raffy -I mentioned to mum that I'm absolutely stuffed and would just like one night off to sleep and she offered to have him Tuesday night (her day off is wed). So that will be good.

vix -yeah I did mention it. was going to be putting him in for Mondays but J doesn't want him going to day care at all. because he is there and willing to take him. so if I put him in (was meant to be starting today) the court might say 'but if he's in childcare, why can't he spend more time with his father' and also I told him about it and said I wouldn't be putting him in. Because we have 18 years to deal with each other, and I don't want to start lying to him now. I need him to be able to trust me.
It WAS going to be a break day, and availability for when I go back to work. Not sure what the heck I"m doing about work because J doesn't even want me leaving V with my mum or whatever. But she has offered.

He would rather have him an hour away from me for the whole day. Than have him 10 minutes down the road with my mum. Either that or I work in his town and he CAN mind him. But then I have to find accommodation because I work shift and wouldn't want to drive to and from home at either 6am or midnight.

And I've lived between homes before while I was pregnant and it wasn't fun. It would be even worse with a baby. The most reasonable option for everyone would be for me to move back over there. But I'd have to sell my house, or rent it out. Both of which I've been considering but am not sure about.