it going?
Carmey - You must be soooo busy now you're back at work three days a week!! Will still have to drag you over here though.
Willow - Harry sounds like he's into everything. It's a full time job following them around isn't it? You asked awhile back about the sleep training I think. Well I have to admit I've got a bit soft lately and for her day sleeps I'm often cuddling her until she's quite drowsy but she's usually aware of being put down in the cot which I think is the really important bit. And she self-settles at the 7pm bedtime really well now as long as I stay in the room with her. If I try and leave I get a big growl. Some of the tresilian nurses warned me I should leave the room from the start but I just hate the feeling of walking away from her. I think she'll grow out of this bit eventually. And she's only waking once or twice a night now instead of every 1-2 hours. So in my book it has been a success. I didn't do it really hard core as you can tell but it was enough to make some changes that made things more livable. I would really recommend you give it a go with Harry if he's still waking a lot at night. It was painful to begin with but worth it. For her too I think. I found even just working on getting her to settle in the cot for her day sleeps helped her night sleeps. I didn't do much crying during the night because it didn't work for us but because she learnt to go to sleep on her own during the day she was able to resettle herself most of the time at night.
As for us - We are finally germ free (touch wood - don't want to jinx myself). We've had such a bad winter. And the last flu which followed on the heels of the gastro was just almost too much to bear. But we've been well for a couple of weeks now and its just been so nice. I have my cheerful baby back! But I have to admit I"ve been feeling a bit flat lately. I think I found it really hard to say goodbye to my parents when they went home to Perth a couple of weeks ago. It was so lovely to see Matilda enjoy having her grandparents around and it broke my heart to see her want to hug them on skype after they'd gone home. I'm trying to convince them to come over for a few months next year. I feel bad about saying this but it's just not the same with DH's mum. She's such a difficult and unhappy person. She's actually coming over to look after Matilda tomorrow for the first time. I'm a bit hesitant because apparently she said to my SIL that she thinks my SIL and I wrap our babies up in cotton wool and if we don't let them hurt themselves how will they ever learn. She said my DH burnt himself once and never did it again!!! Well I"m sorry but I don't want my child disfigured for life so they'll learn a lesson! I told DH that I think we have a "different philosophy" and we agreed we would need to set some "guidelines". But hey, isn't it a gorgeous age at the moment. Matilda started waving and clapping while my parents were here and it is so cute. When I say "Ok, time for bed say night night to Daddy" she'll start waving at him. I'm amazed at how much they understand now. And she has become sooooooo active. She's up and down the house, climbing over everything, cupboard hunting...I really need to come up with some more activities for her. Any ideas would be welcome!!! Anyway, sorry it's been so long since I've been on. I've been thinking of everyone. And sorry Sydney girls that I still haven't done anything about catching up! Perhaps we should try something next week?
Yay! Finally BB is working again! I haven't been able to get on for a few days now.
Alison - My first day back was great! My work is pretty casual, so I spent most my time organising my desk and drawers! Michael was home with DH so I didn't worry about him hardly at all, I think that helped. I feel quite guilty saying I enjoyed work, as most people at work were asking how was I going, was I missing him, etc, etc. But to be honest, I wasn't really missing him that much! I was just loving being able to concentrate on something and go for a walk by myself. It was just lovely. But I'm sure Monday will be different, the novelty will start to wear off, and he'll be in daycare then, so I'll prolly constantly worry about him Oh I'd love to work from home too...I can't remember if I said how I bought my sewing machine partly cos I wanted to do the selling stuff on fb too. I'd even come up with a name and logo and stuff I was going to make. But then, I just didn't have the time or brain-power to take it any further. But GOOD LUCK with yours!! Can't wait to hear what it is!
Willow - Michael and Harry seem to be teeth-twins! Michael has 7 too, with the 8th not too far off. Hopefully then we'll get a break! Just seems to be constant teething lately! How is Harry's (and yours!) sleep going? I hope you're getting more rest.
Lani - Oh bummer about the post, thats sooo frustrating! Great to hear Jett is sleeping well, but sorry about the nappy rash. Yeah, Michael got his first nappy rash when he started teething too, I really do think they're related. Oooh, I hope you enjoy your holiday! Sounds lovely I know, we're thinking about going on one too...then I thought, how the heck are we going to fit it all in the car?! Good luck!
Tilda – Oh sorry to hear you were sick straight after the gastro too! Lets hope thats the last of the sicknesses for a while! And don’t worry, I think for most people its never the same with their MIL as with their own mother. That would be great if your parents could come over for a while, do you think they would? Sounds like Matilda is doing wonderfully, so I wouldn’t worry about what anyone says. I’m still waiting for Michael to wave, tho he’s just started doing high-fives, which is incredibly cute!
Hello to all my other lovelies, I hope you & your beautiful bubs are all keeping well. I hope you're going ok with the fibro, Rose.
AFM - So yes, return to work has been successful thus far, but having said that I haven't really experienced a proper 'working' day, or while he's been in daycare...so its early days yet.
Both myself and Michael are in the throes of yet another cold, poor darling coughs so much while he's sleeping Is anyone else getting sick heaps? I went at least 2 years without getting sick at all, and now I've had 4 colds this winter (and given Michael 2 of them ). I think my immune system is really down, its taking me ages to get over them too.
But apart from that we're doing well. The day sleeps have been improving...we've had a few 1 hour sleeps, and even one 2 hour sleep one day! Touch wood, night sleeps are still good.
I’m on the hunt for a felt Christmas stocking kit, there are heaps online...I want to make Michael his Christmas stocking, there are some gorgeous ones out there! Hopefully I’ll decide on a design in the next few days.
Not much else to report really, he's still pulling himself up on everything, munching on the cot rails (grrr!!). Yeah, so he must be in between wonder weeks cos he hasn't done anything new for a while now.
Would LOVE a catchup with the Perth girls...hopefully from next week we’ll be feeling better. I’m free Thursdays and Fridays for now. Seems like ages since I saw you guys!!
Hi Beany, don't worry, it feels like we've been sick all winter. Matilda has had three really bad "grown up" cold/flus and then another couple of mild ones on top of that and I caught the three bad ones. Its hard when they blow big raspberries in your face not to pick them up!! It feels like Matilda is quite prone but I've seen worse. There's one bub in my mother's group which is sick literally every week. I feel like I"m being a bit neurotic but I've had to stop going because this kid just has green snot pouring out of his nose every week and then slobbers all over the other babies. I think its one of the reasons Matilda has picked up quite a few. I've got a feeling things are going to get better over the summer. Hope you're feeling better. It's tough looking after them when you feel so crap yourself.
AFM - Having a quiet Monday after a busy weekend. I was just wondering if anyone else's babe looks like they're trying to drop their second nap already. Matilda is getting really difficult to settle lately and I think its because she's trying to stretch her awake time out more and more. She was nearly up for four hours this morning. And now it looks like she's going to sleep for at least a couple of hours until about mid-day which will make it difficult to get her to have a second sleep. I think she thinks she's a big one year old LOL!! And it took me twenty minutes of coaxing to get her to lie down and go to sleep. She just wanted to stand up and play and would get really upset if I tried to leave the room. I wonder if I should just let her have that big sleep in the middle of the day and forget the second nap???? BTW I can't believe I'm saying this but I'm starting to think about number 2. I realised if I don't want to be pregnant over summer 2011/12 I need to get moving. I'm terrified of being pregnant in Sydney over Summer! I was as swollen as an elephant in the Hobart spring! But it means being pregnant with a small toddler! I can't win! But I'll probably have to drop these night feeds if I want to TTC. Does anyone know much about that?
Sorry I haven't been here much - things have just been crazy and I haven't had the energy for BB much. The fibro has been bad (as most of you have seen on FB) - it's actually the worst it's been for a few years. I've been trying to deal as best as I can, but probably need to suck it up and go and see my rheumatologist soon.
Tilda - Night weaning is supposed to help get your cycles back (if you haven't gotten them back already). I don't know if it always works, though. I know people who night weaned and didn't get their cycles back for months, still. It just seems to be a bit hit or miss. And thank you for the advice re endep. I actually used to take it before I got pregnant, might be time to go back on it.
beany - I'm glad that work went well for you on the first day. Hope it's still going well. I'd definitely love to catch up soon! Maybe next week, if you and Alison are free?
Hi to everyone else! Sorry, lack of energy for proper persies.
AFM - Things have been good and bad. As I mentioned, my health is getting pretty crap again. I'm getting really fed up with it. Last time it was this bad I ended up in a major lupus flare as well, and got stuck on steroids and methotrexate for months. Don't really want to go down that track again.
Dad's still going with his treatment - we'll find out next week when he goes back to China how everything is going. Fingers crossed that some of the tumours have shrunk.
Liam's actually doing pretty well. He slept through the last four nights! He's still having teething issues, though - we've had a couple of odd nights of screaming from the pain, which only nurofen fixes. Hopefully his top two teeth will cut through any day. I'm half expecting him to be an early walker, now, too. He spends most of his time pulling to stand and has started trying to stand without hanging onto anything. Needless to say, he's had some great tumbles because of it.
Hi everyone - sorry have been sort of MIa but enjoying my time with my sister and then this weekend was pretty full...
Alison, yes - AF ended on Thursday and I am officially TTC#2! Hopefully I get preg quickly, as I don't want to have to get on chlomid or anything like last time...I am on metformin now which should be enough - with Eva I got preg 2 weeks after starting metformin So I'll keep you guys posted...I should be ovulating this week! The last pics of Amelia are so cute - she is looking like a pretty little girl, not so much a baby anymore, know what I mean? DO you ever look at her and go *sigh* she is like a little person now...Last night I was sitting in Eva's room while she was trying not to go to sleep (i'll explain that later) and she just looked like a little toddler...Made me happy to be TTC again.
Willow, 7 teeth!!!! holy Harry! We got the bottm two and nothing else, but I think the uppers are coming in...Like Liam, Eva is waking up at night sxreaming then I put gel and she just falls asleep...
Lani, so happy to hear Jett's sleeping is back in order....He must be so much happier now...Lack of sleep is awful for babies and parents....you should put up some new pics too! We have not seen him in a while - how is DH doing with pitching in to help? Don't worry about work - the day inevitably comes and you will have to just deal with it when it gets here, so enjoy this time without stressing for that.
Tilda, thanks for the compliment - my sister is quite a cutie and her body is so amazing - I was always the chubby sister but I'm brainier...lol....we all get our strengths...She had such a great time with Eva and we were both so depressed on her last night here that we barely spoke I miss having her around. She is so upbeat and funny. She cracks me up and I missed having someone around who knows me so well. She will try to come back out in JAnuary so I hope that works out. For MIL, it kills me when people say stuff like that - I have other old fashioned people telling me stuff like that - like don't babyproof the house just give her a little slap on the hand when she touches stuff she should not and after a few times she won't! Ha! I am sorry, I did not have a baby to give her a disciplined life full of interdictions from the beginning - as adults we have so many rules and limits, and I don't believe a baby should have to deal with that too prematurely. I say no for cables, hot drinks, glass and if she is rough with the dog, but the house is free for exploring, and I organized my house and closets so that she can amuse herself in the bottom drawers (now full of scarves and handbags instead if shoes for example), and touch and climb on everything. Of course she will hurt herself, but my god to say if she burns herself once she won't do it again....ugh. Just try to babyproof as much as possible and move dangerous stuff out of the way since you know mil won't be keeping stuff out of her way and hope all goes well. You can't do anything about this, it is your MIL and eventually Matilda will be better at not falling and stuff...they are not as delicate as we think Good luck for that and let us know how it went. As for naps, Eva does 2 or sometimes 3 tiny ones at daycare (she used to do 2 long ones but does not seem to want to miss anything so does mini naps for the mo)....but on WE she will do a big afternoon nap....at home she stays so busy but gets less tired than at daycare so she goes down later then sleeps for like 2-3 hours sometimes...but some days she'll do two napsjust later....and some 3 but like 40min naps...she is not stable with that - it depends on her day but she is def fighting going down a bit more (but with her it is mostly her night sleeps)...I think it is normal - you should try putting her down for her first nap when she is really complaining for it and let her stay down for longer....1 nap might be better for her and she'll go to bed earlier. That's what eva does when she only has one.
Beany, so glad that you enjoyed your first day back - how did DH deal, was Michael super easy? Eva is so easy for her papa, with ocassional difficult days, but mostly is pretty easy...she is whinier with me...she expects me to understand her I think....You'll enjoy going back to work - it makes you feel like yourself again. I could never go back full time but it is nice typing an email or a BB post without having to look up every five seconds to make sure the baby is not chasing the dog (or cat) or falling or eating a shoe...lol...you should not worry so much about daycare, and the first week just ask the lady if it is ok to call when you need - The first week of Eva's daycare I called like three times a day and they were totally cool with it and gave me updates and all that. It is good for you to get back some of your life...it is not selfish - every person is different and you miss the adult life, so enjoy it. You will see when he starts daycare that you rush out to get him and your evenings will even be more fun because you will be full of energy and time for him. Daycare is not for everyone but I am very happy to put Eva in. I need to have a bit of clear head time and this is when I have it.
Rose, I am sorry to hear about all these health issues...you really are strong for coping so well. I hope you get it all sorted out - have you tried the babay einstein with liam? I am curious to see if he will start making the sounds etc...
In our house, things are moving and shaking, she says 3 words now! Says them, not exactly but she says papa (that's for sure) mememe for me (she can't seem to get the ma sound, just the MMM) and officially she says dog. She learned dog from baby einstein and chases our dog around the house going dogdogdogdog....she calls BIL's cat dog too, and says it to most animals she sees in books and on TV, but she def says dog! She says papapapa to her papa all the time especially when she wants to play or when we go visit him in the office, she will start saying papa at the door, and then meme whenever she is complaining (go figure!), like if she is cryin gin bed not to sleep she'll cry mememememememe! And if her papa brings her over to me she'll reach out and go meme. I can't handle this - she is like a big girl...not my baby anymore...I am so happy and excited but it is so fast! But she is such a cuddler now, it is adorable. When we watch a video or when I read her a book on the sofa, she will cuddle up to me and give me a kiss and stuff, I love her so much!!! My heart can just explode - I never knew it was like this before I had her...and MIL tells me it just gets more and more intense as they grow...
She also does not want to sleep in the evenings again, much like what she was doing right before crawling so she spends an hour sitting and standing then dropping to sitting the standing then walking from one side of the bed to the other then sitting and talking to her doll then doing it over and over until she gets so tired she is doing it with her eyes half closed, so she ends up asleep in wierd positions and I have to go in there and adjust her....most nights she won't even let me leave, so she is totally fine and as soon as I step out she starts crying hysterically and screaming mmemememememememe.....I just get a game out on my iphone and play in her room but try to ignore her so she understands it is sleep time...It will pass, like that time before the crawling but it is still a bit tiring...She has also started cruising and switching over from furniture to furniture...and won't sit much anymore - she even watches her videos standing...and if we are sittting on the sofa talking she stands next to us and plays standing up and moves from one to the other....I think walking is coming soon...
Also think upper teeth are coming...and talking...and she barely drinks any milk anymore....she also prefers finger foods, her favorite thing in the world being cheese cubes but I have to watch out and only gove her one at a time or else she shoves like 5 in her mouth at a time! I have even given her chicken breast, fig, strawberries, and she loves it all...although lately she is not into fruit, just veggies...I think I am moving into toddlerhood!!!! She turned 10 months yesterday!!!
Ok everyone, so I'll try to get on a bit more since I am back at work...and I'll keep you all posted on TTC - send fertility vibes my way...I am so ready for #2!!!
Hi girls! Anyone else having probs accessing BB? It doesn't seem to work for me 90% of the time!
BS - Ohhh soooo excited for you TTC!!! Good luck! And I know exactly what you mean...they're not little babies anymore. I miss him being so small and helpless, now he just does what he wants, makes as much noise as he wants...def moving into toddlerdom! I can't wait for #2 too...but I think we'll still wait a bit longer. I can't believe Eva is saying words already! Michael is nowhere near, still stuck on dadada pretty much. Tho he has been going brrrr-aaa-brrr-aaaa, which I love She sounds like she's doing sooo well! Actually Michael acted up a little when DH looked after him, refusing to eat and drink. But then he slept pretty well (as he always does when DH looks after him!). I am very happy that Michael is in daycare too...in fact, I think even if I was to stop work, I'd still send him there at least 1 day a week because he loves it. And you're spot on...I felt so much like myself again even after that first day back. I just feel better about everything now, its amazing what a difference it made for me. Haha, thats cute about the cheese cubes! Michael does that with sultanas, I'm trying to improve his pincer-grasp so I give him sultanas to try and pick up...and he does...he shoves them in one after another so he has about 6 or 7 at once! Little monkey!
Rose - oh gosh, you poor thing. I hope things get better for you health-wise. Wow, trying to stand on his own?! Thats cool! Yeah, I think he'll be walking soon for sure! yep, I"m free next thurs & fri...but Alison, you're busy thurs aren't you? Is Friday a good day for everyone?
Tilda - gosh, isn't that frustrating when people bring their sick kids where there are other kids? But as you say, hopefully all this illness is a winter thing and hopefully things will improve come summer. I found it really ahrd when I was sick and he wasn't...just not being able to kiss him, trying not to breathe on him, it was really hard. But he still got sick anyway And I have wondered if he may be wanted to drop a nap...he has been taking FOREVER to get to sleep during the day lately, like up to 45 minutes of just playing around, chatting, standing up...etc. But then yesterday he had 2 2 hour naps! And he went down pretty quick for his morning nap today. So I'mnot sure. Does anyone know when they usually drop the 2nd nap?
AFM - Had my 2nd day back at work on Monday, and first day with Michael in day care. As I suspected, it was a lot harder for me...I spent a lot of the time day dreaming, wondering what he was doing worrying whether he was sleeping, eating etc...then by the afternoon I was missing him sooo much I got all sad. But I needn't have worried. My carer said he's the happiest and most contented baby she's ever seen, he was a pure pleasure to look after, he ate great, had 2 2hour sleeps (!) and was happy just amusing himself wandering around. Phew! I just hope that continues. She said it will be interesting to see how he is when he starts understanding whats going on, with us leaving him there.
He's been getting really cheeky lately...in his room I have the change table right next to his cot...and lately (while he has been put down for his nap) he's been sticking his hands through the slats and pulling things off the change table shelf and into his cot. I felt sick to my stomach when I walked in and he was there playing with a plastic bag And *somehow* he managed to pull the clear plastic wrapping off the nappies and into his cot. How he did that I do not know. So I have put cardboard between his cot and changetable so hopefully that won't happen again. Gosh, anything could have happened with that plastic...thank goodness he was ok
AND he has started biting me!!!! I was playing with him on our bed yesterday, rolling around with him and he was happily nuzzling into my neck when he gave me a hard bite! It really hurt (he has 7 teeth with the 8th on the way)! And he did it again a few minutes later, drawing blood! I know he's only doing it cos he's happy and playing around, but it bloomin hurts and I'm scared of him biting me now.
As you prolly saw on fb, we checked in on him in his playroom...and he was walking around with his walker! I couldn't believe it! He's never looked even close to doing that before!
Oh, and we've dropped down to 3 bottle feeds a day in the hope of increasing his solid intake, which seems to have worked. Its a lot easier having only 3 feeds!
As for biting, Eva did that a few times, be sure to say no firmly - it might not hurt you so bad, but if he does it to another baby that is bad...They don't understand they are hurting us. Just say no very firmly and remove him from that area, then go on to playing - he'll stop, but be sure to control that before he starts liking it too much - I also read somewhere to be very careful not play bite him, since he will play like that...So we have tried that with Eva and she has not bitten in a while...we also keep things for her to put in her mouth handy, since teething seems to be coming again. It is crazy but it seems like baby teeth are sharper than adult teeth, no? like since they are not dull with use they freaking hurt!
For the staying with dad thing - I think they sleep better with their dads because they are slightly more stressed without us and they tend to play more with dad (at least in my case) so they tire more...Eva eats less well with her papa too, and I think it is also because he is not as used to feeding her so he is not as firm, although my DH does a killer airplane spoon which works wonders with Eva
I am glad he is doing so well - Eva is the same - they say she is such a doll and easy to deal with, sleeps well and eats well and plays and entertains herself. You will get to the point soon where he cries when you leave (which I have been dealing with for over a month now, but once you leave him he will stop (Eva literally stops when I am out of sight - Just out the door when I am putting my shoes on she stops and goes off to play. But I am so happy he is doinfg well....The thinking about him thing will go on for a while but soon you will get a rythm going and you'll see it becomes a wonderful thing to know he is playing socializing and getting good and tired...we just can't entertain them like other babies can at this point - or a huge room full of toys they don't have at home!
Eva has started spitting out her food, which is sort of annoying, she eats well, swallows a large part then blows a raspberry after almost every bite...I tell her no firmly, but she just keeps doing it, but I guess it will pass, like all of her other starnge ticks...she sort of had a period where she would scrunch up her face, then a period where she would stick out her tongue with food in her mouth and now this...
Ok, so I am off to work...TTC is going well - DH is very happy and so am I - we are getting our spark back being off the pill has also upped my sex drive so I am enjoying TTC We are going to enjoy as much as possible becauyse with two I am not sure how much DTD I will get for a while!
My friend here is finding out the sex of her second on Monday and I can't wait! And another good friend called me yesterday to announce that she is most likely also expecting her first, and another is giving birth to her second at the end of October...I want in! ROFL - It is crazy that once you put it in your mind that you want another, you become so ready so fast...
Hi Girls! My goodness I am SOOOOO far behind, I haven't been getting notifications again, then I couldn't find the thread and had to dig back, aaarghh!
BS - Yay TTC!!!!!! I've just been looking randomly at the thread for the group due in May so just pregnant and most of them have bubs our age and a little older, so makes me feel even more closer to being ready. You are so right, every time I look at Amelia I see a little girl coming along and it makes me feel more ready to give her a sibling, I was getting a bit scared for a while there but I seem to be seeing so many pregnant bellies lately and everytime I see it I want one ha ha! We will stick to our plan of end of year/beginning of next year but that will be here before we know it. Good luck mate, I am sending you sticky vibes to fall quickly, most people I know find their hormones are still strong so it's quicker than expected. It feels like just yesterday we were pregnant with our little ones yet look at how far they've come, the more I think about it the more I like the idea of having them close together, I think it will be physically and mentally challenging but think how cute they will be. I was talking to one of my ex boss's wife on Facebook the other day, she has 2 girls, exactly 2 years apart and she said it's so amazing watching them, they're like best friends, how sweet is that. She said she went back to work when her first was 11 months old (same as what I'll be doing) and hated it, lasted 4 months and left and fell pregnant straight away. I'm not sure I'll last 4 months but we'll see ha ha.
Hi Beany - I love seeing your videos of Michael, he's so good with that walking, Amelia has only just stopped commando crawling and is starting to learn to stand but no walking yet! What she doesn't do in the physical stakes she makes up for with her vocabulary, I can't say I'm surprised though, as you know I like a chat and I have very chatty sisters so I think it's in the genes, funny given DH is so quiet lol. Well too bad, she looks like him so at least she has some of my personality....although I'm thinking that might bite me in the bum later lol. She is saying so many words, of course she loves books and Sesame Street and Waybuloo and The Wiggles, I don't mind her watching a little bit of TV, as long as it's mostly those sorts of things, she so loves music and dances along (well bops) to the music and claps and everything. She's saying dadda, mumma, nana, dog, duck, giggle (well it sounds like that) and also, don't laugh but in her fave book there's a tractor, flower and turtle (it's one of those touch and feel books) and she's trying to say those words, they're not exact of course but it comes close hee hee! She's so cute. As for Michael's biting, I don't have that here yet but he has double the amount of teeth to Amelia ha ha! BS is right though, try firmly saying no, Amelia keeps trying to play with the tv cabinet contents, ie, the set top box, dvd etc and also she makes a bee-line for my dogs bed which is yuk as he's old and a bit stinky hee hee, Paul has started saying "no" in a firm low voice and she stops, looks and cries! It's sad to watch but it goes to show she knows what it means, of course I can't bring myself to do it so for now I'll leave the meany stuff up to DH ha ha.
Hi Rose - how are you going, are you feeling any better? Yay for Liam sleeping better, I know the teething thing, Amelia has been teething the past week, it sux ha ha! We need to arrange a catch up, I'm due back at work in 3 weeks, let's do it before then.
Hi Everyone else - hope you are all well and bubs are thriving. xx
AFM - everything's going well, Amelia's 4th tooth appeared last weekend after a week of not so good sleeping and whinging, she now has the bottom 2 middle, and one side and the middle top next to it, I thought she was bound for fangs but no, trust my daughter to do things differently! We're off to the farm for the long weekend, mum moved into her new house this weekend so I'm going to stay with her for a change, the holiday house is full with the brother and sister in law and their friends and kids so didn't have much of a choice, well, we could've stayed there but I think it would resemble something like the zoo so not my idea of a relaxing weekend. I've been trying to be good with my eating and not having chocolate during the week and doing a bit more exercise, although I could do more and in the last 2 weeks I've lost 1kg, it's not much but I always have more success if I lose 500 grams a week, it's better that way anyway......1 down, another 2 or 3 to go!!!! Grrrr. Oh well, it's a start.
Hope everyone is well, sorry I don't get on but like Beany I've tried a few times and had trouble, not sure what's up with the site lately! Have a great weekend everyone. xx
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Hello all...still having major problems accessing BB. GRRRR! I've been having withdrawals!
Willow - I hope Harry hasn't dropped both his day sleeps as you mentioned on fb. Any improvemnet there?
Alison - Thats great that Amelia is saying words too! I wonder if there's a boy/girl thing going on...have any of the boys here started saying words? Seems to only be girls at the mo. Hope you had a nice time at your holiday house How long does it take you to drive there?
BS - I"m sure you're right...his teeth do seem a lot sharper than my teeth, for sure! Prolly cos they're little too, it hurts more. He bit DH on the chest the other day...haha! So you are in the TWW? How excitingg!! I know this sounds wierd, but I'm kind of a bit looking forward to him crying when I leave thing. He's normally just so blaze (sp?) about everything, is never really bothered about me, very independent...it will be kind of nice to know that he wants to be with me! Michael went through a phase of spitting food out too, soooo annoying! But he hasn't done it for a few days, hopefully that phase has passed.
Hope everyone else is doing well...hopefully the site will work a bit better when Kelly gets back??
AFM - Not much news really. Michael has started chuntering to himself a lot lately, which I LOVE!!! His eating has improved dramatically, esp today, he ate heaps! I was wondering if he may be dropping his morning sleep, he seems to take FOREVER tohas missed out on that for a couple of days because his morning sleep went so late. But we shall see what happens...things are always changing!
And just wondering...I'm hoping to take him to the beach on his birthday for a swim...what do they wear for swimming??? I have no idea! I mean, I nkow they wear those 'rashie' things....but, does he wear the little swimming pants which come with them (sort of lined pants, but not a nappy as such)...or do I need to get him the huggies Little Swimmers pants??
Have had to retire a few of his grobags...he gets out of the ones with the shoulder poppers now!! Ah well...good excuse to buy some more!
Hi Beany I'm not sure what's going on with sleeps at the moment, he's all over the place, he had a couple of days with no sleeps or a little sleep so late(after5pm I couldn't keep him awake) that he was up until nearly midnight! Then yesterday he had one sleep, but it was huge 2 1/2hrs which was great he never does that it was great, then today he had one sleep in the morning then stayed awake until I took DS2 to work at 5.30pm and he fell asleep in the car. He does have a cold at the moment so maybe that's mucking him up.
So the Grobags, does Michael undo the shoulder poppers?(clever boy if he does ) Or has he grown out of them?
As for the swimming I think the swimming nappies/pants are the go these days. You can get the disposable ones or cloth/re-usable ones, I guess it depends which you prefer. They didn't have such things when DS1&2 were babies so I'm not really up with it.
Hi Alison Go Amelia with all the words Harry's a slacker nothing here, except for the same old 'numnum' for food, not even a mum or dad.
Glad you had a good time away.
Hi Rose Hope you're feeling a little better and can avoid the really heavy duty meds. Has the teething settled down a bit?
How did the treatment go for your dad?
Hi Hannah How are things with you? No more letters I hope! You've been quiet lately so I hope that means you're doing lots of resting.
Hi Tilda Hope you are all well no more bugs!!
Like Rose said about the night weaning and cycles, it is hit and miss. Everyone's different, my cycles returned, I think 4months ago, and Harry still feeds between 5 and 10 times at night (not fair in my book to have both lol). I know some others who have stopped feeding at night and still haven't had AF return.
Hi Carmey Haven't heard from you for a while hope all is well.
Hi Kawa Hope the moving plans are coming along ok.
Hi Lani I think you were heading to the coast, hope you had a great time.
Hi Suzi Baker extraordinaire! Hope Craig loved his Birthday!
AFUS Harry has cut his 8th tooth (they do seem to be teeth twins Beany ) it's nearly all the way out, so now he has 4 up top and 3 down bottom. He's got a cold at the moment too, he's pretty chesty poor thing He desperately wants to communicate and is getting very frustrated, he gets the pointing happening but if you don't get exactly what he wants straight away he gets very cranky!
He absolutely LOVES music, he even has favourite songs and really seems to like Katy Perry lol. He tries to get us to put the music channel on the TV sometimes, he points and grunts and will bring you the remote to change the channel, very cute
Well it's getting late I'm sure I'll be summonsed soon for boob so I might have a quick look at fb then get ready for bed.
Hope I didn't miss anyone in my rather slack personals, sorry if I did for now
I keep forgetting to check BB these days. Any time I have to get on the computer I'm either writing or playing games (which I've only recently been able to do again!).
Liam's been doing generally really well. Still having some teething issues - he's working hard on his two top incisors, but they're taking their time popping through the gums. Thankfully on his really bad nights nurofen settles him. We did have a really bad night on the weekend where even nurofen didn't help - he was *screaming* for over an hour before he settled down. I was almost ready to get him in the car and take him to a doctor in case something else was wrong.
I almost have the feeling that he's going to be an early walker - he spends more time pulling to stand and cruising than anything else. But I know some kids can cruise for ages. He's only recent started getting comfortable with sitting rather than kneeling, too. It's so cute seeing him sitting up with his little legs poking out! He looks like such a little boy now and not a baby. It's almost making me want to start TTC again right now. Not that that's an option, since I don't have my cycles back yet anyway.
My health is still a bit all over the place. I've been putting off going to see my doctor, because I don't want to face another huge series of tests (I suspect that another autoimmune disease might be creeping in). Plus most of the medication I can't take while breastfeeding anyway. Liam's still only picking at solids, so he's getting most of his nutrition from breastmilk. And he hates bottles and cups in general, so I'd really not like to do formula unless we absolutely had to.
Thank you to those who asked after my Dad, too. He's back in China for another round of treatment at the moment. Everything is pretty much in stasis right now - the treatments he's been having are keeping his cancer in check right now, but not clearing it. He has a tumour in a lumbar spinal disc that's started pressing on nerves and giving him horrible leg pain, so they're focusing on trying to shrink that one at the moment. He's still upbeat about it all and working (even up there - he works remotely) as much as he can. He's an awesome guy.
And beany and Alison - let's catch up soon! I'm fairly flexible with times, though late mornings are best right now, since that's in between Liam's naps.
Heee, I'm at work now...BB seems to work better at work. Hmm.
Willow - Hopefully its just the cold. Poor little mite. that would have been a welcome surprise, the long sleep! You just don't know what to do with yourself when they haev a long sleep like that! To be honest, I'm not exactly sure how he gets out of his grobags, I suspect he pushes up so hard to stand in the cot, that the buttons just pop. I wouldn't have thought he'd be able to undo them himself...but you never know!!
Rose - I loved the video you put on fb...he's soooooooooooooo cute! And thats great he's cruising, Michael isn't doing that yet...he'll pull himself up on things then sort of bounce up and down, but thats about it. I'm going through the same thing, looking at him, seeing a little boy now and missing the baby stuff...definitely getting clucky! As for catching up...late mornings are better for me too now! Lets sort a date out of fb Your dad sure does sound like an awesome guy. I hope they're able to shrink the tumour. Oh gosh, poor little Liam. The top front teeth were hard for Michael too, and they took forever. I hope they pop through soon.
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I need to go in next week and discuss my impending return. I'm desperately trying to think of something I can do from home too, but I just can't get my brain around anything feasible
Good luck with your venture!
How did you go with getting Amelia into her cot? I've been meaning to ask for ages, you were going to have someone help with it, did it work out ok? Thanks for your tip about the Baby Einstein DVDs on Ebay, I couldn't find your buyer, but I managed to get a box set for $45 +$6 postage, so pretty happy with that, although it's only a set of 24 dvds not the full 26.
How's the transition to cloth going? Are you full time now?
Michael was home with DH so I didn't worry about him hardly at all, I think that helped. I feel quite guilty saying I enjoyed work, as most people at work were asking how was I going, was I missing him, etc, etc. But to be honest, I wasn't really missing him that much! I was just loving being able to concentrate on something and go for a walk by myself. It was just lovely. But I'm sure Monday will be different, the novelty will start to wear off, and he'll be in daycare then, so I'll prolly constantly worry about him
without having to look up every five seconds to make sure the baby is not chasing the dog (or cat) or falling or eating a shoe...lol...you should not worry so much about daycare, and the first week just ask the lady if it is ok to call when you need - The first week of Eva's daycare I called like three times a day and they were totally cool with it and gave me updates and all that. It is good for you to get back some of your life...it is not selfish - every person is different and you miss the adult life, so enjoy it. You will see when he starts daycare that you rush out to get him and your evenings will even be more fun because you will be full of energy and time for him. Daycare is not for everyone but I am very happy to put Eva in. I need to have a bit of clear head time and this is when I have it.
And I know exactly what you mean...they're not little babies anymore. I miss him being so small and helpless, now he just does what he wants, makes as much noise as he wants...def moving into toddlerdom! I can't wait for #2 too...but I think we'll still wait a bit longer. I can't believe Eva is saying words already! Michael is nowhere near, still stuck on dadada pretty much. Tho he has been going brrrr-aaa-brrr-aaaa, which I love
no more TTC for me so I'll be living vicariously through you girls
(I hope that doesn't sound creepy! lol)
Harry's a slacker nothing here, except for the same old 'numnum' for food, not even a mum or dad.
Hope Craig loved his Birthday!
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