I could have written your post. Mine is also completely ruined - nothing like it was before. This came as a great shock to me as I had absolutely no idea it would be this bad. I felt sort of ripped off, as when I tentatively asked women I knew who had had babies (like my mum, best friend etc) if your vagina went back to normal, they said "Of course it does"! But AFTER i gave birth, they gave me variations on thier previous statements. It's like it's some sort of well kept secret, only discussed amongst women who have experienced it.

I personally haven't quite come to terms with it. I toy with the idea of attmepting to have it fixed at some point in the next few years. I don't care what it looks like so much, I just want it to be less of a problem and more functional.