Pooley what happened to you is what my main fear was with getting an epi. Big hugs to you, and I'm glad things are going better now. How did you cope with the MW putting in the catheter? I lost all dignity with that procedure, especially as I had a student MW doing the procedure. It really is awful when you have a MW ask loudly in the room, "does someone have a torch? I'm having trouble seeing...." Then the OB walks in and says... "well while your in that position... I will do an internal."
Sanchez I'm so over the bleeding too! As I'm expressing milk, I find that about an hour after expressing it makes it ramp up with fresh new blood. So you just get into the frame of mind that things are finally settling down and getting light, then BAM... Massive bleed. I checked with the MW and she said that is it common and normal, as long as it slows down again.
As for the boobies with rocks comment. You may have a blocked duct? I find massaging the lumps when expressing helps get rid of them... Perhaps when your feeding you can try and see if that helps?
AFU - We had a weigh check with the hospital today and Ava has put on 180g in 3 days! Thats a whole weeks worth of weight. So we have discussed demand feeding at night and 3 hourly feeding during the day, so hopefully we might get a better nights sleep tonight! I was finding waking her up for a 3 hr feed, she wasn't settling back down... especially during her 1:30 - 2am feed and she was usually awake till her next feed.
We sometimes bring her to bed with us, but are trying to limit that as much as possible. I love having her in our bed if it gets us more sleep, but think in the long run, teaching her to love her own bed is better, as I like cuddle time with hubby and I don't get that if she is between us.
My CS scar seems to be healing well, and I'm slowing down on the pain killers. Its hard not to do a few naughty things at home like lifting and reaching etc when your trying to keep the place clean. I hate asking hubby to do it all the time. And my mum and dad have been a great help, but there is only so many times you can ask for help without feeling a little useless and guilty... or is that just me?
Hubby's parents are due to arrive tonight/tomorrow... so it will be interesting having a full house. May be having a whinge on here soon to you gals... if things don't go as planned... (hey, its the in-laws. Its a given isn't it?)
Sending sleep vibes to you all. I'm sure most of us are wanting more!!
Pooley, good to see you. Amelia was too big for the 0000 wondersuits too, but it didn't matter because they aren't warm enough for here anyway.
Sanchez, yip, we really do live in the shadow of Mt Doom - Mt Ngauruhoe is about 1/2 hour away and was used in the movies. It is a bit of a pita that we live so far from shops, by the time we make a trip down there is usually a massive shopping list!
Kosi, I feel guilty asking DH to do things for me, then he gets in a poop because I haven't lol. Best of luck with the IL's
Who was it that had the demanding SIL over right around the due date? How did that go?
Getting mixed up from the other thread, but someone asked about rock boobs? I think they have usually settled down by the 6 week growth spurt or sooner. I didn't even have hard boobs this time, maybe because I only stopped BF 5 months ago?
DS seems to be over the worst of his issues, today he was back to his normal self and it was so nice to spend time with him again rather than battling though the day.
Amelia is doing well. She seems to fit in nicely, very settled. She does like to be held (all the time!), but I can put her in the sling during the day and still get a bit of stuff done. The test will be tomorrow when DH goes back to work and I have to manage both of them on my own.
I must be getting the hang of motherhood as I've managed to find the time to post in here again! LOL.
Izzy had a really good day yesterday and today. She has been demand feeding during both days (about every 3 hours) so I haven't had to wake her which is a step in the right direction. She had a couple of hours of awake time last night (just in DH's arms staring at him - so cute!) but then fed at 8.30 and slept until 12.30 so that was great. She fed again at 4 then again at 7 then we slept in until 10! She has been brilliant again today so hopefully we'll have a similar night tonight, I could handle that!
DH is back to work tomorrow so a little nervous and worried about how I'll cope by myself but I guess all new mums do it and survive so I'm sure I'll be the same. I'm sure the day will fly by anyway - I have no idea where the time goes now that we have a baby in our lives.
Sanchez - are you draining a boob at each feed? My boobs haven't been engorged since my milk came in and have been pretty soft and back to normal since I've been home. I have had a couple of tender spots which I just apply pressure too while she feeds and it sorts them out (must be slightly blocked ducts). I also feed Izzy on one boob per feed. If she's finished on one side but still wanting more, I offer her the other side but find she'll only do 10 mins max before nodding off. I start on that boob for the next feed as I know it's not drained after only 10 mins. Hope that helps.
Oh, also on the sore nipples. Mine still hurt a bit when Izzy attaches but then it's fine. I think it's meant to settle down a bit within the first month. Ouchies though, hey!
Art - glad DS has returned to his old self. I need to practice using our sling as I tried it for the first time at the shops the other day and stuffed it right up. Izzy was in tears and I wasn't far off it too! We have a Bubba Moe sling which is brilliant when the parents know how to work it! I'm sure we'll all love it as soon as we get the hang of it.
Kosi - great news on Ava's weight gain! Izzy is getting weighed on Tuesday so I can't wait to see if she has gained any - fingers crossed. Oh, and good luck with the ILs! Feel free to vent in here if need be. I'm sure I will be when ours visit in November. MIL means well but is so overbearing at times.
Pooley - thanks for sharing your story and big hugs to you! I would have been distraught if I was you too! You did a stella job and so did your DH by the sounds of things. Can you post the link to your FB photos again? The last link didn't work for some reason. You may need to make the photos available to 'Everyone' - in the privacy settings of the album.
Nicola - had to laugh at your last post - Groundhog Day. Hearing you loud and clear!!! Although I did manage another walk today so that has made me feel a little more sane. I'm also nibbling on cheese and pate at the moment and sipping on a red wine. Yay!
Sangie, Janine and Leanne - hi girls! Thanks for sharing and please share some more - any tips, stories, teary and happy moments!!
Little Isobel is sound asleep so it's time for a bit of adult time with DH. All we seem to talk about is our DD though.
Disaster night. I'm exhausted and so emtional. Izzy has been unsettled since 130. It's now 530 and im attempting to feed her again. Praying she nods off after this feed. Nothing is more upsetting than having no idea what is wrong and no idea how to fix it. I'm a wreck
Taurean Sometimes it is nothing you can fix - this morning A was cranky and kept waking every 5 minutes with a big cry, turns out she had a massive poo on the way lol- now she has been in bed for over an hour. Does she have wind? Have you tried lying her down with nappy off and rotating her legs like cycling? If you push the legs reasonably firmly into her tummy on the up rotation it can help get out farts. Someone also mentioned Infants Friend, that works quite well for some bubs to help get the burps out. Hope she settles for you soon.
Don't be so hard on yourself. We are all still learning. I hate not knowing why Frazer is unsettled but we'll all get the hang of it in the end. Probably doesn't help that you're most likely worried how you'll cope with DH back at work. DH spent Saturday/ Sunday night away from home and didn't get home till 3 this morning. I wont say you'll be fine, but you will cope as you have already shown that you can.
Fingers crossed that you can get some sleep sometime today.
Taurean - It sux when nothing seems to work. You may need to try out different settling techniques and find one that works for you. Are you swaddle wrapping??? I find a tight wrap with both arms inside and then picking up bub and holding them in tight and doing a light rythmic pat on the bum (apparently this simulates the heartbeat in utero) can work, also rocking and rubbing the back. There is nothing wrong with rocking bub to sleep...as they get bigger and heavier it can be a problem..but I read somewhere when someone once complained about having to rock their baby to sleep, They are only little once and when they are big you will look back on your baby days and realise how quickly they went even if they did go by in a hazy fog!!!
Most babies (well all of mine anyway)seem to be the most settled when they are in your arms and being cuddled and then as soon as you put them down they start crying etc so its about finding a way to put them down and keeping them there without crying
N.B - Im using the grobag swaddle this time around - as opposed to muslin and Im finding it great as its harder to get out of.
Taurean - big hugs for you hun! I know exactly how you feel!! Saturday night was my first night by myself and what a shocker it was... E was screaming from about 2pm til 2.30am, only stopping to feed. She slept for an hour and a half and was up again at 4 yesterday morning and carried on all morning. I was in tears most of this time, feeling useless as a mum and stressed out not knowing what was wrong. I rang DF at work a couple of times and cursed him for working away from home and of course made him feel like absolute crap too About 4pm yesterday I could take it no more and went to mums house for dinner so I could have a couple of hours sleep whilst someone else cuddled her shaking, screaming little body. Well would you believe in the car she did this MASSIVE poo, i'm talking world record breaking poo, it was right through her nappy, clothes and into every nook and cranny in her car seat... and she has been sleeping since, only waking to feed twice.
Nicola - The only way I gan get E to sleep sometimes is by putting DFs used shirt on and letting her fall to sleep on me before moving her to her bassinette which also has one of DFs shirt wrapped around it like a sheet... She can smell the milk on me and just cant settle when lying on me sometimes, she just bobs around looking for the boob even if she's just fed. I think DF is secretly flattered this is what works best lol.
hi everyone thought i should post! my boy came 2 weeks early on sep 1st via emergency c section due to failed 30 hour drug free induction, posterior position and cord around his neck! it was not the birth experience i was looking foward to but he might not have made it had it not turned out this way so im very thankful. He is quite a good bub sleeps 3 hours at a time sometimes 4, is bottle fed, mostly formula due to losing half a kilo in his first 3 days of life, low bsl's and i had no milk til day 6 coz ceaser can sometimes stuff it up.Im feeling like ive let him down but i didnt want him back in hospital and that is what was going to happen if he kept losing weight. He was a wopping 57cm long! and has huge feet and hands! i had a few tears for the first few days but im ok now he is asleep next to me as we speak! he is a guzzler, he has 150 ml bottles about 4 or 5 times a day and 4 at night! also has expressed milk about 50 mls if im lucky! i allready cant wait to try for another!
Sometimes it is nothing you can fix - this morning A was cranky and kept waking every 5 minutes with a big cry, turns out she had a massive poo on the way lol- now she has been in bed for over an hour. Does she have wind? Have you tried lying her down with nappy off and rotating her legs like cycling? If you push the legs reasonably firmly into her tummy on the up rotation it can help get out farts. Someone also mentioned Infants Friend, that works quite well for some bubs to help get the burps out. Hope she settles for you soon.
About 4pm yesterday I could take it no more and went to mums house for dinner so I could have a couple of hours sleep whilst someone else cuddled her shaking, screaming little body. Well would you believe in the car she did this MASSIVE poo, i'm talking world record breaking poo, it was right through her nappy, clothes and into every nook and cranny in her car seat... and she has been sleeping since, only waking to feed twice. 
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