Hi Girls - back from our holiday house for 2 days, was very hot as there's no aircon yet but we had a nice time nonetheless, Amelia was very good, especially considering how hot it was!
I can't remember everything everyone has said I've missed so much! LOL
Hi Natty - your MIL needs a slap ha ha - I'm glad you lost it at her, I think you needed to do that. I get sick of people telling me what to do, do they think we are completely stupid! I don't get it too much but I get enough to annoy me!!!
Hi JDs Mum - I'm still using nipple shields, probably shouldn't but unfortunately I think Amelia got used to them so I find feeding much easier....besides, I can see that she's getting milk as it collects in the shield. I tend to only use it more for one side than the other as she latches better to one than the other. I've been doing more FF feeds at night to top her up as my milk really runs low in the evening. I do feel a bit guilty about it but not sure why, it still has goodness in it and what about those who can BF, I think it's drummed into us too much to BF so we feel guilty about FF'ing. I'm not going to worry about it, the most important thing is they are getting their food and I'm only doing it as a top up at night so she's still getting the "good" stuff during the day.
Hi Heavenly - glad you've had a great Chrissy and let your hair down. I think it's important we have some "us" time as well!
Hi Kymmy - yay Archie is settling in to a routine that's great news. Makes things far less stressful huh!
AFM - I woke up with such engorged boobs yesterday down at the block I was in agony! I didn't take my expresser with me either so had to feed Amelia a little more than usual just to release them! It ended up putting her out of whack all night and she had a couple of poo explosions through the night and a vomit which she never does so not sure if she had too much or not. She seems fine though and my boobies are much better today! She hit 4 weeks on Monday, gosh how time flies. She has started to properly smile now and trying to grab things. My sister gave her a pink mobile for her pram for Christmas and she loves it and tries to grab the butterflies etc., it's adorable to watch. I kissed her yesterday and she smiled, melted my heart and I nearly cried LOL!
Anyway, DH is home today yay!!! It's his birthday tomorrow, poor thing has his birthday on New Years but we won't be doing the NY thing this year with a little baby haha. We'll have a nice day tomorrow and dinner or something but that's about it! What's everyone else doing for New Years?
I really hope anyone who feels guilty about FF doesnt beat themselves up. Just something to think about - My DD1 was formula fed. She is rarely sick and is a year ahead in her schooling. My DS was breastfed for 11 months. He had bronchiolitis from 6 months of age then diagnosed as asthma at 2. He has just had grommets inserted in his ears and has speech therapy.
We are made to feel guilty for FF'ing - but if you look at a classroom of children, try and pick the ones that were BF and FF....
Just keep doing what is right for you and your family, you are all doing a fantastic job xxx
Alsison- New Years??? Cant remember the last time we celebrated New Years I feel a bit senior these days cause I am quite happy just staying at home lol
Hi Ubba & Madame - I'm with you on FF'ing and am finding myself not feeling so guilty anymore. In fact, I'm finding it less stressful giving her a bottle at night. I try to express but I don't get more than 80 mls usually. I'm finding she's having a good 120 mls in one sitting these days, is that normal at 4.5 weeks? I have no idea how much I should be giving her if I do give her a bottle! And Madame, I was formula fed too and I think I'm fine hee hee! Some would argue that I'm sure.
I'm feeling really sad! Had the last visit from my midwife today.. I feel like it's the end of something special! We talked heaps about the birth and she gave me all my birth notes and it's made me realise how special it truly was! Homebirths are amazing and anyone thinking of having one in the future should do it cos it's such a great experience.
I think i wanna have another baby now.... i mean NOW!
haha!
I might wait a few months.....
Hi all I feel like the only one not using any formula lol...
Every time V is a maniac and loses it someone (whoever is visiting at the time) suggests I dont have enough milk or something, it feels like a slap in the face like there just HAS to be something wrong with me and my milk because suddenly whoever it is has no advice because the kid is SCREAMING lol..Pity I know better because she is putting 300g on a week so there
BF is very hard and sometimes Id like to just give up on it but after not wanting a bar of it to begin in the pregnancy to now not wanting to use formula I am feeling really proud of myself and V. Having said that Id FF if I needed to and so should all of you. You know whats best for your babies anyway...
WOW, so much has happened since I last logged on Christmas Eve!!!
Just a quick update from us, we had a lovely First Christmas with Trent. It started with brekky with my DP's family. He got LOTS of pressies and was handed around from cousin to cousin! We all then went for a nap and were up again mid arvo to head off to my families house for dinner. A big gathering of 20+ people there and again he got lots of attention. We then headed back to my mums house who lives down the beach and have just got back from there tonight. So its been very full on.
Trent was such a good boy considering what a big Christmas day he had. He slept 8 hours Christmas night the poor little thing.
While at my mums, we spent an arvo at the beach with a g/f and her kids and again he was so well behaved and it was a warm day too.
Its nice to be home now and alone as a family We are heading to a friends house tomorrow night for New Years. Its apparently going to be a low key party and Im the designated driver so will go home a decent time!
I gave up BF Christmas Eve. It was a sad thing to do and I do miss it but it was the best thing in the end. Have had more time to enjoy Trent and play with him as feeds were taking so long. My boobs ached for a few days but they have settled down now. We see our MHCN tomorrow so will be interesting to see how much weight he has gained. Trent is smiling HEAPS these days too Its just ADORABLE!
Will be back later to catch up on personals. Just wanted to update you on our goings on.
Hi Kymmy - awww that's so sweet and I know how you feel. I felt the same knowing I wouldn't be seeing my midwife and OB every week, very sad and felt like the end of a journey that I didn't really want to end. I too want to have another baby, I miss being pregnant still - we will probably start trying again end of 2010, I'll be 37 in June anyway so it's more a matter of giving my body time to get over the c-section etc. Plus I want to enjoy Amelia for a while before I do it again.
Hi Tania - welcome back and sounds like you had a fabulous Christmas! Good on you for giving up BF, that's hard to do I imagine, I've been doing a bit of both, trying to BF only during the day but I do comp FF feeds here and there and sometimes FF alone in the evening feeds, I just can't give Amelia enough, she seems to be going through a growth spurt at the moment (she's 4 weeks old now) so I don't want her to go hungry. She settles so much better with a full tummy, especially from the FF's! I will continue to BF as much as I can for as long as I can but I have come to terms with using FF, I'm not worried about it anymore, no need to be!
Hi Natty - good on you for sticking with BF'ing, it's really tough to do and I never realised how much time it takes up, Amelia is feeding longer these days so I feel like all I do is sit on the couch and have my boob out ha ha. Again though I will continue to do it for as long as I can but FF'ing sometimes is more convenient when out and about, or my boobs are out of milk so to speak ha ha! I've found it hard to express lately as we've been out so much, can't exactly sit at the Christmas dinner table with the pump hanging off you LOL! Talking of which, I might give it a go now, although it's probably too late and I should save it for Amelia's next feed now!
madamerogers - I feel the same about JD and the whole neglecting thing....the poor fella is pretty much housebound at the moment unless mum takes him out or we go to playgroup and when we are home I yell at him so much cause he is either making heaps of noise or wanting to touch Abbey all the time or doing something naughty so it's pretty unpleasant for him at the moment...if he listened to what I say life would be a lot nicer for him but it doesnt seem to sink in and I dont know what else to do with him....
MissMagpie - Sounds like you had the perfect Christmas!
I'm still BF 90% of the time....If I havent expressed I will take a bottle of formula with me and if I'm too busy or something at night then DH will give her a bottle but she's still pretty much on me.....yesterday she would not go to sleep at all and I felt like she was attached to my boob constantly....am going to go and weigh her in a minute so hopefully she's gained well....I hate not knowing how much she is getting from me, but she is generally happy so I guess that means her tummy is full and she sleeps pretty well at night but during the day it does my head in!!! I would give anything for sleep and she will do anything not to go down!
If we are down at the shops and am giving her a bottle I feel like people are looking at us and because she's so little judging us about what she is being fed....I know that's stupid and people probably dont care but I cant help feeling that....pretty dumb hey? Also if people ask if I'm BF I also feel like I have to blurt out that I'm using a nipple shield (and they probably dont even know what one is!)....like I'm not really doing it properly or cheating or something?? So silly to feel like that / do that but I cant help it....
Anyway, hope everyone's having a great day and will talk soon.
Shayna
ive cut back to one night time bottle now,serenity went 6 hours between feeds then another 4 hrs from a bf so happy with that...she has started miling on purpose today,she has in the past but more wind smiles but she was doing it this time so im very pleased i was starting to get worried she was going to be abit behind
Hi Heavenly - isn't it exciting when they smile, Amelia has smiled a couple of proper ones this week, can't wait to see more. I kissed her the other day and she smiled, melted my heart!
Hi Kymmy - will have a squizy of your birth story, can't wait to read it.
Hi JDs Mum - I know what you mean re BF'ing and the nipple shield thing and in public what people will think. We were down south for a couple of days and in a cafe so I gave her a bottle as I felt uncomfortable feeding in a country cafe which was full! I was so worried about people judging me on using a bottle that I would've felt better BF'ing in the end. But, no-one even looked so there you go! I think we just have to learn not to worry about others, although very hard, I'm the worst at worrying about what others think!
AFM - DH's birthday today, first as a Daddy. Will be a quiet night though, going to his mum and dad's for dinner, no partying for us this year, although we didn't last year either ha ha! Getting old, getting old!
Ha thats true about not worrying about what strangers think...Are they there at 3am when your boobs are all out of milk or you cant get bubbs to sleep...erm nooo...
I would love to try and ff at night if it meant better sleep but Im just too stubborn now Im seeing it as a challenge...Man, send me back to basic Army training and I wouldnt complain about the lack of sleep there ha.
Hi Billykat - I'm so jealous, how do you get Ella to sleep through the night? I want to know your secret!!!!! Amelia still wakes around 1.30 am and 4.30 am..........not too bad but would love to have a whole night or even just one night feed!!!
Oh and HAPPY NEW YEAR everyone, hope you enjoy your evenings. Quiet one for us this year, it's DH's birthday today so we'll just have dinner at his mum and dads and that's about it!
Hope everyone had a good NYE...I spent most of the time between 10 - 1am yelling at the dog to shut up....there seemed to be crackers going off everywhere and everytime they went off Elvis went off as well and he's so loud...thankfully Abbey didnt wake up but she was making a hell of a lot of noise in her sleep...I end up just lying there waiting for her to wake up - for up to an hour and then I've wasted that time just lying there instead of sleeping!
She usually wakes up around 1 - 2am and has a feed and then most times drops off again and is back up between 5 & 6....this is the pattern at the moment and I can deal with that so fingers crossed it continues....
She only put on 100gm this week which had me worried but the nurse said that's fine as the last 2 weeks she put on 300 and 250 so it all evens out in the end....I was worried that my milk might be running out but there's plenty in the shield when she comes off so it must be going all right. Seemed on Wed all she did was feed all day but hopefully it's a growth spurt cause I dont want to have too many days like that...chained to the couch and then her not sleeping all day either...I think she would have had no more than 2.5 hours sleep on Wed and that wasnt all in one hit....it was doing my head in! Yesterday was a lot better though and she's sleeping now too....
Alison1973 - Hope your DH had a nice b'day and first one as a daddy....did you get him anything from Amelia?
Kymmy - I read your birth story and it was great - not too long at all!! What an experience!!
It's hot here today again so might take the kids to dad's for a swim and get out of the house for a while...hope everyone is going OK.
its so hard to find my bellybelly time these days, its making me feel sad . I'm trying soo hard to keep in contact with you all, mon how on earth do you do it with 4?!?! And arimeh - 3 little little ones too! gosh i must be so unorganised! I'm going to start doing all my house work at night when both kids and the old man go to bed - i just cant find the time during the day and i'm getting soooo stressed out about the state of my house. I'm sure a couple less hours sleep won't hurt me, theo is pretty good *touch wood*. Actually last night he slept 7 hours straight!!! my gosh i was so excited! But mind you i woke about 5 times to check on him.
Natty i'm with you on the bfing, i don't even have formula in our house. I found my boobies were getting a bit empty, but im like you - too stubborn to give formula a go. I've since been having a glass of activalte.. or something like that, forget the name, before i head to bed, and they're rock hard by the time i wake up! seriously give it a go if anyone has troubles! Its in woolworths, next to the milo, an orange tin. I read about it in the bfing threads and decided to give it a go - and it works like a beer! hehehe. I'm mainly stubborn with the formula cause i dont want anyone else to have that time with theo, i really cherrish bfing.. i know how quickly they grow and am appreciating every 3am feed, I'm very proud of you - from someone who didnt want to even give it a go - you're such a champ!
For those who arne't comfortable bfing in public - its a big thing to get into i know! after i had dd i was a little akward too, but it soon wore off. Just remember how natural bfing is, if anyone gives you guff - let them know that its illegal to discriminate against any woman bfing in public in australia. be proud. x
I feel a bit senior these days cause I am quite happy just staying at home lol
We are heading to a friends house tomorrow night for New Years. Its apparently going to be a low key party and Im the designated driver so will go home a decent time!
. I'm trying soo hard to keep in contact with you all, mon how on earth do you do it with 4?!?! And arimeh - 3 little little ones too! gosh i must be so unorganised! I'm going to start doing all my house work at night when both kids and the old man go to bed - i just cant find the time during the day and i'm getting soooo stressed out about the state of my house. I'm sure a couple less hours sleep won't hurt me, theo is pretty good *touch wood*. Actually last night he slept 7 hours straight!!! my gosh i was so excited! But mind you i woke about 5 times to check on him.
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