It's sooo true that all babies develop and hit milestones at different times. Kyson seems to be walking pretty early, but he has no teeth yet, and he's not saying any "real" words. Sure, he makes some "dad dad", and "mum mum" noises, but I don't count them as words because he's not associating them with us yet. I was in no rush for him to get teeth, but now that he's kicked the teething up a notch I really hope they pop through soon!
Now I'll spill the beans as to why I changed my username and all the secrecy... I've just changed my signature so it doesn't have the a.k.a. in it anymore so people can't google my name and find my posts...
So the secret is that DH and I are in the process of planning to ttc for number 2, but we may not be taking the natural path. We're currently going through the early stages of IVF (tests and counciling) with the plan on having PGD (preimplantation genetic diagnosis) to avoid having a baby with a genetic condition that is present on both sides of our families. I hope it's not rude or mean if I decide not to divulge what the actual condition is... We've got our fingers crossed that Kyson is not affected (he's too young to diagnose) but rest assured it's not life threatening.
I was thinking about keeping the whole thing a secret even on BB, but it's such a new experience (and possibly a difficult one at that) that I thought I might need the support from the lovely ladies on this forum. We've decided not to tell any family or friends IRL though (besides my mum who helped us with Kyson at a couple of appointments). We figured that we don't tell people when we are planning on dtd to make a baby, so they don't need to know about our ttc journey for number 2.
So far I've had my first visit with my IVF specialist consultant (he was absolutely lovely), DH and I have both had blood taken for tests, I've had a pelvic ultrasound, DH has had a sperm analysis (donating sperm at 8am before work was fun for him, lol), we've had our compulsory IVF counciling session, and next Wednesday is our PGD counciling session with the geneticist and genetic councellor. The week after that I have another appointment with our IVF specialist which is when I think we find out if we have the green light to go ahead.
The main reason I feel that I need to keep things a secret is I'm worried about us being judged by people. I even brought up with the specialist that I sort of felt guilty about seeing him for IVF when I'm able to fall pregnant naturally, but he was very quick to remind me that we are doing it for legitimate medical reasons. I told him I felt guilty that I might be taking up his time and resources that someone else should be getting, then he asked how long it had needed to wait between calling for the appointment and seeing him. It was only 1 1/2 weeks (AND he only works at the local clinic once a week...) and he told me that if there was a huge waiting list for spots then there was no way I would have gotten in that quickly. Hmmm, see I still feel like I have to justify it even now while I write...
Well, at this point in time I'm really hoping that everything goes ahead and I'm pretty excited about it. I know it's not going to be a walk in the park, but I'm sure I can walk this path. If you've gotten through my rant, then thanks for reading
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