How long after birth did you DTD if you had a tear?

[Feijoa Mum]

I had a tear with DS number 3 and we tried to DTD at about 4 weeks I think it was but it hurt ...................... HIM! hahahahhaaha
Apparently I had some sharp stitches that were a bit uncomfortable for him the poor thing

Just take your time and if you feel ready then thats a big hurdle you have already overcome. And yes LUBE LUBE LUBE girlfriend it is your new BFF

[MrsBexie]

For us it was 6 ish weeks... It hurt and I had to stay shallow, it only worked with me on top controlling the speed/depth etc (sorry if TMI!) and we are using condoms because I am not risking even the slightest chance of getting pregnant again yet! LOL...

I had 2nd degree tearing on my labia so it was pretty sore from friction but I enjoyed it near the end. Use a CRAP load of lube and if you are using condoms I found the BEST condoms that feel almost like nothing is on, none of that rubbery pulling feeling. They are the Ansell Skyn latex free ones! Black box, gold writing from Woolies.. I am SOOOO glad I found them cause the first 2 times with normal condoms felt uncomfy mainly cause of the rubber pulling on my scar!!

[*LittleMissSummer*]

I had a second degree tear and grazes and we did it 5 weeks post birth. My stitches and everything felt fine after 2 weeks but we wanted to wait just to be sure and i was frightened it would hurt or i would tear again. We took it slow and it was all good

Go with how you feel. If you feel ready then don't let anything stop you. I was told by my mum to do it before my 6 week check up so if there is something not right then you can bring it up.

[shan23]

I didnt tear but had an episiotomy, and it was 4 weeks until we DTD. I wanted to do it sooner but I wanted to make sure the scar had healed properly as one end was taking a little longer to heal completely. It was a little bit painful but after a few minutes fine. It's like that still now (we've DTD twice more) but the discomfort goes quicker. Certain positions are off limits though for the time being as it hurts a little too much. It doesnt hurt "in there", I think the scar is a little tender still.

I'd just go with how you feel. Take it slow to start with and if you need to stop, you need to. And yep stock up with lube for the first time. As well as helping dryness, I found it made things a lot easier as I pretty tense lol.

[Beautiful Disaster]

They are the Ansell Skyn latex free ones! Black box, gold writing from Woolies..

Hmm very handy to know since I have a latex allergy

[Sagres]

I was rather randomly talking about this with my GP the other day and she said at the 6 week check up many of her first time mums are like 'yeah whatever, don't think thats a huge concern now' when they have the contraception chat, but the second time mums are MUCH more likely to think it is relevant! So it is quite possible that you are more comfortable earlier second time around. Woo hoo for not hurting