Intimacy after birth

[Jayney]

After #1 we waited 6 weeks and I agree it was painful. I had no tearing or anything of the sort but I had some pain for about 6 months following. Usually, the first few minutes were painful and then it was much better.
Dr said many of her patients complain of the same thing so it is normal but she also said she hadn't seen anyone complaining after a year.( I know a long time)

[Cricket]

Fear and/or tension will make the pain much worse. Try your best to relax, and go SLOWLY! Communicate carefully with your DH, so that he understands your fears and discomfort, and so that he knows you're not rejecting him, and that he's not doing everything wrong! Try different positions, plenty of lube, a little pain medication before, and I've heard many recommend a glass or two of wine (don't get carried away - not good for baby) just to help you relax.
By the way - look at how many people have more than one baby. It'll get better. Be sure to talk to your OB though if things don't seem to improve. He/she might be able to help.
All the best!