I tried the baby carrier yesterday out of desperation and it worked (whilst vaccuuming) but as soon as I put him down he woke up in 5 mins. It really does work, just wish my back was a bit stronger.
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I tried the baby carrier yesterday out of desperation and it worked (whilst vaccuuming) but as soon as I put him down he woke up in 5 mins. It really does work, just wish my back was a bit stronger.
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We all can be that domestic goddess that lives within us!!!
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Hi All,
I had my 6 week check up at the OB, all is healing well after the birth.
I looked for a returns desk at the hospital to drop Willow off to ... but couldn't find one? Ha Ha.
We have moved to being fully formula fed.
This has been so hard and disappointing for me as I am so pro-breastfeeding, but the formula appears to helping Will to settle and I am getting some sanity back in my life.
I cannot explain it. I've done several ABA courses, I've read all the BF books, watched the DVDs etc and have all the info on BF being 'the good stuff', but it just hasn't worked out that way for us.
Formula feels like it is giving me back a bit of my life and my time.
I know I am struggling at the moment, the OB did the post natal depression survey thing that they do to gauge how the new Mum is going ... I scored 15.
At the time I thought 15 was a good score.
This was until my OB said they accept a score of 13, however 6 is the average.
C'mon, it has to be the ONLY test where you hope you get a low score!!!
So yeah, DH and my Mum are keeping a close eye on me. My OB feels it's all situational though ... if I were magically transported to a beach in Fiji with a fruit ****tail in one hand and a good book in the other, well I would feel 100%. True depression is when no matter where you are, nothing changes your mood.
My OB reminded me that how I am feeling is to be expected - this is all new to me, it is stressful when you have a newborn let alone a very unsettled newborn, I am sleep deprived and I am learning 'on the job' everyday.
I am HUGELY confident that things will improve, Willow will slowly but surely get bigger and better at getting all the wind out and things will begin to settle.
My OB said that I should see a remarkable improvement in her beahviour from now (6 weeks) to 12 weeks.
It sounds dumb, but just the phrasing he used has helped - by saying "her behaviour". This is the first time it has been put to me like this. Up until now I instantly think 'Oh it's me' ... I'm not settling her correctly, I'm not feeding her well enough, I'm not feeding her for long enough, I'm not getting the burps out that she needs ... but by him terming it as "her behaviour" I've realised that it's not me at all. It is 'her' who is unsettled.
I am doing all that I can and it's 'her' behaviour that has to improve.
OK, well DH is off for four days now so am going to stop typing and go and enjoy some time with him while Will is napping.
Have a great long weekend everyone!
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Hi Thrilled - You must have posted at the same time as me. It sounds like you have a very sensible OB who has given you fantastic advice.
With my son I had PND but was not medicated. I have a brilliant GP who worked with me. I scored 17 or 18 on my little test when I actually told the truth with my GP when my son was about 5 months old. I had been suffering in silence and eventually went to my GP in desperation. So good on you for being open and honest.
I found accepting the lack of control in my life helped and that time was going to be taken almost entirely by this new little being and that was okay helped me out! I also found getting out of the house (no matter how hard at the time) actually helped and so did exercise!
I had no support at all with my son - it sounds like you have a mum close by to give you a hand...that will really help!
Your OB is so right - after three months - you baby's behaviour is so different! In fact 4-6 months was one of my favourite ages with my son (who is now two). Keep the light at the end of the tunnel in mind - each day you are moving closer and closer to that light!
You are doing a fantastic job! Bubs behaviour will change and become easier each and every day! And you will sleep sometime soon!! I remember my son slept through at 8 weeks just all of a sudden..no hint beforehand...(here's hoping Soph will do the same but I have my doubts).
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HI All
Just a quick message - anyone else having much spew? Ciaran has just started doing little spews/dribbles after most feeds, and 3 out of the last 4 days has done a HUGE Projectile vomit.
Its messy and goes everywhere - not sure the exact cause so thought Id ask!
Cheers,
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Hey Bree yeah Hannah has Spews dribbles after a lot of feeds, i think its when she takes to much at a time that she does it
I always get the spews down my cleavage lol
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Hi ladies, what an interesting week it has been for us.
My DS1 has been sick with a virus and has had a temp of 38.6 and kept vomiting, the poor little thing.
I have also been lucky to have my mum up for the last week, though all we were doing was trying to get stuff ready for a garage sale. It ended up being a total failure and we put so much work into.
Lennox has been really good and nice and healthy. I was really worried that he would catch the virus DS1 had so I have been kept on my toes making sure that big bro doesn't give Len big sloppy kisses.
He still has a bit of a gunky eye which I am starting him on eye drops tomorrow.
I have to say that Lennox has only ever spewed once on me and it was only tiny. I always worry that I am not making enough milk but he is putting on weight so quickly. He isn't a newborn anymore.
Cass, I just read the info on Nystagmus. Is your DH home yet, I hope so. It must be so lovely to just see his face again. I bet he has missed Robert too!
That is great that your mum sent a carrier. They are amazing and as I have said before I have one for every occasion. I even made a hug a bub out of 3 mtrs of material. Saved me $$
Shell, I can't believe how expensive photo's are either. One pic cost me $80 and the whole package was over $2,000. My jaw nearly hit the floor. We are just not that rich. Hope you get some nice ones.
Breesa, that is lovely you got some nice photo's done! You are so right that they are only little once and you should take every opportunity to remember that!
QB, It is such a bummer when you get your period back after being pregnant for so long. I also understand how it feels to go shopping with 2 boys! It is an effort and a half. I try not to lol.
Wow 5 hrs btwn feeds, so lucky!
Thrilled, great news your all on the mend. I think my stitches haven't healed properly as the doc sewed them wrong to begin with then had to undo them and start again. I just think he buggered up!
I also understand how hard it would be to go to formula when you just love BF so much. I give DS a bottle of formula once every 2 days when I need a rest and I just feel awful and I just shouldn't. They need food and formula these days is just amazing.
Being a mum is not easy and when your tired and stressed it is easy to get a bit down. I was down for about the first year when my DS1 was born. I did enjoyed every moment of him though maybe not the screaming for hours part.
M2W, I hope that Soph becomes more open to other ppls cuddles. It is so nice that they want you so much but hard to get things done or have some personal time.
How is it going handling the 2 littlies?
I am finding it a bit hard but I will get there. I just need 1 more hand!
Feijoa, that is a massive sleep from Peppar. You lucky thing. I am pretty sure I will be getting up every few hours for a long while. How did you do it??
We are off to get our 6 week check up this week. I would love to DTD with my DH ( sorry TMI) but I think it is going to be a long while. It just doesn't feel right down there.
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Hi Bree
Soph spews after most feeds (small ones) and then does projectiles (that travel up to 1m) about twice a week. I always think they are when she has had too much!
I asked the DR and projectiles only a problem is happen constantly, travel for more than 2m and baby not gaining weight - then it is some kind of obstruction in the gut.
Soph had a lovely settled night last night! Slept from 6.30 to 10.30pm...back to bed around 11.30pm. Then up at 4.30am and 8am. Lovely chunks of sleep!!
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M2W- What a good baby, how devine. Tobi did another 5 hours between feeds last night and DH did the late evening feed so I had 6 hours of straight sleep but when I woke up for the 3am feed I found it very hard to get back to sleep as my body is so used to running on about 5 hours sleep total.
Tobi was spewing a lot yesterday, had a couple of outfit changes. Hope today goes better, well as long as he is settled overnight that is the main thing.
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SOOOO tired, Hannah for some reason wont settle after the first wake up feed.
she has been having a feed, bath then top up in bed by 930-10 ,wakes up at about 1230 4 then 630 for feeds and settles back down.
but now she wont settle back down after the 12 30 feed, so we are up with her trying to settle her for at least an hour and a half but last nightshe wouldnt re settle , she fed at 1230 put her back to bed wouldnt settle was up for ages had to give her to DF as she was getting stressed about smelling my milk, i ended up putting her in the sling at about 430 which she fell asleep in i sat there for ages untill i slipped her out of it and put her to bed at about 6 and got a little sleep
omg she has been going so well so i shouldnt complain she cant help it
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hahah u guys are all DTD and i am all excited i just got to wash my hair for thr first time in what feels like forever
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Hello - Been a chaotic week here. Sophie had her needles on Tuesday and the week was a shocker. She had terrible tummy aches, constantly farting and then massive poos late in the week that were putrid (tmi????) from the rotovirus liquid they have to drink. The health nurse said they do hear of it every now and then - so it was a week of screaming and little sleep but she was more settled on Friday and seems a bit better today. So back on the up and up!
She had her 8 week health check on Friday and weighed 5.14kg. The nurse said her fontanelle (spelling??) was very small at only 1cm so needs to be checked - need to keep measuring her head circumference to make sure it is growing okay - but she said should be no probs.
Soph is still very much a mummy's girl. Will only last in the hands of another for 15mins without crying for me - even with DH. My son loved wandering around with daddy - hopefully she lets go a bit soon.
We have been working up to 4 hour strectches overnight. Some nights Soph settles back into the cot (Thursday night was great) - but last night she just slept with me.
Baby bjorn a lifesaver as Soph will not settle down at all in the morning but is sleeping well in the afternoon.
Sophie flatly refuses to go to sleep at night until toddler is in bed - she forces her eyes open when they droop! Then she likes some one on one time for an hour or so - so generally she isn't going down to 9.30 (awake from 4 or 5 in arvie!).
Can't believe she is 8 weeks on Monday - where does the time go...
QB - Yeah for your 5 hour stretch at night!!! Sophie wakes up as soon as I take her out of the baby bjorn too!! Did it twice to me this morning! I just live in the bjorn in the mornings now!!!
Shell - So glad the infacol is working for you! I heard from a friend the side to side rocking is better too...good to know. Maybe I might hire one like Stacey did, since Soph will not go out of my arms!
Stacey - You are v lucky with Peppar. Good for you! Can't say I am not jealous though.
Cass - Baby Bliss by Jo Ryan is great. Check out her website as it has free routines to download and I found the best suited my son (I read heaps of different ones and they matched his development very well). They really helped me out with him as I had no idea what I was meant to be doing...I also love love love Pinky McKay's book and philosophy (can't remember the name of her book). Also Elizabeth Pantley's "No Cry Sleep Solution" is good. I read everything with my son - and these were my three favs!
Bree - Co-sleeping has been a life saver for me! Soph also needs the constant touch in the day...glad to hear I am not alone! Glad your first day went well...
Roxie - How are you feeling - shingles better??
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