hugs to all the beautiful mummas. Thanks re: photos. I think people must get sick of all the pics though LOL

Sarah sorry about the family stuff Please feel free to chat to me privately, here or FB if you want to get it off your chest hunni.

Tubbles I am Mel A on facebook.

ETA: and you are currently commenting on my pics LOL
I love photos! They inspire me to take photos of Lily.. I have SO many photos of her already though.. hehehe

i am at the end of my rope. I have no idea what he wants. I feed him fine for about 10 mins (with some burping), and then he starts screaming. Mum said to run a bath or just run his bum under the tap, but when I run the water, he stops crying & starts going to sleep. If I think it's because he's wet, I change his nappy (he doesn't like being wet), but although he stops crying on the change table for a while, he'll start back up again as soon as I pick him up. He starts rooting & trying to suck on anything near his mouth (but ironically, won't take the dummy when he's worked up like this), but if I try to feed him, he'll suck from around 20 seconds, and start screaming again. Or, if he's not too stressed, he'll 'nibble' - not really drinking, but cries if you take him off, while staring at the ceiling/wall/anything.

I think he's over tired, but I seriously don't know. He doesn't seem to get enough sleep sometimes, but I barely think a 3 hour sleep is enough. He doesn't vomit much, but part of me thinks it could be silent reflux - but should I expect that every feed? His night feeds are almost perfect - we change, feed, and sleep. I'm questioning every thought & action I have. I keep being told to trust my instincts, but I'm not even sure I have any. I've been crying almost as hard as he has, and I've given myself a headache.

I feel like asking for help - but have no idea where to start. help what? and what could be done anyway? Surely, at some point, I have to be able to wrangle this baby on my own.
Maybe he has wind? Lily gets all disgruntled when she has wind. I try and do bicycle legs with her to try and get through the wind pain, of I try to pull her legs up to her chest to put her back in to the foetal position so that she calms down. Its really hard when you can't work out what is wrong with them. I have only had two days like that and I just cried and rang DP and then cried to him while Lily was screaming in the background. Sometimes it just feels better to get the tears out.. Hope things have improved xx

Entreat - you are so lovely to write such nice things Right back at you babe. Hopefully the mucous isn't anything serious. My SIL's baby had the same thing and my brother said she was going to get it looked into and I never heard anything else so in their case I don't think it was anything harmful. So now you know when things are going a bit all over the place you need to think to yourself "Stop over-thinking!" which is funny in itself as you need to think about thinking that. Hee hee. Ikwym though - I feel a bit the same way with X, when I am hanging out with her and she is just looking at me expectantly I often wonder what I am supposed to do to keep her entertained. Basically she does these things - sits in our arms or on us and we talk to her, sits in our arms or on us and looks at the lights at nighttime, goes in her swing, lies on her floor mat or looks at books. And that's the extent of her fun time. What does everyone else do?
I usually sing and talk to her, sometimes read some books, put her in her swing with some dangly animals, walk around with her in hugabub while talking to her about what I am doing, what the weather is like, etc, I sometimes put her on her play gym/mat, but she doesn't really appreciate that at the moment. She also likes the lady beetles that dangle from her portacot, so sometimes I put her in there too, but I feel a bit bad sometimes putting her in there like I'm not interacting with her enough.

Seph I am so sorry to hear that you have got some heavy family stuff going on - it's the last thing you need at the moment. I got some potentially scary news this afternoon and had tears over it so I think my hormones are still a little all over the shop. We are all here for you. Xx


Tubbles - thanks for the tip about the quoting. If this looks silly, it means I didn't understand your instructions but if it is right - yay for me!!! I am on facebook - I would be cool with creating a group but I wouldn't want any of my other friends to know about the group or see posts etc. It's funny, I like being able to share with you guys everything that is going on with X and talk about my feelings etc. I don't really feel like I want to do that with ALL of my facebook friends in fear they think I am becoming one of those people who only talks about their baby. Plus, probably wouldn't be keen for my Dad to read about my boob massage experience - hahahhahah.



Every single time I tell you how much I love your photos, you put up even more adorable ones. OMG re the professional ones too. We are FINALLY picking up Xanthe's professional photos next Wednesday. We also get the massive canvas we ordered too - yay. That means this weekend I need to pack up the glass cabinet stuff and move it all downstairs to make space on the wall for her gorgeous pic.

Just a general question - out of a normal 24 hour period, how many hours are all of your little ones awake? X is awake around 6-8 hours/day on average but she generally does it in 2 big blocks or occasionally (like today) 1 big block. I can't work out whether this is okay or whether we are letting her get overtired....she isn't really that difficult to put to sleep after a big stint and not that difficult to entertain in those last couple of hours but she does get more whiney.
I think Lily is the same. She usually is wake, feed, sleep, except for maybe 1-3 periods where she will be awake for a little while. I don't really try to fight what she wants to do, but I usually look for tired signs, so if she is yawning or sticking her hands in her mouth..

Weight today at 6 weeks 5.100kg and 58cms so she has grown heaps! Little piggy!

On the whole awake thing, C is slowly having more awake time, but still seems to sleep most of the time. Seems a bit odd as DS did not sleep much at all (too busy screaming!) but she seems to wake up, have a feed, have a cuddle, then (if not already asleep after the feed) go back to sleep.. Struggling to find enough awake time for tummy time... Does this seem odd?

Better go, DS is waking up..

DH goes back to work on Sunday and I am SO scared! HELP!! Don't leave me alone with 2 of them!!

xoxo
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What was Carys' measurements when she was born?

I don't think so.. we hardly get time for tummy time either, but luckily Lily doesn't mind it too much so we can make up some time when we do do it. Our ECN recommended trying to do it for a few minute or so when you change nappy if you can't fit it in or bub doesn't like doing it for too long.

Good luck with DH going back to work. DP went back only 2 days after I got back from the hospital cos he had just started a new job so had no time off But it was okay, I think I might have just ended up fighting with him if he had, I get frustrated at him sometimes.. I kinda like being at home alone cos I can stay in bed or sleep in, or just do whatever and I don't have to feel guilty cos DP is up doing things about the house... but then again I only have one. Not sure how I would cope with 2!!!