I had a tear with DS number 3 and we tried to DTD at about 4 weeks I think it was but it hurt ...................... HIM! hahahahhaaha
Apparently I had some sharp stitches that were a bit uncomfortable for him the poor thing

Just take your time and if you feel ready then thats a big hurdle you have already overcome. And yes LUBE LUBE LUBE girlfriend it is your new BFF