DH is supportive - he just doesn't like to see me upset and frustrated and getting mad at DD2. He knows that I had a hard time bonding with DS because of feeding issues - and doesn't want this last experience to suck for me cos of more feeding issues. So his lack of support is actually concern and care for me - as much as a male can show I suppose. I know where he is coming from anyway.
ooh my gosh ive missed out on so much!!!!
I havent had a chance to get over to this forum until now
hey everyone!! DS was born on the 24th of November, 9pound 10, 4 weeks old tomorrow - holy crap!
we had a appointment with the MW today, he's put on 210 grams in 1 week. I thought it was great but after just reading all of your posts i'm starting to wonder if its enough?? He had a bit of drama, when i took him 1 week ago he was still 100 grams under his birth weight. what do you all think?
might make some of those cookies ithink, get this milk pumping~!!!!
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Go for it with the pity party - it is freaking hard sometimes so dont worry about that!!
I didnt imagine it would be this hard and I've only got 2!!! I'm hoping that JD will grow out of his behaviour at the moment as it's not good and I'm sick of yelling at him about nearly everything....
JD was FF and I understand what you mean about giving up BF....it would be easy, but like you I want to try and make a go of the BFeeding this time around, so just see how it goes....either way you know they are going to be OK!!
I try to express when I can and I havent been getting as much as I used to...sometimes only 30 - 40ml out of each side at a time, but at least it makes a bottle for DH to give her so we can have a break hey!
Finally home and settled after another long day shopping... finished all our shopping now!
Arimeh- BF can be really frustrating and as far as im concerned you have given it a really good go. If it is affecting your relationship with your daughter then maybe you can think of going to FF. I know you are expressing for that middle of the night feed, see how that goes, otherwise you might be able to give formula for that feed??? You need to think of number one xx
JD- Is your DD attaching properly? You may have grazed nipples. My DD is feeding every 2-3 hours and my nipples arent sore, when my DS was a baby My nipples were so so sore because he wasnt getting enough breast in his mouth. Maybe you can see a lactation consultant for some help/advice.
I need to finish wrapping pressies while Ruby is asleep and it is still a reasonable hour lol
Hi all this will be quick and a bit selfish sorry ...
3 sils came to visit from melbourne. they are awesome and all good help so no dramas at all but i felt a bit "watched" and a bit embarrrassed when v wouldnt stop crying...having said that they are the ones i would like to help me as they are just so great and houghtful and would do anything i asked..sil cleaned my bathroom...yay!
v is still doing the evening mental period sil1 thought it might be a sore bum cos v poos a lot so am putting curash nice and thick...it all seems ok down there so thats ruled out. but it has improved the last 2 nights with the sling and the swing...see below...
We got v a fisher price swing which helps keep her asleep in those fussy times as it was doing my head in in the evenings...friggin expensive and i was initially hesitant but it has paid itself off already!!!! the sling was working and still is but i need to be able to put her down which the swing lets me do...its early days but she has slept in it and will stay in it while awake for longer than anything else i have tried (bunny rug, bouncer, pillows, etc...) like a few of you i am trying to deal with the needing to be held constantly and it seems only i will do...
Anyhoo i said it would be selfish lol....oh also my sils brought heaps of baby gifts from all the extended fam so v got spoilt lol
Hi Natty - we got a Fisher & Price Swing too yesterday, is it the one with the birdies on it in blues and yellows and reds? I'm hoping that helps me with Amelia too, she seemed to enjoy it today!
AFM - apologies if I asked this already, has anyone been given the mini pill by their OB? He gave me a script before I left hospital - I didn't ask for it - but I'm not sure I want to take it. I'm supposed to start today and picked it up but can't bring myself to do it. I was on the normal pill for 20 years before giving it away and I don't know enough about the mini pill to want to take it yet. A friend of mine told me it made her depressed and ruined her milk supply so not sure if I should wait until I see the OB for my 6 week appointment. I just don't know what to do!!!!
Alison- i wasnt given any contraceptive when i left hospital and wont discuss it with my dr until my 6 week checkup. like you were saying in an earlier post, age isnt on your side and you and dh are planning on having another sooner rather than later. Do you have a regular cycle? If I was you I would just be careful around O time until you want to fall preggers again - or if it happens then it happens!! Like you also said, you dont want to wait around for the hormones to leave your system.
Hey ali, i was given the script too, but wont be getting it filled. i'm like arimeh and ubba, haha - we don't really have sex that often that it warrants the need for anything other than condoms, whoopsie! poor dh *violin music*
natty i'm glad v likes her swing, we got theo one when i was still preggers, and he's not that keen... all that money down the drain! hahaha. I know what you mean about your sils 'watching' you. it can feel a bit uncomfortable can't it! but if they've had kids i'm sure you were worrying for nothing x they've been there - experienced that - and know exactly what its like!
ali - have you used your baby bjorn yet? i've been using my old one sooo much lately, its really handy when shopping with a toddler and a newborn! thinking about upgrading to the baby bjorn - just wondering on your experience!
arimeh your doing a great job with the BFing. Remember they dont gain as quickly when breastfeeding. is she above her birthweight? theo is only 100grams above his, and 4 weeks old today, which was worrying me, but the ladies in the breastfeeding threads helped put my mind at ease. If she looks healthy, and you're enjoying breastfeeding, do whats right for you. personal questions - haha , seeing as you were my 'perry massage buddy', lol, did you end up tearing? i did... 2nd degree, whoopsie! obviously didn't do that massage often enough!
okay, gotta go put dd down for her nap, then wake theo - tag team! gotta love it!
PMSL!!! I forgot about being peri massage buddies.. ROFL!!!!!! Um we didn't do it THAT much because I hated the feeling of it, and it just freaked me out a little - so we quit it a few weeks after starting it - and I only had a minor first degree tear to the peri - that didn't need stitching so I was happy with that.
We have one of those fisher price swings too - hahaha!! Must come standard or something
Oh - and about the baby bjorn - please consider getting another sling that is actually friendly to the baby's spine - cos the bjorn puts pressure on bubs spine as they just sorta "hang" there - something like the Ergo, close carrier etc - supports bubs spine - the ergo is actually recommended by chiropractors so its a good one. Plus you can use it till they're like 4 or something, so you get more use for your money Excellent resale value too I'm not going to lecture though about slings, just do some googling about the different slings and what they do to bub before making a final decision (please?)
As for us - Eden has been a MUCH more settled bub today. I went to the LC yesterday, got a perfect latch, but then she said that I might have a low supply, she might have reflux - might might might - lots of mights - so I came home, she couldn't attach (typical!) and then was acting like I had no milk, so I gave her what I had expressed earlier that day - she drank 120mls - and then fell asleep till 3am!! Then DH fed her, and I went and expressed more.
She has been sleeping and eating today - no more grizzles, no needing to be held at every second - I even prepared dinner for cooking earlier!!!! Amazing! So looks like we will be expressing and doing top ups if necessary. My LC is happy with this, she doesn't puke as much if fed by a bottle, so I have hope that she will gain weight now. Telly - she has only JUST hit her birth weight now, but her gains have been slow (ie, 70g in 12 days, 30g in 5 days) so its cos of all her chucking apparently she's not getting much so anything that makes her spew less, I'm a fan of. Plus I have so much washing building up its not funny!!!!
Oh and Ali - yeah like I said before - not enough sex to warrant going on the pill. But that could be cos DS has been co sleeping with us for ages now so we don't actually get a chance to DO anything.. LOL
Hi Telly - I filled the script last night but decided not to take it hee hee - it was only $12.00 so not worried. I'm going to at least wait until I see the OB for my 6 week check....which is actually not until 5th Feb as he's away before that! Like you girls I don't think I can warrant it, I can't have sex until the 6 week mark anyway and quite honestly I'm with you girls, it probably won't happen often enough to warrant it, sadly ha ha!!!! It's been so long as it is I've forgotten how LOL. As for the Baby Bjorn, I haven't tried it yet, I can't until the 6 week mark because of the c-section, OB doesn't want me carrying any weight on my belly until then but my friend highly recommends it.....I can't wait until I can as it will be much easier when shopping etc.
I have to have a vent here, quite funny actually - for those who remember me talking about a girl from work who is due end Jan in our previous thread and does nothing but whinge about being tired when she only worked part-time (5 hours a day)....well she finished work last week as she's now 34 weeks pregnant. She's just emailed me and gone on and on about how exhausted and tired she is and is so glad she's finished work as she wouldn't be able to handle it and bla bla bla. All I kept thinking was, if she thinks she's tired and knackered now, imagine how she'll feel when the baby is born. I don't think she has a clue what to expect......she's never even held a baby until I had Amelia and I had to show her what to do hee hee. I think I feel a bit sorry for her as she's in for a shock. I'm only just getting used to it now and I was expecting it!
AFM - 3rd night in a row where Amelia woke every 3-4 hours so I'm hoping this is the beginning of something good. DH has been doing the 6.00 am feed with a bottle for me as I'm finding I'm too tired to BF, just can't physically wake up enough to even sit up in bed, anyone else experience that? He's still at work (grrrr) so has to get up anyway and he gets to sleep through the night better than me, I was up at 12.30 am and 3.30 am this morning feeding as it was...but Amelia did go straight back to sleep so that makes a big difference. Also, I got my photos yesterday that were taken at the hospital when Amelia was 4 days old, they had a photographer come around. She's done a lovely job, wasn't going to as it cost nearly $200 but glad I did. I got big ones, smaller ones which I've framed for our mums for Chrissy, a birth certificate type thing and some thank you card sizes. I also got all the pics on disc if I want to do more. I tried uploading them onto FB but keep getting error messages. I did manage one though, weird.
okay, put dd down for a nap but havne't woken ds... haha. i know i'll regret it tonight! ahh well, belly belly time is too important! hahaha
thanks for the tip arimeh, i'll check out the ergo - i'm thinking about asking santa for one, so i best get researching! Ive heard a lot of mixed reviews about the baby bjorn - thats why ive been so hesitant, some people swear by them, some people swear at them, lol!! thats great that you didn't get a bad tear! i knew that i was going to tear, i could feel the stinging before the head was even nearly out, kept saying to the mw that i didn't wanna push cause it was stinging too much. ahh well, i'm all healed now and wouldn't know any different! I agree with the less spewing the better! Isn't it dissapointing when you give them a nice big feed, only for it all to come back up! grr! have you tried the tips in the breastfeeding threads to increase your supply (if that is even the problem, sounds like you're expressing enough!). I wanna give the biscuits a go, but its just so much easier to have a beer before bed (works wonders for me).
ali thats great that amelia had a good night, also great that you dh gets up to feed her! what a champion! my dh sleeps through anything, and i think he enjoys breastfeeding extra because it means he gets out of the late night feeds!! I'm hopeless at expressing, i get about 10 ml from each boob, i just can't do it - made it hard when dd started farex, poor thing had to have water with it -eeeww, as it its not gross enough!
Theo had a shocker of a night last night, i just couldn't put him down! at 2:30 i threw in the towel and put him in bed with me, he then snoozed away happily!!! typical male, loves boobs and his mum.
i'm on FB if any of you ladies wanna add me, Telina Jacobson. I've got the same profile pic as my ticker picture. hope you can find me, for some reason some people say my name never comes up, no idea why!
LOL Heavenly - you're still young, wait until you're my age...I never thought I'd say that but I think you do enough of it in your 20's so when you get older there are more important things to do with your time. Not that I don't enjoy it, just takes more effort that's all ha ha!
I only just got out of wearing the lovely surfboards about a week ago so there was no way I was DTD while all that was still happening down there...sorry, probably TMI!!!
LOL you girls are lucky, I still HAVE the surfboards, although think I'm nearly finished with them I hope, I HATE them! How long did you girls bleed for? I was hoping having the c-section would shorten it, it's been 3 weeks and looking like I might be at the end!! Bloody awful things, I feel like I'm wearing nappies myself!
Alison - with both my csections I bled for around 6 weeks (then got AF at 8 weeks yay for me) but this time round, I'm pretty much finished now, just stuff there when I wipe, so I keep the liner on just in case
whoopsie! poor dh *violin music*
I'm not going to lecture though about slings, just do some googling about the different slings and what they do to bub before making a final decision (please?)
As for the Baby Bjorn, I haven't tried it yet, I can't until the 6 week mark because of the c-section, OB doesn't want me carrying any weight on my belly until then but my friend highly recommends it.....I can't wait until I can as it will be much easier when shopping etc. 
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