Sam thats exactly it.
Thanks for everyones replys. As long as i know its normal, and really, that area does go thru a reasonably tramatic time, so, its only to be expected that it takes a while to recover.
The re assurance is great. I might get some more voltarin. It was a chemist man that said try to go without, as he read it and said it 'wasnt recommended', didnt say "dont use it", but maybe just might help when things are extra bad.

I was scared of going back to the obs, and him doing an internal or something....couldnt bear the thought