Taurean, A does the up until midnight thing every week or two. Drives me mental. If she happens to wake fully after she has gone to sleep then she just considers it a nap and is up for another 3-4 hours. PAINFUL!!!

We aren't doing a party for the kids this year. We were going to but then thought that for the cost of it vs enjoyment we were better off flying DH's parents up for a visit. DS isn't an overly social child so probably wouldn't get much out of a party and A is still young so we thought they would get more out of seeing their grandparents for a week (plus FIL is a builder and we have lots of odd jobs....bonus!)

I have been meaning to say, have you tried taking Vitex (chaste tree berry)? It helps regulate the progesterone/prolactin balance and might bring back AF (and your MIA libido with it).

Also, it is not a cop out to buy a cake, nor is it to buy a pre-made sponge and decorate it (and pass it off as your own lol)