How soon after?

[*LittleMissSummer*]

Did you have sex after having your first?

I'm sure it all depends whether or not you had tearing. So i had second degree tearing and some grazes.

[meow]

7 months. I had a 2nd degree tear and was BFing. We did sort of try a couple of times but it hurt and I was nervous.

[miss.cinders]

About 13 weeks.
My PP bleeding with #1 lasted 12 weeks though.
I think if it hadn't it would have been sooner

[Trillian]

3 weeks and I had an epi for my first bub. We had a go because I had read that it was best to at least try to have sex before your 6wk check up JIC something wasn't right you could bring it up then instead of waiting, having a problem and then trying to find the time to make another Dr's appointment.

[Little Chicken]

It was a few months here to cause I was nervous and still tender. I had a second degree tear as well. You'll know when you are ready to go again.

[Junglemum]

5 weeks and 6 days for same reason as Trill! And then Not for a loooong time. I can't seem to be interested while BF'ing overnight, i am convinced it is a hormone thing!

[ss_storm]

Think it was about 5 weeks, only cause DF couldn't hold off any longer it did hurt like the blazers though, and did so for quite a while after. Use lots and lots of lubricant! It was a weird feeling though, it hurt but inside it felt really numb..probably TMI you didn't need to hear! Lol
I had an epi and quite a few stitches so I didn't really want to do anything until the stitches had dissolved.

[*LittleMissSummer*]

Thanks ladies. I'm asking because its our 6 year anniversary at the end of August. We were seperated for our 5 year so we didn't get to celebrate it very well so this year i wanted it to be really special. DP thinks it may be too early but honestly i feel fine. I'm not sure if my stitches have dissolved yet, they don't hurt and DP won't check them for me and i cant see down there.

I also want to before my 6 week check up so i can bring up any issues if there are any.

[Jennie13]

I still havent and DD is 6 1/2 months. Totally not interested and nervous i guess. I didnt tear but i dont look to good after bub super strech marks

[appletree]

We tried at 8 and 12 weeks, and i really wish we hadn't... Ouch! DH is eager to try again soon, but i am going to give it at least another few weeks. I should have taken pictures of my stitches to remind him, as he seems to have forgotten how bad it was! I had 2nd degree tears going up towards my urethra, rather than down through my perineum, as well as some labial grazes. I couldn't even sit down on the toilet to pee until 6 weeks so i don't know what i was thinking at 8 weeks!

[deletedit]

Best part of a year. But then I was single after I was about a week pregnant (booted the man out in rather 'interesting' circumstances before I knew I was pregnant), so I had to actually meet someone worth sleeping with first.

For a long time there I could say "last time I had sex I got pregnant" .... ugh.

Going to be a while with this one too - I'm sure all the bits are functioning, but we're in a small house, baby is in OUR bedroom, and we have a toddler that doesn't sleep well roaming the house that doesn't like it when mummy goes behind closed doors.

[kelebek]

DS was 4 mnths before we DTD after he was born

[Calluna]

6 months and I only had a slight graze! gotta feel bad for DF though. Lol
that was cause I was scared though and totally disinterested.

[OceanPrincess]

I think with DD we waited about 8wks... And then we took it really really slowly...

This time, we will prob wait about the same - I hadn't thought about trying to see if there were any problems before my 6wk check!

[Jewel]

I could feel my stitches with my finger( Yep, TMI) so that's how I knew mine were dissolved.
Waited a couple months with both.

[Tinks]

I think it was about 4 or 5 weeks after my 1st. Once I stopped bleeding we went for it.

[Mum2SweetCs]

At least a year (yup poor DH). I had 4th degree tearing and was in NOOOOOOO MOOD to be DTD, but i think it was more physiological for me too thinking that it will hurt really badly.

Luckily, it sounds like you have already recovered =)

Goodluck and have fun!

[~me~]

After I got the all clear from my 6wk Post Natal check.
It was slow and steady and back into the swing of things with a month or so after that.
I also had an episotomy so it healed well.