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Jun 2004
The Festival State
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i have been trying bilby on cow's milk and also an organic formula, she refuses to drink any milk except breastmilk. I am not sure i can keep to my original plan, of letting her self wean, i am wishing she would wean sooner rather than later. I feel like i might need to disappear for a week, for her to wean. (which is never going to happen, no way can i go anywhere for a week).
Gigi, i missed Chino's self-weaning window cos of his allergies and he didnt want to know about anything other than breastmilk but i was just exhausted from the feeding, and it wasnt any good for him so i kinda had to be, to sound corny, "cruel to be kind". i did try and do it as gentle as i could by slowly decreasing the amount of time i fed for, but then i went cold turkey at the end. it meant that he was grizzly for a day or so but then realised that he wasnt getting any from me and now is drinking as much milk as evie and eating a proper breakfast.
It is hard, and i think Nicola said that its harder on us than it is on them.
Im not saying you should wean if you don't want to or whatever, just letting you know that its ok if you feel you need to start initiating the weaning before she does. and it might help her eating and sleeping...
on a side note, did the speechy say anything about bilby's speech and breastfeeding? just wondering - always a controversial topic
BellyBelly Life Member - Love all your MCN friends
Jun 2004
The Festival State
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Taralee - bilby has never shown a "self weaning" window, she has loved boobymilk the whole time, and shows no signs of stopping now. She can go without, for the period of being at childcare, but that's her limit it seems.
Neither of the speechies have mentioned anything about bf-ing. I know of quite a few people breastfeeding similar aged children, who are great at talking and eating solids, so it never occurred to me, that they might be a causation.
But unlike those other children, she has never gotten messy and played with food, from a tiny bub. I tried infant led solids with her, and she didn't take to that either.
i suspect bilby's sleeping patterns might be affected by her empty stomach, i think if she ate her dinner better (more of it), she would sleep better. All i got her to eat tonight was one tube of Rafferty's Garden (with tiny amount of farex stirred into it, as recommended by speech therapist). I got her to sniff and lick the spoon of the tuna mornay, but no amount of bubbles would get her to kiss the mornay, let alone take a small bite. no cigar tonight.
So of course, she was up and down like a yo yo after going to bed "mummy daddy, more eat". Got hysterical as her father was late home tonight. She clearly was worried he was never coming home again.
I went to the birthing rally in my city today, will be keen to find out how the main one in Canberra went.
We are good had Jake back in hospital the weekend before last simlar thing to Jan so that has been fun. Worst bit was leaving him in that night (with Darren) bcos I couldn't stay in w Sophia - tore me in two..
HEY!!! Our babies turn 3 soon! What is everyone doing???
We are in the process of organising our move from Townsville back to Brisbane next friday. We wont have to drive with the kids they are flying back with the grandmas so its just me and DH.
Indigo is still tiny at 1mnth and 1 day she was 3.59kg or nearly 8lb. So we will be back for Zanders 3rd bday and Wyatts 2nd...prob not doing much though just a quiet thing with the family
BellyBelly Life Member - Love all your MCN friends
Jun 2004
The Festival State
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wow, we are very quiet these days, and our numbers sure are shrinking.
turning three in mid nov? my aim is to have a positive day for bilby.
i am so scared about money, thinking about her gift and a party seem pretty impossible right now, and we still have never had any professional photos taken of her, (even though i paid for some last year, never got them back, person won't answer my calls). so i will try hard to counter my anxiety about all this, so she still has a good day. her birthday falls on a childcare day, *Monday*. My auntie volunteered her home for a party venue, but i am too embarrassed to tell her i can't afford to do the party stuff. i thought of a "playdate in the park with birthday cake" on the Sunday, but all three toddlers i want to invite, their mums have given birth to #2 bubs who are tiny now, and it's often heatwave conditions in mid nov here, just makes me anxious to think about it.
bilby's speech is improving, she's attempting to mimic some words others say, which is a first for her. ANd i got her to eat two pieces of pizza (that she helped make). She alternates between being very cute and loud nagging/tantrums. Sometimes i think i love her so much, i think my heart will burst.
i am so proud of her new words. the other day she was saying over and over "i'm not daddy, i'm the bubble". (pointing at herself). all her life, her daddy has said to her, "you're the bubble" (another nickname).
my personal gameplan was to have another baby when she was three, and that obviously can't happen now, so i need to come to terms with that (and stop looking at nb stuff, dreaming).
dh and i are still in the same place, we're really co-parenting under the same roof, like two flatmates who happen to be the parents.
*Hugs* Gigi, money's always an issue isnt it...sometimes i wonder if millionaires still have the same worries we do just on a grander scale....
I dont think that at 3 theyre really at an age to worry too much about parties, they dont know when its supposed to be or anything, so i think just do what you want to. you could just have a picnic in the loungeroom! she'd find that special, im sure! definately dont go into debt over it, and dont stress yourself about it!
i saw your post on facebook about the muffins! well done!!! make her a muffin with a candle in it for her birthday!
oh and big claps for Bilby's speech coming along!! and i hope your heart doesnt burst but that is just so lovely
what is your plan with dh? what does he think of the situation?
nothing new here, chino's walking finally! haha and he is finally sleeping for more than 2hours at a time...its been a looooooooooong 6 months!
evies just like a regular little girl lol very clued on...the other day i was trying to put a hook on the kitchen gate to hold it open and i couldnt get it to stay and she took it off me and did it and looked at me like 'uhhh is that what you wanted' hahahaha ohhhh dear, obviously got dh's brains! lol
she'll also say 'whatever' - "evie, just wait to put your day clothes on until youve had breakfast' 'ok mum..whatever' not expecting that for another 10 years ahahahahha
finally seeing a bit of a light at the end of the tunnel and im looking at going back to work next year...very very daunting for me, but taking it one day at a time *sigh* they'll be ok! repeat!
Gigi I know what you mean about money stresses - we are using the rule friends per age. So Jake is 3 this year so he can have 3 friends to a little party for him. All I am doing is some cut up fruit and vege sticks and making some fairy bread. There will be no party bags bcos really they are only 3, but I am thinking maybe a cupcake and a balloon to take home. As for games, well the sandpit does a great job if we do it here, otherwise will just go to a local park and they can amuse themsleves and we can do singing and dancing.
And great job on the muffins! Now you can start to be sneaky and hide food inthem!
We had another trip to the hospital with more vomiting and dehydration, off to his paed on Thurs to get some answers.
So here is my month in a nutshell ... from another post ...
Hi was just wondering if anyone in the community has a child with a diagnosed gastric ulcer? If so what was the treatment and (potential) outcome? DS (turns 3 in Nov) is being treated as if he had one based on symptoms he has been experiencing over the past year, but more so the past 6wks.
I am going to outline his history but bear with me am typing as it comes out of my brain.
DS had silent reflux as a baby and was medicated until almost 2.We have had several issues with his sleeping over the past year or so but was never able to put it down to anything in particular, and everything we tried worked for a while but always regressed. In January he was hopsitalised after a severe bout of vomiting (3 days) with Acute Metabolic Acidosis. After a week in hospital and interminable tests there could be nothing metabolically underlying found as a cause.
6 weeks ago he had a really bad vomiting bout, but it was very brief. Huge vomits over a couple of hours and then all over. We managed with hydrolyte and he bounce back fine. There was no diarrhea and low grade fever.
Two weeks later he had another bad vomiting episode paired with black tarry stools, it was scary how quickly he crashed and was dehydrated. We spent the night in the Mater, he had been vomiting for about 6hrs until they gave him an anti-emetic, and he spent the night re-hydrating - there was concern based on his acidotic history. No diarrhea and low grade fever.
Two weeks later (this weekend just gone) he had another violent vomiting episode. It started at 7am and continued for at least 30hrs. After 7hrs he started vomiting blood and was physically collapsing everytime he vomited. Took him to the Mater again. Based on his acidotic history we were nearing another serious systemic collapse. Sent home (tagged as an over-reacting mother but that is another story) and had to keep pushing hydrolyte in to him to maintain hydration. His urine was still dark and concentrated yesterday (at least 48 hrs after he stopped vomiting) and we were booked into paed today.
After the first episode I brushed it off as just a bug. The second, combined with the tarry poo which indicates usually blood in stools, started to set off alarm bells. The third set me over the edge.
Basically after seeing his paed today we are treating firstly that there may be the presence of a gastric ulcer. Back on Losec with follow-up to see if it is having any effect. Bloods and urine to be done if he has another episode of vomiting. Other issues to be investigated are food allergies (now keeping a food diary to see if anything may trigger the vomiting episodes) and Liver and other metabolic conditions.
Have had a roller coaster of emotions, Sophia obviously has picked up on them and has not been her usual placid self, plus there are teeth moving around and threatening to erupt. And of course when I got to the paed and sat down I burst into tears - so all 3 of us were crying at once! Fun fun fun!!
BellyBelly Life Member - Love all your MCN friends
Jun 2004
The Festival State
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OMG Nelly! how horrible and scary for your family - not to mention, coping with a nb at the same time - i cannot imagine how stressful this would be.
Cannot believe you would be accused of being an over reacting mum - my god, any mum would be worried out of her tree if their child showed these symptons.
Good on you for continuing to seek out help, despite obviously getting some patronising responses. Would be so frustrating to continually have to tell his medical history to a queue of medical professionals. No wonder you burst into tears, i don't blame you. It's a hugely stressful situation. I hope the paed was human enough to realise that and not hold your tears against you.
Wow, you have been thru hell with all this. So scary to see your child sick.
lots of love and healing vibes too
Taralee - do you or dh say "whatever"? kids can be like verbal mirrors (i am told) LOL. Evie sounds a real little character, very smart and cluey little poppet.
i have inducted bilby into the world of Skippy the Bush Kangaroo. she loves it and hops around the unit imitating Skippy. Last day at her old childcare yesterday, this coming week she will be three days at the new childcare (the one with six chickens, 1 guineapig and 1 rabbit and lots of outdoor, openended play experiences). and it's so close to where we live, only 2 mins by car.
Nelly, if i was where you are, i would give you the most enormous hug, i am so sorry to hear about all the health issues of poor Jake, what a nightmare for you all. Here's hoping that diagnosis of his issue will lead to massive improvements. All the best!
well ladies can you believe we almost have 3 yr olds !!!!
sophie is going great!!! off to 3 yr old kinder next year, she just gorgeous, so happy, loving, caring, helpful, curious and the imagination she blows me away wth the stuff she comes out with. sings all the time, we often wake to hear her singing throught the monitor. she loves millie heaps, i love seeing them interact together, its really lovely.
Hi Everyone..I have been MIA on this forum..been posting a bit on the Sept '09 babies but still not really having enough time for the computer.
Nelly - sorry you have had a tough time with Jake being unwell...I would be totally freaked out and losing it if it was me in the same position. I dont know anything about ulcers but I will ask mum (child health nurse) if she knows anything or has any info on the symptoms you have mentioned.
We have moved back to Brisbane from Townsville and living at my parents house till we sort out what is happening and where we are going to live..Im a bit stressed.
I just wanted to bid you farewell. I am leaving BB due to recent issues i have had. I wish all the new bubs, pregnant mamas and those TTC all the very best.
I'll only be popping on to congratulate the new mama's when their bundles arrive and if good friends fall pregnant.
Thank you for all the support i have been given over the past 3.5 years
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Have a wonderful day!!!
Kim
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