Thanks Arimeh - I appreciate your advice having had them yourself. I have heard the 2nd isn't as bad in recovery....that's one of the things I've hated, the recovery - I'm good now after a week but the first few days I hated being drugged up and on a catheter, unable to get out of bed and enjoy my baby and then now not being able to drive is so annoying! I think I will attempt it next week, even if I probably shouldn't. Isn't it funny, Amelia loves sleeping on DH's chest as well, they do it every night when he gets home from work, we use that as her "tummy time" - her routine sounds similar to your little ones, I fed her last night at 11.00 pm and she woke again at 2.00 am and that's the feed she tends to want to stay on my boob forever, I think by then I've run out so she's not getting enough, hence why I've cheated the last 2 nights and done a comp feed at that feed - feel a little guilty but she has to eat!
Hi Mon - you didn't have c-sections for all yours did you? Are you thinking you'll go for number 5 down the track then? I guess you're young enough, I don't have age on my side so will probably try again in 18 months LOL! Gosh I miss being pregnant, do you? I love having a belly, it feels so nice and I felt so special, is that strange?
No just serenity was a csec others were 6hr,5hr 20min and she was 15 min at 7cm her foot came out so I'm hoping if I had another it would only be quick but I would like one more maybe when I'm 30 so gives me 6 yrs
I put serenity to bed around 9 she wakes about 2-3 then when I'm already up in the morning
Alison - check with your insurance for your car - you may be able to drive earlier than the 6 weeks. I know I did after mine because I needed to get to my physio session - and had to drive myself, and AAMI said that they had no rules or whatever for not driving after surgery and said if my OB was fine with me driving so soon afterwards (a week) then they had no problem with it either.
But yes I always hated the recovery. The midwives washing you down, and then taking out the catheter. What I hated the most though was not being able to feel my legs for ages, it always freaked me out. Plus being chained to a bed!! Arghhh.... I always felt so useless and I hated that. But you forget about all that eventually
All three kids are in bed now - finally - none of my kids ever want to sleep at night. I hope they all stay in bed tonight!!!!
I stopped the drugs the same night I has her cos it made me so sleepy the day after she was born had mu cathader out that sucked after a week I felt like I'd never had it done I was walking to the nursery 10times a day from the day after she was born,they say as long as you can turn without pain to check blind spots and emergency brake without pain you can drive
Alison I have no idea why she sleeps so long but she is 10weeks old on Friday so I think that factors in slightly though she's 2w1d corrected
i'm the straggler from belly buddies- my original edd was dh's birthday- nov 28 so thats why i joined that due group, got dates changed on dating scans so im now due 15 dec- but i love the nov girls so much i had to stay- and they kept me!!!
so hopefully ill be here soon
had 10 min ouchy bh's all night but ammounted to nothing.... hopefully soon x
My darling son, Michael James was born via c-section on 29th November ( went into labour but had posterior cervix, bub not engaged, and running a temperature - similar to Alison's story).
This our first baby and I'm trying to breastfeed, but having a bit of trouble. Just had the lactation consultant out this morning and I'm a bit upset atm. He is losing weight, and not feeding "effectively". The LC said that basically he doesn't have the energy to suck properly because he hasn't been getting enough milk. It breaks my heart and I spent the whole time she was here in tears. I have quite badly cracked nipples so feeding hurts, which isn't helping either. We tried nipple shields but he just doesn't like them and doesn't have the strength to suck enough to get the milk. So, she has given me a 24 hour plan to try and get him back on track - they will come back tomorrow to weigh him again. I need to try to feed him, give him some expressed milk and give the rest as formula - DH has just gone out now to get the formula. I need to stop putting pressure on myself to breastfeed...if he needs to get put on formula then so be it...its not the end of the world. I think I'm starting to feel a bit better about that, but its taking time.
I'm so upset, and stressed, and tired...I feel like I'm on my own - my mum lives in UK and my MIL has leukaemia and is in hospital, I just feel like I don't have anyone to show me what to do DH is wonderful but I'm trying (not very succesfully) to not burden him since he has enough to deal with with the situation with his mum. I spoke to my sis and she is going to speak to my mum to see if she can come over here earlier (she was originally going to come in February).
Sorry this is a bit of a selfish whingey post...I just need someone to talk to, and to hear how others are coping - because atm I feel like I'm not.
I had a horrible experience with DS and it put me off bfing for ages - I didn't even try it with DD1 because of the horrible memories.
However, when I had DD2, I was expressing straight away and had formula top ups and then my milk came in, and since then I have been full time bfing - which I hadn't done before
Please don't be discouraged - DD2 is losing weight too, so we are feeding as much as we can, she's woken up a bit in the last few days and is awake a lot more, so I'm feeding a lot more - so hopefully this does the trick.
Please try not to feel too bad - we all do what we can as mothers, but some things are out of our control unfortunately. xxxx
Hi Beany - don't be upset, you're not alone, I'm here for you remember and we'll catch up after Chrissy and have a good whinge/yarn - we practically have twins remember with our almost identical birthing stories! LOL Don't beat yourself up about formula feeding mate honest, it's so not worth it - I had a friend visit who had to formula feed as her bub was born with a cleft palate and he is now a thriving 9 month old! My sister couldn't BF because of mastitis and her kids are strong teens now. I have plenty of milk during the day but it depletes at night so I've been comp feeding the 2.00 am feed to get Amelia through and I felt guilty the first night but the health nurse just visited me and told me not to worry about it and it's fine. You do what you have to for Michael and what's best for you. I'm going to try expressing for the night feeds but if I have to continue the formula so be it, I've decided I'm not going to cry about it anymore or stress about it anymore as it really does not matter.
I hope that's made you feel better, we do the best we can with what we have and we can't do any more than that! There's far too much pressure on breast feeding these days and some of these nurses are too pushy if you ask me. I've been lucky with mine, although I have friends with lots of horror stories. Cheer up mate, you'll get there, we're all on a learning curve at the moment. I'd kill for a decent night's sleep! I struggle with Amelia sleeping and eating during the day but then I'm up during the night as she seems to always be hungry, thanks to my lack of milk in the evenings I think, either that or I'm not feeding long enough........she falls asleep after 10/15 minutes so what can you do!!!!!!!!
Awww Beany! Don't be so hard on yourself, you are doing the very best you can for Michael and I bet he just adores you for it!
I am also a first timer, we were due on the same day and my little man was born the day before yours, he has also lost weight, we too like Arimeh were doing breast and formula feeds, breast breast breast and then top ups of formula, then dropped back to breast when my milk came in, no lack of supply, Cruz is a great feeder and LURVES the boobie but then I got put on antibiotics, Cruz got diarrhoea from them and I am assuming that's why he has lost so much weight so I am breastfeeding and formula feeding again - Cruz was 3970 at birth, 3670 when we left hospital which the paed's were happy with and on Sunday he was down to 3260 Weighing in again tomorrow, fingers crossed he has gained!
I know how you feel, I feel just horrible as well, we just have to do what's best for our little one's, try not to feel guilty about it, it's not your fault, I bet we're not the only ones! I can understand how you feel alone, both of my parents have passed away and DH's family are around but there's sooo much drama in the very large family that we try to steer clear, you have me on Facebook hun, if you want to chat, just send me a message, I don't care if you want to scream, cry or talk about a funny looking caterpillar you saw this afternoon, just don't be shy and know you are a fantastic Mummy, you are not alone and everything WILL BE OK!! I hope your Mum can come over sooner for you! Awww big hugs honey, chin up and best wishes for tomorrow xox
This is my fourth and I still stress bout these things there was a patch when she was in hosp I was in tears cos with hunter I used to get 1lt a day and I wasn't getting 50ml a feed but I kept at it and she now bf,,just keep trying and if it doesn't work it's not the end of the world
serenity weighs the same as Cruz does now we finally are normal baby size lol
Hi Beany and welcome! Congratulations on your little boy and I look forward to hearing more about him. Like everyone else said, dont beat yourself up about the feeding as you can only do what your body will let you. We did comp feeding too like most ppl and now we are back to just bfing. Also I know what you mean with not having anyone to show you things, my mum and I dont talk and my mil is not here either so its just me and dh. We are not even in our hometown as we got moved for work lol...It can be pretty lonely but im getting there and so will you.
Hi everyone else!
afm, V is getting a bit more settled and dh is getting better at settling her thank god. Im expressing a little bit to store in the freezer for if he needs it seeing as he has no boobs.
Am a bit cranky at him tho he is on hols but has been doing homework anyway and went on a work function on Tues and not doing anything to help. I hope its only temporary because he has to get this thing done but its actually harder with him here atm...grrrr...
Archie Edward was born 5th Dec but was due 23rd Nov. We had a home/water birth and i had a PPH and almost needed to be transferred for a blood transfusion so have taken a while to feel better. Still very tired and pale but Archie is an awesome little bub and lets mummy sleep! We are BFing at the mo and have had a few issues due to too much milk and poor baby freaking out during let down (i get about 4 let downs per feed per boob!) So i tried expressing most of the milk out first and that seems to be helping. I can't believe how messy he is now my milk is in! Poo, Wee, Spat out milk going in all directions!
Looking forward to sharing the good and not so good times with you all! There are a few Perth ladies here so maybe we can catch up!!!
Hi Kymmy - yay you found us! You sound like you're doing well and feeling much better, so glad. Catching up is a fantastic idea, definitely!!!!!!!!!!!
I had a much better night, the 3 hourly feeding routine worked well last night, fed at 9.00 pm, 12.00 am, 3.00 am and 6.00 am and she went back to sleep straight away on all feeds and I didn't even comp feed last night yay! Getting an expresser tomorrow to express between feeds as I have a fair bit of milk too so might as well bottle it so DH can do the odd feed for a rest for me!
I have my sister in law coming over this arvo, I've had visitors all week and am a bit knackered, haven't even had time for an arvo nap but I feel bad saying no to people. I really want to decorate the tree that's been sitting there for a week too! Can't wait for the weekend so DH can spend some time with us, he's still working for another week and then taking 4 weeks off!
Yay how you guys can make next perth BB get together it was at faulkner park belmont today next one in a month check the WA section down the bottom of main page under general chatter i think
My DD was born on 21st November at 5:35pm after a pretty uneventful labour....hard labour was from about 4pm so had her out pretty quick with no tears or complications which was a relief.....I had big blood loss and big tears and placenta retention with my DS so it was sooooo good not to have stitches this time around.....
I'm currently breastfeeding at the moment with a nipple shield as I have very flat nipples - sorry TMI! It seems to be going alright at the moment, but I'm such a OCD with things I hate not knowing how much she is going....DS was bottle fed after about a week so I could keep a track of how he was going....but she seems to be putting on good weight so I'll keep going for as long as I can with it....
Looking forward to getting to know everyone in this group!!
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The LC said that basically he doesn't have the energy to suck properly because he hasn't been getting enough milk. It breaks my heart and I spent the whole time she was here in tears. I have quite badly cracked nipples so feeding hurts, which isn't helping either. We tried nipple shields but he just doesn't like them and doesn't have the strength to suck enough to get the milk. So, she has given me a 24 hour plan to try and get him back on track - they will come back tomorrow to weigh him again. I need to try to feed him, give him some expressed milk and give the rest as formula - DH has just gone out now to get the formula. I need to stop putting pressure on myself to breastfeed...if he needs to get put on formula then so be it...its not the end of the world. I think I'm starting to feel a bit better about that, but its taking time.
DH is wonderful but I'm trying (not very succesfully) to not burden him since he has enough to deal with with the situation with his mum. I spoke to my sis and she is going to speak to my mum to see if she can come over here earlier (she was originally going to come in February).
for you beany xxxx
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