How soon after?

[Jewel]

I could feel my stitches with my finger( Yep, TMI) so that's how I knew mine were dissolved.
Waited a couple months with both.

[Tinks]

I think it was about 4 or 5 weeks after my 1st. Once I stopped bleeding we went for it.

[Mum2SweetCs]

At least a year (yup poor DH). I had 4th degree tearing and was in NOOOOOOO MOOD to be DTD, but i think it was more physiological for me too thinking that it will hurt really badly.

Luckily, it sounds like you have already recovered =)

Goodluck and have fun!

[~me~]

After I got the all clear from my 6wk Post Natal check.
It was slow and steady and back into the swing of things with a month or so after that.
I also had an episotomy so it healed well.

[misty]

If you are feeling fine, there shouldn't be a problem, just take it slowly

[danniellabella]

It was about 15 weeks for me. I had a ventous delivery and had a very sore pelvic floor. I also bled for that long (combination of post partum bleeding and my body adjusting to the newly inserted implanon).

[~Hestia~]

I think it was about 3 months after. Was in no mood whatsoever & we were both too tired to even care!

[Asparagus and Lemons]

Well my doctor that put the stitches in said they dissolve within 2 weeks, and I've had a look down there with a mirror and they have dissolved (will be 4 weeks on tuesday) I also had a bad tear 1cm off my anus, and one graze.
At 2 weeks I had a dildo cam used on me which was VERY painful, so I wouldn't say I could do it at 2 weeks, but I think it would be okay to do it now, it looks a bit tender still down there but i can pretty much see my uterus without having to open my legs too much So Im sure I wouldnt feel much anymore.

Congratulations by the way!! I missed your birth announcement.. So happy for you!!

[onthefly]

Whatever feels right to you. Take it slow, relax and tell your partner if you're uncomfortable.

[skybie]

4 weeks for both
number 1 no tearing or grazes
number 2 second degree tear

[Jaycee]

Two months, and unfortunately for me it took 12 months before it was at least semi-comfortable for me. So hoping next time around won't be so bad!

[nellnell]

6 months after 1st (I had 2nd degree tearing and grazes) - I was really nervous and DTD hurt for about a year. I had lots of scar tissue that just tore each time (sorry if TMI)

4 weeks after 2nd - didnt want to repeat what happened 1st time, so much better.

Only do it when you feel ready. Dont pressure yourself either.

[~StarBright~]

HI!

I am no help to you time wise, as i had a csection so no tearing (but for the record about two weeks)

BUT... i was thinking about this thread and your plans for your anniversary, and i reckon if your hoping to DTD that night- i would give it a go before hand to suss it out. That way there isnt the pressure on your special night, you have a bit of an idea if its do-able or if you just need to not DTD and have a nice romantic night without it. Just an idea!!

[Just Me]

I had a 2nd degree tear with my first and we waited 6 weeks (the stitches on the outside were gone within a week but at about 5 weeks I found there was some stitching rope and a knot when I wiped (though mine were dissolvable too) ... sorry TMI so I think the stitching went inside a bit and it was just as the stitches inside healed that last little bit came away so I would be careful. It was a bit of a scary experience the first time, but we were just very careful and it was fine.

With DS (my second pregnancy) I had no tearing at all and so we were fine after 6 days. Honestly, not tearing felt like I hadn't even given birth by the next day. It was a completely different experience to DD1.

[ss_storm]

With DS (my second pregnancy) I had no tearing at all and so we were fine after 6 days. Honestly, not tearing felt like I hadn't even given birth by the next day. It was a completely different experience to DD1.

*praying I survive the next birth..whenever that is..unscathed* I couldn't even walk properly for about a week after having DD, I was hobbling everywhere like an old man it hurt so much and if I walked too much it felt like my insides were going to fall out!

Even now DTD hurts at first if we don't do it regularly (every couple of days), must need to be kept stretched out or something...lol

[jesses_girl]

2 weeks after episiotomy.... hurt like sh*t. We stopped and tried again at 3 weeks, All good :-) When your ready, your ready darl :-)

[deletedit]

With DS (my second pregnancy) I had no tearing at all and so we were fine after 6 days. Honestly, not tearing felt like I hadn't even given birth by the next day. It was a completely different experience to DD1.

I haven't torn with any of them but the whole hard-head-banging-on-the-inside-of-your-pelvis thing must cause internal brusing or something, for me that takes about a week and a half to stop hurting, same as any bruise.

[Mad Scientist]

We waited til 6 weeks for both. Mainly because of the bleeding. I had an episiotomy with DD1 and couldn't walk properly for weeks, so I'm in awe of you ladies who could DTD 3 weeks after! I had a 2nd degree tear with DD2 and the healing was so easy compared to the epi, so if I wasn't bleeding we probably could have done it earlier. If you feel like it, why not try? You can always stop if it hurts too much. I do suggest that you use a lot of lube though. It wasn't until about 6 months after birth before I could DTD without lube. All the hormones can make you quite dry down there. Congratulations on your anniversary xx