Sweetie its okay my DS is 7 months old and when 1 was 40+9 (just before he was born) I was 103kg *hides as she types this* That was from 74kg pre pg. And guess what Im now 105kg I had plenty of friends who had bubs and bam 2 weeks later were wearing their pre pg clothes but I just have to face that this is me. My goal is to slowly lose weight to get to my ideal (65kg) with NO time limits. Ive faced eating disorders before and have decided not to pressure myself. My family will still love me no matter what. I understand what you mean by male attention and TBH I stressed about that too at first but Id rather someone want to talk to me for my personality not by how I look.