Babies born~June 1st-15th 2010 #1

[Persephone1]

I don't know the answer/s Entreat, but can you put him in a sling/carrier and take him for a walk? Archie settles really quickly in the carrier or HAB. If you can't take him outside, can you wear it inside and walk around the house?

FWIW, Archie has had some really unsettled times recently too, fussing for the boob then rejecting it just as quickly, then sucking on anything that moves, then fussing, farting, etc etc. I hope you and Jack can get some rest soon.

for you hun.

[Visitor8]

oh dear hugs sweety

Does he get upset laying flat? That's how I know Eli has reflux, he HAS to be sucking after a feed for about the next hour at least otherwise he'll cry and get very upset, and he wont lay flat so it's propped on a pillow, in a sling, or in my arms all the time.

When he's really upset and you don't know how to settle him, wrap him up and go for a walk. Just getting out into the fresh air will often calm them down, and if it doesn't, a screaming baby doesn't sound so loud outside

It's nothing you are doing, being a new mum is hard and it takes time to learn what your baby needs and wants. Then there are just some babies who are higher maintenance than others!

What was the birth like? Sorry I can't remember and I really HAVE to get to bed otherwise I'll regret it tomorrow! If he had a traumatic birth he might still be healing from that. Also if it was physically stressful on him he might need outside help, see if you can find a chiro who specialises in babies Some people swear by it if bubby had a rough entry into the world.

[starangelk]

Entreat I just want to reach out and give you a big virtual hug. I am sure we have all had our moments when we have felt really really doubtful about what our babies are doing and what we are doing as mothers, both us Mummy's and the babies are still learning about each other and sometimes it's sooooo hard to know exactly what is needed at the right time. I have no answers for you, I am so sorry. Don't forget what Smamfa said about our babies being prone to being unsettled in the current weeks. I know that doesn't make the crying stop but it does offer some sort of explanation.

[entreat]

Thanks guys. I get so caught up in the moment of crying that I forget all the good things. Last night, he tried to talk to mum.

But there is still blood in his poo on & off. Not like if he was constipated, but rather in mucus, so it's coming from his gut lining. I'm booking an appointment with the doctor. It might have something to do with the screaming.

He lays on his change table just fine, but if you put him in his cot, he cries. As long as he's distracted with stuff to look at, he appears fine. If he's bored with what he's looking at - cries. I think part of it could be that I have no idea how to relate to such a little thing. I sing to him & read him books, and dibble utter crap to him, but it feels ... I dunno... odd. I think because when he's not crying, he's staring blankly at the world, I find that really hard to read. Oh! what I would give for a smile!!

Essentially - I think it comes down to my mantra: "You are over-thinking the situation"

I don't know what I'd do without you guys to vent to. All of you a treasures to me. I'd give up all the gold I've mined in my short career to stay friends with all of you. Xx

[starangelk]

Entreat - you are so lovely to write such nice things Right back at you babe. Hopefully the mucous isn't anything serious. My SIL's baby had the same thing and my brother said she was going to get it looked into and I never heard anything else so in their case I don't think it was anything harmful. So now you know when things are going a bit all over the place you need to think to yourself "Stop over-thinking!" which is funny in itself as you need to think about thinking that. Hee hee. Ikwym though - I feel a bit the same way with X, when I am hanging out with her and she is just looking at me expectantly I often wonder what I am supposed to do to keep her entertained. Basically she does these things - sits in our arms or on us and we talk to her, sits in our arms or on us and looks at the lights at nighttime, goes in her swing, lies on her floor mat or looks at books. And that's the extent of her fun time. What does everyone else do?

[Persephone1]

What was the birth like? Sorry I can't remember and I really HAVE to get to bed otherwise I'll regret it tomorrow! If he had a traumatic birth he might still be healing from that. Also if it was physically stressful on him he might need outside help, see if you can find a chiro who specialises in babies Some people swear by it if bubby had a rough entry into the world.

I can second this - Archie and I obviously had a traumatic birth, with the vacuum used in the end. Archie then had trouble latching on the RHS boob, until we saw a paediatric chiro who did some adjustments and VOILA, we had perfect attachment on the RHS (cradle-hold and football-hold) within 24 hours. We think his position in the womb and the vacuum might have given him a neck pain, but the trauma of the birth itself cannot be underestimated. Now, I'd never seen a chiro before I had a treatment the day I went into labour, and I've always been skeptical of chiros (I prefer myotherapy, osteopathy and acupuncture) but I cannot deny that our chiro helped immensely with Archie's RHS aversion, and probably helped him engage in my pelvis before the birth too.

Weigh-in yesterday - 4.186kg, which is an 820gm weight-gain in the month since birth. Oh, and me and Mr Archibald are heading to BabyROO (Baby GymbaROO) next week!

[Visitor8]

oh Sarah that weight gain is AWESOME!!! Beat Elijah lol He's put on 800grams in 5.5 weeks. He's my slowest grower of all the boys hehe

Jenn, those moments when he is staring up into space are the ones to grab hold of! These are the moments when they are most settled and will absorb the most of outside world. Talk to him about ANYTHING in a higher pitched 'baby talk' tone. They are the moments when I get the most smiles from Elijah Usually our conversations goes like this...

" Hiiiiiiiiiiiii, hey there beautiful, hey gorgeous boy, oh who's mummas beautiful boy, who's mummas happy little monkey, hey baby..." *repeat for the next 15 minutes* haha totally stupid chat but he seems to really enjoy it

[Feueriosa]

Jenn, those moments when he is staring up into space are the ones to grab hold of! These are the moments when they are most settled and will absorb the most of outside world. Talk to him about ANYTHING in a higher pitched 'baby talk' tone. They are the moments when I get the most smiles from Elijah Usually our conversations goes like this...

" Hiiiiiiiiiiiii, hey there beautiful, hey gorgeous boy, oh who's mummas beautiful boy, who's mummas happy little monkey, hey baby..." *repeat for the next 15 minutes* haha totally stupid chat but he seems to really enjoy it

Oh yes!! Same for Carys!! So funny when you see it writen down!

Entreat - Hope things smooth out soon! DS was a NIGHTMARE for the first 6 weeks, all he did was scream and I honestly thought he hated me. Spent a lot of time crying with him, but it slowly came good and he started to react to me and his surroundings and things got better. Hope that there is nothing bad wrong and it is just new baby stuff!

DS has been sick and given it to everyone including DD so poor little moppet can't breath very well and is pretty ****ed about that! Still sleeping pretty good and seems pretty happy apart from the snot! Weight today at 6 weeks 5.100kg and 58cms so she has grown heaps! Little piggy!

On the whole awake thing, C is slowly having more awake time, but still seems to sleep most of the time. Seems a bit odd as DS did not sleep much at all (too busy screaming!) but she seems to wake up, have a feed, have a cuddle, then (if not already asleep after the feed) go back to sleep.. Struggling to find enough awake time for tummy time... Does this seem odd?

Better go, DS is waking up..

DH goes back to work on Sunday and I am SO scared! HELP!! Don't leave me alone with 2 of them!!

xoxo
Feu

[smamfa]

entreat - big hugs! With ds I had read all the books and i was constantly expecting him to fit into what the books said - e.g feed, play, sleep..., show tired signs etc... and the thing is he DID end up doing and showing all of these things, but not at this age! At this age they really ARE unpredictable and hard to understand a lot of the time, and yes you will have to 'wrangle the baby', but he will also start to make A LOT MORE SENSE as he gets bigger and older. You are doing a fine job. Zach is crying heaps more atm too... mostly his digestion pains him i'm pretty sure. dont feel like you shouldn't ask for help... do you have a mchn?

feu - oh TOTALLY with you on that one - dh is back to work TOMORROW and i am shaking in my boots!! :-/