i had the labial tares (i had a triangle of skin stiched back together ). if its hurting to pee try some Vaseline on it - it makes it 'water proof'. or maybe lasnoh and salt baths help as well.
also. do you have any old connies laying around? fill 'em with water and freeze - perfectly sized ice packs! just put them inside your pad (like rip a hole in the top towards the back and pop it in there) that'll help with the swelling. HTH