Alison - Bummer about the hearing test, but you really have to go to something like that....will you take Amelia with you??? I hear you about the shopping thing....poor DH and I rarely go anywhere together anymore cause it's such a pain and JD is so naughty so I usually wait until one of them is asleep then I head out and do it on my own or vice versa...if JD wasnt such a nightmare then it would be a much less painful experience...hope you have a better night tonight...mine's not looking that promising so far...
tellytubby - Good on Theo for being such a great sleeper!! I'm the same with you about going out and meeting new people...I'm super lazy and just couldnt be bothered (isnt that terrible??). I have a few good school friends that I'm in touch with and see regularly but thats about it...I have a close girlfriend that lives a block and a half away and I'm flat out seeing her once a fortnight let alone taking on any new commitments!!! Very slack but it's just so damn hard sometimes and I dont have the energy to be bright and happy and making conversation with people...frig I'm sour!
Alison - You have become SuperMum havent you??!?!?! Yay for V for behaving herself for you..what a good girl!! Dont know about the Mastitis...wasnt so much the boob giving me problems it was the fever and my body being so stiff that knocked me about...2 days in on the pills though and feeling good now...thanks for the lovely comment on Abbey...her and V look alike with their dark mane's...DH's will have to have their shotguns ready in 15 years time!
billykat - I admire you for wanting another little one...they are lovely when they are so little and innocent arent they...I look at Abbey sometimes and think maybe, just maybe and I've already told everyone we have a pigeon pair and that's it but I guess you never know....I couldnt imagine myself having 2 kids and now I do. The Today show had a couple on this morning that have 13 kids and she's pregnant with their 14th....insane I reckon but the kids all seemed well behaved...god, when do they have time to DTD??? I'm too exhausted to do it with only 2 kids!
AFM - I'm feeling like I should have a routine going and I have nothing...some days I feel like she's on the boob all day and that she should be over doing that but if she's going ballistic then that's the easiest thing to get her to settle down so I just shove her on...I never know when she's going to go to sleep and wake up etc...my step sister has a little boy 3 months older than her and he has being doing his thing perfectly for months now, so probably from her age onwards...he's only up for an hour at a time and then sleeps for 3 or so hours...Abbey is up for hours at a time and only sleeps for 20 min's sometimes.. I'm such a control freak and I cant control this...I just want her sleeeeeeep for a decent amount of time puhlease...maybe I dont have enough milk or something and that's why she's waking up? I dont want her to vomit though if I top her up with formula and that's not really the problem (she's done this to me before...)
DH is pretty good but we have been at each other's throats the last couple of days...there is just no time out between the 2 kids (even though my mum is good and takes JD a bit there's still Abster the nutter of course) and are just snapping at each other constantly....just have no patience..between JD playing up constantly and Abbey being attached to me it's just not enjoyable at all. Mum took JD for the night last night and you'd think he'd be happy about that but noooo....I said that he is much better over there for the night having fun with her and being the centre of attention than being here and being screamed at every 2 minutes and DH had organised to go on Xbox with his mates anyway so it's not like he'd be spending time with him - I'd be dealing with it!! Men....I could run away and be a recluse sometimes for sure
Sorry for the selfish post and the ranting and raving...
Hi Shayna - hmmm, must be the day to be annoyed with DH's cause I feel the same! I think snapping at each other is just the tiredness coming out. Amelia went to sleep at 9.30 pm after her last feed last night, was awake again at 1.00 am with a wet nappy (she's soaking them these days) and then again at 5.00 am, this time her nappy leaked through her jammies and onto the bassinette mattress so she was not happy. Because her bed was wet I changed her, fed her and popped her in bed with us but she didn't really go back to sleep properly. DH did help me but what annoyed me is he went fishing with his dad at 6.30 am and I was so tired I could hardly keep my eyeballs open and he had the cheek to whinge that he was tired as well and was all cranky. I said, well, you chose to go fishing so don't go there. So I had to get up as Amelia would not sleep while he went gallivating off fishing with his dad and his mates. It's now 8.00 am and Amelia has finally gone to sleep so I probably should have a nap, now I'm up though I feel too awake and I'd like a shower. Honestly!!!!! Oh and don't worry re routine, what works for some doesn't work for others. I tried from the start to get Amelia into a routine at a friends suggestion, her little boy was sleeping through from 12 weeks, I've kind of stuck to it but there have been days lately where it just doesn't happen and I cave in. We do what works on the day and let's face it, every day is different!
On the nappy front, I bought some Infant ones yesterday as I'm finding the Newborn nappies are leaking Amelia's wee up her back now. The only problem is because Amelia is more long and thin and she only has a little bottom the infant size are a bit gapey around her legs so while it stops the wee leaking up her back I reckon the poo will come out the legs. I'm tempted to put one of each on ha ha - just kidding. Oh and DH and I DTD last night, the first time since I was 4 months pregnant can you believe it! I must say I don't know how you girls who had a vaginal birth managed but I found it a bit ouchy inside after a c-section which I didn't expect! I think DH was a bit nervous too ha ha. I shouldn't say this but it bothered me as well as Amelia was asleep in her bassinette in the room which I think is wrong, I told DH next time we'll have to put her somewhere else and to never tell her we did it in the same room LOL....DH reminded me we did it while she was inside me and I said oh yeah but when she's out and breathing air it is even worse! I bet he tells her when she's older
So, hows everyone else going today, getting any sleep?
Shayna - Eden wakes after 20 minutes too - most babies have a 40 minute sleep cycle, she has 20 mins. I have the baby monitor set to the high setting, so I can hear when she starts stirring - run in there and pat her back to sleep. I might have to do it 3 times over the course of an hour, but at least then she doesn't get overtired - which then leads to her not going down so easy the next time round.
Alison - pmsl @ your nappy dilemma!! I can't wait to get the kids back into cloth - these disposables are freakin expensive!! I've been in cloth so long I've forgotten what they cost! Oh and haven't DTD here yet - even though Eden is quite good of a night time (ie, she slept from 5pm to 7.30, then back down at 9pm, up at 3.20, down at 4.00am - up at 7.30) so we have the time to do it, but since we are moving, we don't get to bed till aound 11ish! But I'm a bit hesitant... and yes it does hurt after a section - well it did for me too...lol
Kymmy - soooo did you get knocked up? lol
Natty - BB meet ups are great. I went to a few when I lived in Qld and been to one Tassie one so far too Oh - and I don't think there will be a 4th - I think we are done now.
Hi to everyone else.. typing with one hand here whilst feeding - and DH is trying to pack up the stereo system with DS asking endless questions about what he is doing ("but its our stereo daddy... yes aricyn thats why we are packing it up to go to our new place..")
Better go change a few bottoms I suppose - oh - and get dressed...lol
Alison - Dont you love how 'tired' they are after really doing nothing all night?? God they are precious these men...god the other day I had a huge fever going on with the mastitis and felt like crap and I was still out in the backyard at 10pm hanging out a massive load of washing...women just get on with it and men whinge!
We have DTD about 4 times since I stopped bleeding after about 4 weeks and I just cant get into it at all....either I'm waiting and listening for Abbey to wake up as she's in our room too, or just too tired and have no energy to enjoy it. There is no way I can O at the moment as I'm just not all there at the moment with everything going on...I hope that is normal and I get back in the groove cause I usually O every time and it's disappointing (sorry if TMI) and I think DH feels like he's a failure, but it's really not his fault...I think women have to be all there emotionally and physically unlike men who could probably do it anywhere, anytime! I didnt have any pain any of the times but it's not like we were thrashing around the place either so no problems that way....
Abbey had an OK night last night, up a couple of times...it all becomes a blur so I cant remember times etc but I dont remember it being hideous so that was OK. So hot here today so have already taken DS to dad's for a swim this morning then go back up this afternoon after his sleep....
Going to watch some quality trash TV for a bit now while I can - will ignore the washing up, ironing and tidying that really needs my attention!
hey all i had anight out last night,went to my dad and step mums for the night saw there new doggie maltese x ****zu...pav the wonderdog lol there dockers ppl....jose the nong he is stayed up til 3ish cos he doesnt wake up when she cries and didnt want to do that to her during the night but mally woke him at 5:30 sayng shes been crying lol...its funny cos everytime i go out after a couple hours i just want to come back home so im in the same house as my family....serenity is still comfortably in the newborn nappies i think weve only had one poosplosion where it just went up her back slightly we more have the pukey problems......she got into the routine of going to bed around 7:30 and sleeping anywhere from 5-8 hours but then after that its back to like 3 hours
Hi Shayna - don't worry, I should've mentioned in my previous post that I didn't really feel like DTD to be honest but poor DH was getting a bit ancy, he kept asking me like a little pubescent boy ha ha. I didn't dislike it but I was too busy thinking, ouch ouch ouch and OMG Amelia's in the room I hope she doesn't remember ha ha! Also, I still haven't started taking the pill yet so we used condoms and I find they take away the sensation a lot. Sorry TMI!
Forgot to mention earlier, I had a bit of a meltdown last night, not sure where it came from as have been feeling quite happy. I had a nice long hot shower and when getting dressed looked up in the mirror and just went yuk! I came downstairs and burst into tears, DH was like what's wrong! I just suddenly felt disgusted in my body and that I look so fat and horrible - I have 7 kgs to lose and I still have this gut that makes me look 4 months pregnant only wobbly, my thighs are horrible and I hate my arms, then I went on to cry about the ability or lack thereof to breastfeed Amelia and how I'm such a failure having to have a c-section and now I can't give her enough milk so have to give her formula bla bla bla. He just turned around and said, I think you're being too hard on yourself Alison, you've just had a baby. Then I was like, but that was 7 weeks ago, how come other people at mothers group look thin! Basically he couldn't win, I just had to let it out and then I felt better. I just want my body back I kept saying.......I still feel that way this morning. Mind you, I did manage to express 50 ml this morning which is really good for me. Fingers crossed the fenugreek is working, in the meantime it's a BF/FF mix for Amelia!
Hi Mon - Amelia was doing between 5/6 hour nights too a week ago and now she's back to 3 or 4, grrrrrrr. Sux huh! Sounds like you had a nice evening, good on you. I reckon I'd be wanting to come home too though, my sisters have both offered to have Amelia overnight but I don't want to just yet. As much as the sleep sounds great I'd miss her too much and end up thinking about her all night anyway!
God I rambled again, sorry girls. It's bloomin hot outside, meant to be 41 today, was 27 at midnight and 35 at 10.00 am this morning. I'm staying in the aircon until DH gets back from fishing and then we're going to my sister's house for a swim later.
I have missed so much! I remember the new thread being started but because I didnt subscribe I thought no-one had posted....I have just finished reading through 2 pages lol! Now I cant remember what everyone has written so I will just do a selfish post!
Ruby has still been waking every 3 hours overnight and about 4 hrs during the day. I am pretty tired but my mood has been ok - I think DH still loves me at the moment lol! We havnt DTD yet cause I just cant be bothered but poor DH is getting toey, oh well not my problem haha. It would be nice though if I could walk past him without him trying to grab my bum or my boobs grrrrrr. He gave me the best massage last night, I think he was hopeful, but I went to sleep hehehe!
I went and got my eyebrows waxed yesterday at the Day Spa at the top of my road, I feel human again! It is the same place I went to get my pregnancy massage from. I grabbed a pricelist and have put in my order with DH for Mothers Day - Indian Head Massage, 1.5 hr full body massage and Ultimate Foot Indulgance ahhhhh I can feel it now!
Alison- just read your last post and wanted to comment. Maybe Amelia is getting enough milk from you when she breastfeeds. Some people just cant express properly or the expresser you are using isnt right for you. I had a cheap expresser and I could only get really small amounts out of but then I got a medela brand one and I could express a 120ml bottle in one session!!
Hi Ubba - lovely to hear from you, your post cracked me up LOL - I only DTD for the same reason, toey DH and thought I'd better before he went elsewhere LOL (just kidding). Ruby and Amelia have the same sleeping pattern by the sound!
Re the expressor, I have the Medela Swing, cost me nearly $300!!!! I definitely think I struggle to fill Amelia up as she cries her heart out and continues searching so I have to give her a bottle and then she's happy. The first feed of the morning I seem to have enough and probably another day feed but come the late arvo and into the evening not so much. I'll persevere, I want to keep BF'ing as long as I can.
Don't worry Arimeh, this won't be long - I never have much to say!
We put the cot up yesterday & he's having his first sleep in it now. See if he sleeps better in his room rather than in the bassinette out in the lounge room with the Duke screaming and banging.
We went to the Target baby sale yesterday - I was so tempted to buy stuff but mostly restrained myself - I bought a drink boittle (for 4 months time) and a tray for DS1's car seat & got a free sample of a Nuby Infafeeder which is just weird, but I might just buy a teat and use it when I (eventually) leave Mr I over a feed time.
Arimeh - it seems bizarre to me that I'm using cloth full time & you're not seeing I bought half my stash from you, but completely understand not using cloth while moving, we did the same. L was the same as A with moving "don't pack X!" We explained that we weren't throwing out stuff (which wasn't true we took heaps to the dump) we'd open the boxes at the new house, but he didn't get it until moving day when he got really unpset until my Mum sat him down & told him again that everything was going to the new house & then he asked "are we taking the roof?"
JD's Mum: Try not to compare to you step-nephew 'cause they're all different (and you really only know what your step sister tells you.) I doubt you don't have enough milk if you resort to feeding to settle 'cause isn't that supposed to increase supply. You might find if you write down times over a few days she has set her own routine - I did with DS1 & probably would this time if I could be bothered. I feed to settle most of the time 'cause I'm too lazy (see prevoius comment) to try other things when I know he'll sleep this way.
Alison: Don't worry about the DTD with Amelia in the room - she's asleep & she won't remember & if you are both awake and in the mood at the same time you should take the opportunity! But if it worries you and she stays asleep, just roll the basinette out of the room (or find another room in the house :
Kymmy: Your poor DD, that's so sad. There's 10 years between DH & his sister (DH is older) and they get on great now, I think he teased her a bit when she was a toddler (holding toys above her so she couldn't reach etc) but I think that's just a older brother thing & it sounds like having the girl older would be better for this.
I got a call from my GP on friday, appantly when my Ob did my Pap smear at my 6 week check they didn't get enough cells so I've got to have another one. Thing is last time (different Ob & GP) same thing happened! Grrrr.
I'm such a control freak and I cant control this...I just want her sleeeeeeep for a decent amount of time puhlease...maybe I dont have enough milk or something and that's why she's waking up? I dont want her to vomit though if I top her up with formula and that's not really the problem (she's done this to me before...)
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Oh - and I don't think there will be a 4th - I think we are done now.
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