Shell.. Thank you for asking. FIL told us he wanted his ashes scattered in the Yarramundi River (part of the Hawkesbury River where we live) so everyone cold drink him lol. So thats what we are going to do. It will just be family.. MIL, Grahame and I. Grahame wants to keep some with us though somewhere. Whether we plant a tree and put them with the tree or a girlfriend suggested in the back of a nice photo frame with a picture of him. He just wants to have him still physically somewhere he can visit iykwim. My wonderufl girlfriend minded Jesse and Keira during the funeral. We just didnt think it was a place for them to be. It was very very sad. Grahames told him he is in heaven also with the angels. He kinda didnt understand it but when i said he was in the sky, he did. When Michael Jackson died, i didnt even mension to him that that had happened and then one day when we were driving he said to me, Michael Jackson, i said where, he said in the sky, i said whats he doing, he said hes dancing. So when i told him grandpa is now in the sky, he just got it. He was very scared of FIL towards the end. He didnt look the same person and the oxygen mask scared him. Sadly Jesse wouldnt go near him. Im actually now wondering if the reason he is scared of doctors is because of what happened to FIL. DH has an in grown finger nail and we were saying last night he'll have to go to the doctor for it because its really bad. Well Jesse said no no he cant, no mask. So thats kinda made me think hmmm! I wonder. Jesse really has something special about him, he knows things, before they happen and things we havent even told him. He's scared of hospitals, my grandma's hostel, anywhere where people may have been who were old or sick ... weather people believe in that or not.. i do. I just hope one day he can see the good in it. Does Ash ever ask about him anymore?