This is a very real issue i have with the older members in my family, especially my mother The denial of the validity of being upset if a child is demonstrating those emotions. It makes my blood ab...sol..utley BOIL! A "tantrum" or groundless fears etc are simply too inconvenient for them it seems. I know my mother especially takes it very personally if a child cries in her presence. Last time my youngest did it she snapped "Stop it!" at him like she does with her dog! Infact she speaks with more kindness to her dog. And this is a woman who is having meltdowns herself on a regular basis. I think she just doesn't like sharing the limelight. Grrrrr.