Okay, fine, its about a vagina :)

[raffy]

after a 3rd degree tear i had the same problem and i thought they had stitched me up to much to lol but bubs was about 10 weeks and we used pretty much a whole bottle of lube and went EXTREMELY slow to start with and it took a few attempts for it to feel even remotely normal, and even now it hurts so so bad to begin with, buuut seen as ur bub is 4.5 months and ur still having trouble i would go and see a gp or ob JIC. couldnt hurt to ask huh?

[Trillian]

Are you still breastfeeding? If you are, that can sometimes interfere with the vagina's natural lubrication, so it may not be a case of being too tight, but that there isn't enough lubrication kwim? If you think you need help, go and see your Dr about it and see if there is a problem with it being stitched too tight.

[krystals]

Hi Trillian,
Yup, still BFing...I don't think lubrication is the problem though- I think you're right, should go see the doc
Thanks

[AndiE]

Krystals - my thoughts would be to go and see your gp or ob. Don't be embarrassed as I'd imagine many women with tears and stitches have encountered this problem after their VB.
With both my kids I had the same minor tear with minimal stitching - and yes, sex the first time after both kids was a little uncomfortable but I didn't have ongoing pain. It was a matter of taking it slowly and feeling comfortable at all times. I think most of us have felt a little anxious about sex the first time post-birth, let alone when it's physically as painful as what you've said. All the best, xx

[krystals]

I ended up with a 2 1/2 inch cut after a very difficult labour and eventual forceps delivery- the stitching goes right up into my bum cheek! LOL I thought it'd healed ok, but I think you're right... will get it checked out Thanks x

[dusty]

Same issue here. My Gynacologist said she will do a small procedure (I assume cut) in her rooms if I want it - I assume under a localised anaestetic. Doesn't sound terribly invasive and will probably help a lot with my confidence around DTD.

[krystals]

Good info Dusty, Thanks! Will check it out, like you, I would love to be more confident, I feel like a teenager, like it's my first time or something! I'm not used to feeling like this, and it's having an effect on my overall relationship confidence. Hubby is great though, it's all in my own mind *rolls eyes*

[angelaartsstudent]

I ended up with a 2 1/2 inch cut after a very difficult labour and eventual forceps delivery- the stitching goes right up into my bum cheek! LOL I thought it'd healed ok, but I think you're right... will get it checked out Thanks x

Yeah mine is very similar (and a similar delivery). Thick, painful scar tissue from literally vagina to bum. Know how you feel babe!

[SareBear]

You're not alone. I had my little boy 20 months ago, and I have just had surgery to correct it. I did try creams etc first but nothing worked. It would tear every time.

One of the doctors told me to have another baby and let it tear again! I asked him if he knew how babies are made, don't know what he was thinking. Anyway, I asked to see someone else and she said this was really my only option. From what I understand the scar tissue is usually what is causing the problem.

I hope you can get it sorted out soon, I know exactly what you're going through!